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I agree which is why I decided to ignore and delete her text messages. The last thing I need to do right now is yell to the top of my lungs and raise my blood pressure.
And what if it was something important?
All you're concerned about is how you may feel. Ever consider how your mom may feel? She might have needed your help.
I agree which is why I decided to ignore and delete her text messages. The last thing I need to do right now is yell to the top of my lungs and raise my blood pressure.
Why would you yell into a phone? The transmission does not get affected by your volume.
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Yah, and she probably didn’t feel like feeding you and changing your diaper on time either.
That’s what she was SUPPOSED to do. You don’t get lifelong credit for things you’re supposed to do when you chose to bring a child into the world. Also, doesn’t excuse bad behavior like needing attention all the time.
She sent me a text this morning saying to give a call sometime today and I responded letting her know that I have to go today which is rare for me on a sunday. So I just said It will probably have to be tomorrow because I don;t know what time I will be back in the house. Then she sends two text messages probably saying something like..."when it comes to your mother you should never" I decided not to read the text because I don;t want to get myself upset and call her cursing and yelling. I think she forgets how old I am and on my own and can call someone when I ready.
So should I have just ignored the text until later on tonight and said I would call her on Monday morning instead of saying it on sunday morning?
You just banged out a post on CD. And yet you don't have time to call?
As far as the yelling is concerned, that's pretty easy. Simply say, "Mom, if you're going to yell at me, then I'm going to hang up." Then do it. I guarantee that if you do that over the next several conversations, she will not be talking to you that way again.
That way, the conversation will be short and over quickly.
If you wait for once a week, she will be mad and keep you on the line for hours
That’s something people with this kind of boundary issue don’t often understand. The longer you put off that interaction, the more “ammo” she has time to accumulate.
That’s something people with this kind of boundary issue don’t often understand. The longer you put off that interaction, the more “ammo” she has time to accumulate.
My nephew calls my sister (his mom) every night. She is so happy. The convo is over in seconds and he continues to be blessed with her financial assistance -
You just banged out a post on CD. And yet you don't have time to call?
As far as the yelling is concerned, that's pretty easy. Simply say, "Mom, if you're going to yell at me, then I'm going to hang up." Then do it. I guarantee that if you do that over the next several conversations, she will not be talking to you that way again.
I don't think it's mom who is yelling. I think it's the OP who yells at his mom.
No, I think you have a major attitude and problem that goes beyond this incident. You don’t seem to have the compassion or ability to set healthy boundaries, nobody can force you to talk on the phone 2 hours. I simple text response “ great, would love to chat but today I’m tied up but how about tomorrow”.
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My nephew calls my sister (his mom) every night. She is so happy. The convo is over in seconds and he continues to be blessed with her financial assistance - 
