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Old 03-02-2019, 06:40 PM
 
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I don't generally mind although I am not usually the one instigating conversation. Sometimes I admit I am a little amazed at the personal things people will tell me. I never say anything judgemental although I may be judging like crazy.
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Old 03-02-2019, 06:54 PM
 
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generally if a random stranger approaches you and talks to you , they have some ulterior motive, they are trying to hustle you or sell you something, or worse case scenario rob you.
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Old 03-02-2019, 08:02 PM
 
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generally if a random stranger approaches you and talks to you , they have some ulterior motive, they are trying to hustle you or sell you something, or worse case scenario rob you.
Usually, yes. Although, I have found that family and so-called "friends" tend to do that as well.
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Old 03-02-2019, 08:47 PM
 
Location: Silicon Valley
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I take public transportation now, so I'm often in situations where someone wants to talk to me, or I feel talkative.

Most people will figure out whether or not someone feels like chatting. In the event they aren't getting the hint, most people simply retreat by looking at their phones. I always have a book that I can open and look at when I don't feel like talking anymore - or at all. And if I am talking to someone who simply starts looking at their phone or a book, etc., I get the hint they don't want to talk, and pull out my own book.

I like chatting with most strangers. For me, it's so much less complicated than a real friendship. With a stranger, you can ask them questions, have a nice chat, and normally, not have to worry about any on-going relationship, when expectations will eventually become an issue. With strangers, there are normally zero expectations, other than simple good manners. That's refreshing for me and I enjoy talking to strangers mainly because there are no long-term expectations. It's just a pure interaction of basic human interest or kindness, which is nice.
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Old 03-02-2019, 10:27 PM
 
Location: State of Transition
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I've had some great conversations with strangers, and some fun exchanges. Some people have a great sense of humor and spontaneity. The only unwelcome stranger encounter I recall was in an airport, where a woman latched onto me in the boarding area, and proceeded to drone on and on. The attendant making seat assignments (this must have been SW Airlines?) without consulting me assigned her to the seat next to me! I had to listen to her drone on and on the whole flight! I could've killed that boarding agent, lol.
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Old 03-03-2019, 05:47 AM
 
Location: Texas or Cascais, Portugal
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I have a nephew who, at 13 is guaranteed to strike up a conversation wherever he is, with whomever he sees, regardless of age. I admire it. Sometimes folks seem a little shocked, especially older folks but he is just so genuine that people let their guard down. We were recently in line at Security at the airport when he struck up a conversation with an elderly man holding a guitar case. He was asking the man if he was”any good” on the guitar or, just carried it around to impress the ladies. I was slightly mortified but after we got through the gate, as I was putting my shoes back on I hear this incredible riff on a guitar. I looked over to see the old man playing, right there past the gate into the airport. He looks at my nephew and says “What do you think?” I just thought, how cool to be able to be so spontaneous like that and get folks to reciprocate.
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Old 03-03-2019, 05:56 AM
 
Location: Wilmington, NC
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I've had some great conversations with strangers, and some fun exchanges. Some people have a great sense of humor and spontaneity. The only unwelcome stranger encounter I recall was in an airport, where a woman latched onto me in the boarding area, and proceeded to drone on and on. The attendant making seat assignments (this must have been SW Airlines?) without consulting me assigned her to the seat next to me! I had to listen to her drone on and on the whole flight! I could've killed that boarding agent, lol.
With someone like this, I generally find a way to make some excuses. Sorry, I've got a lot of work to do, or sorry, I'm recovering from being sick and just need my quiet time. No need to have to put up with that.
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Old 03-03-2019, 06:40 AM
 
Location: Texas
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So if you are a person who hates when strangers try to strike up a convo...be it in line for ice cream, on a long flight or...what ever. Tell me what you don't like about it? I really don't understand.
You don't want my answer bc I actually enjoy speaking with strangers and learning new things. But I will answer about the times that I don't. And what's when people don't pick up on social cues and keep rambling on about themselves or become inappropriate. Sense the mood and understand when it's time to stop the conversation and let everyone get back to what they were doing.
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Old 03-03-2019, 08:43 AM
 
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I like chatting with people. If they don't want to chat, that's fine, then I'll keep to myself. Sometimes I learn something interesting by chatting with someone new. Isn't that why were all on CD? I think that people who hate to chat with strangers are missing out.
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Old 03-03-2019, 09:09 AM
 
Location: Philadelphia, PA
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I like chatting with most strangers. For me, it's so much less complicated than a real friendship. With a stranger, you can ask them questions, have a nice chat, and normally, not have to worry about any on-going relationship, when expectations will eventually become an issue. With strangers, there are normally zero expectations, other than simple good manners. That's refreshing for me and I enjoy talking to strangers mainly because there are no long-term expectations. It's just a pure interaction of basic human interest or kindness, which is nice.
Thank you.
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