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Old 03-01-2019, 06:03 PM
 
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The title says it all? What does being vulnerable mean/ look like to you? Bonus question: How vulnerable are you (and why)?
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Old 03-01-2019, 07:20 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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The title says it all? What does being vulnerable mean/ look like to you? Bonus question: How vulnerable are you (and why)?
IMHO it means you are comfortable being yourself around people without fear of judgment.
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Old 03-01-2019, 09:39 PM
 
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IMHO it means you are comfortable being yourself around people without fear of judgment.
That is the OPPOSITE of vulnerability. If you are vulnerable, you are at risk. Vulnerability may also including being UNcomfortable with yourself and HAVING a fear of being judged. Doesn't have to, but it would be more likely than the other way around.
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Old 03-01-2019, 10:32 PM
 
Location: Southwest Washington State
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A person who feels vulnerable will exhibit feelings of insecurity and unease.

Being vulnerable means being easy prey to some sort of predator or not having sound judgement in decision making.
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Old 03-01-2019, 11:08 PM
 
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Hmm, it’s interesting how all three responses to this point vary so widely. Would it be accurate to say that to be vulnerable is to eschew self-protective behaviors? By doing so, you open yourself up to wonderful experiences that you might not have otherwise experienced, but also close yourself to potential pain and/discomfort?

For example, asking someone out, or trying a new dish. The opposite of vulnerability would be to stick with what is safe (the known). Vulnerability would mean I might experience a wonderful relationship (orfind a life partner). On the other hand, I might expose myself to a closet narcissist or have an allergic reaction.

Is that too simplistic? And if it isn’t, how do you avoid being preyed upon, like Silibran suggested?
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Old 03-01-2019, 11:20 PM
 
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Means you are blubbering . . . (saying that half-way sarcastically, but it really does have to do with crying, in my mind).
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Old 03-02-2019, 02:44 AM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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That is the OPPOSITE of vulnerability. If you are vulnerable, you are at risk. Vulnerability may also including being UNcomfortable with yourself and HAVING a fear of being judged.
You are at risk when vulnerable, but what you’re describing is insecurity, which is not the same thing.
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Old 03-02-2019, 09:40 AM
 
Location: God's Country
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A person who feels vulnerable will exhibit feelings of insecurity and unease.

Being vulnerable means being easy prey to some sort of predator or not having sound judgement in decision making.

Yep, and the sharks can sense it readily, by your body language, and timidity, and they are ready to pounce.
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Old 03-02-2019, 09:51 AM
 
Location: Southwest Washington State
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Being emotionally vulnerable is a relatively new way of describing being able to admit one’s shortcomings and deal with trauma. It was not clear from the OP how they meant the word to be defined.

I defined it the “original” way that I first understood it,

For some people, I suppose, being emotionally vulnerable is some sort of positive attribute. I think it might be a step toward acceptance or taking responsibility for an action. We would, for instance, be vulnerable when begging for forgivenesses.

But basically, in most cases being vulnerable is not a pleasant state of mind.
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Old 03-02-2019, 10:37 AM
 
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What does being mean look like? You have to be a rectum with highly charged negative emotions and a willingness to emotionally and or physically hurt someone without conscience to be labeled mean in my universe. What does vulnerable look like. Well I saw it with our friend that is transitioning from male to female. She was worried about how we would respond about it and the email she sent us before our visit last Sunday was a lot to process. However, we told her that you are who you are on the inside, not the outside. I gave her a hug and told her that it made me sad that she suffered so long in silence all these years. I told her that reproduction is not a perfect process and creates many anomalies. I also told her that I was worried about her given this current political climate. Am I vulnerable? It pales in comparison to what our friend and her wife are going through. Being born different is never easy and some people who are mean and never outgrew their playground bully mentality prove it every day.

Rectums are emotionally stunted sometimes emotionally bankrupt people. It's unfortunate that the only way they feel better is to hurt someone else. It's a sick way to process hate.

Vulnerability? That's the easiest to control, unless you were born outside of societal norms.
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