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I'm constantly interrupted at work, and even weekends are spent running around. So I have few uninterrupted blocks of time.
So if I have a long flight, it's heaven, because it's uninterrupted time when I can actually read a book, do something else productive or just think. I usually put on headphones and that fends off talkers, but on a 3-hour flight one year, I recall being so thrilled because I could then read a book that I had been meaning to read...but the guy next to me started talking and wouldn't take a hint; I didn't want to be rude. So I was talked at for 3 hours. I didn't get to do what I wanted to do. I wanted to scream.
A nice comment when standing in line for ice cream is fine and I like that as long as it doesn't delay my day (don't turn it into a long conversation or keep me there).
Please also note that introverts generally despise small talk. I do. It's not productive time for me and I'm not good at thinking on the go--when acquaintances at the gym, for example, make small talk as we're coming and going, I end up with my foot in my mouth about 75% of the time.
You should learn to tell people "Don't take it personal, but I don't like talking to strangers. Please leave me alone." Or you could just give off an "I don't like people" vibe ... People will get the hint. I have a neighbor like this.
People will be more than happy to leave you alone.
You should learn to tell people "Don't take it personal, but I don't like talking to strangers. Please leave me alone." Or you could just give off an "I don't like people" vibe ... People will get the hint. I have a neighbor like this.
People will be more than happy to leave you alone.
Lovely--I think I'll decline to take that advice, thanks. It's good to come across as likeable and better to just deal with too much interest from people.
From reading this forum and from my own personal experiences, it seems that many 'introverts' are angry misanthropes who feel superior to and try to hide who they really are from others.
Last edited by Indiana Tony; 03-03-2019 at 02:06 PM..
Lovely--I think I'll decline to take that advice, thanks. It's good to come across as likeable and better to just deal with too much interest from people.
From reading this forum and from my own personal experiences, it seems that many 'introverts' are angry misanthropes who feel superior to and try to hide who they really are from others.
Introverts simply don't have a need to say everything that's on their minds, or say things that don't need to be said. Babbling uses up energy that can be better spent on other things.
From reading this forum and from my own personal experiences, it seems that many 'introverts' are angry misanthropes who feel superior to and try to hide who they really are from others.
I agree 100%. Even in a few hours of looking around, I find it clear that these relationship forums are full of people that just plain don't like people and/or can't handle normal social interaction. Funny. Except not.
Well, because why would I interrupt what I'm doing to talk to someone I don't even know and try to come up with interesting things to talk about? I would not want to tell my life story to a stranger... none of their business at best, could be some sort of scammer at worst.
When I am out and about, I'm probably on my way to somewhere, or in the middle of doing something, or simply lost in my own thoughts (or, may be trying to remember something for later). So, no, I usually do not want to be interrupted to talk about the length of my hair, or to have to tell someone I don't work at the place, or do a fake-laugh at whatever cutesy thing some older guy wants to say to me, or whatever. If I'm somewhere I know I'll be waiting a long time, I am probably reading a book or the news on my phone, and also do not want to be interrupted. At those times, the only time I want someone to talk to me is to say things like "excuse me, your shoelaces are on fire" or "excuse me, but Godzilla just came in and you might want to hide" or "excuse me, you're standing in the street and there's a bus coming", or "excuse me, Harrison Ford is over there looking lonely."
If I want to talk, you'll know-- usually that's when I'm looking around, obviously interested in a person or people, or someone else's conversation. This happens rarely, though. If I'm looking at things in a store or other place, or walking, or standing looking blank, or reading-- I'm probably not interested.
Some people are gregarious and enjoy talking to strangers. I have trouble making small talk even with people I know, don't need the stress of doing so with people I don't know and never will.
I find it interesting that "extroverts" like to decide that people who aren't like them must have something wrong with them... I never see the opposite. Which gives me an idea about who are *really* the ones with problems.
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Originally Posted by Indiana Tony
You should learn to tell people "Don't take it personal, but I don't like talking to strangers. Please leave me alone." Or you could just give off an "I don't like people" vibe ... People will get the hint. I have a neighbor like this.
People will be more than happy to leave you alone.
It's harder to learn than you think. Usually you have to start out with an appearance that is either intimidating, or at the least, not-welcoming in some manner.
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