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Old 03-30-2019, 07:12 PM
 
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You aren't being cheap, you're on a budget and you're being practical and frugal with your entertainment expenses. Good for you for being careful with your finances! Maybe your spendthrift friends don't need to operate on a careful budget and they forget that you do need to.

Just say no to them and explain that you can't afford their kind of luxury expenses. If you want to go to the movies in the company of other people invite your GF and other practical, non-spendthrift friends that don't want to spend that kind of extra money.
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I really don't think the OP needs to do that. Their finances are personal and they shouldn't have to wave the "Im poor" flag. Just say no and either suggest another fun activity, if the goal is just to hang out. If it's "we are going to the movie, wanna come too" then be polite and say no and let them have their experience that they enjoy.
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Old 03-30-2019, 07:17 PM
 
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"I'm sorry, but that's really more than I want to spend right now. Would you be willing to see the movie in the regular theater?" If they say yes, go and have fun. If they say no, say "OK, have a great time" and let them go without you.
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Old 03-30-2019, 07:49 PM
 
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Uhhh...no. They are buddies hanging out, not people going on a date or anything like that.
Wel I guess we just did things differently.
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Old 03-30-2019, 07:57 PM
 
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Your friends shouldn't think you're cheap...You're just better at handling money and not wasting it and they don't seem to understand that. Just tell them that you don't want to waste money like that.They should understand.
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Old 03-30-2019, 08:10 PM
 
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Your friends shouldn't think you're cheap...You're just better at handling money and not wasting it and they don't seem to understand that. Just tell them that you don't want to waste money like that.They should understand.
No...they won't. If you say "I don't want to waste my money like that" you are essentially accusing them of being bad with their money. And they aren't necessarily. If they choose to do this with the money they have, that is 100% ok...its their money. Just like the OP gets to choose what to do with his money without being shamed for it, so does his/her friends.
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Old 03-30-2019, 08:53 PM
 
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Stop being insecure. Who cares what they think. It is your money and your decision on how to spend it. Sounds like your girlfriend is being smart about it.
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Old 03-30-2019, 09:07 PM
 
Location: British Columbia ♥ 🍁 ♥
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I really don't think the OP needs to do that. Their finances are personal and they shouldn't have to wave the "Im poor" flag. Just say no and either suggest another fun activity, if the goal is just to hang out. If it's "we are going to the movie, wanna come too" then be polite and say no and let them have their experience that they enjoy.

I don't agree. There are both cultural and financial differences that I think you aren't taking into consideration. The OP lives in Canada and in Canada everybody (including the OP's spendthrift friends) understands that cost of living expenses for EVERYTHING in Canada are so much, much higher than they are where you live. Canadians don't wave an "I'm poor" flag and if a Canadian says they can't afford something it doesn't mean they are poor and there is nothing to feel ashamed of by saying they can't afford something. It's just a statement of fact and nothing to be ashamed of. It simply means the person can't afford it. Everyone in Canada, including wealthy people, needs to be careful with their expenses and we all understand that.

Iron Pony's friends already know he's only working part time. They already know he is not a wealthy man who can throw his money around like there's no tomorrow. They are simply being thoughtless about his budget with no harm or insult intended. If Iron Pony gently reminds his spendthrift friends that he and his GF can't afford a $100 night out between the two of them to drink booze while watching a movie then his friends won't continue putting him on the spot by continuing to ask him to join them in doing something that they already know he must decline out of necessity. It's not Iron Pony's responsibility to decline and then suggest another fun but less expensive activity as an alternative. Knowing what they do about him, if his friends want to enjoy the pleasure of his company then it's the responsibility of the spendthrift friends to invite him to join them in a less expensive alternative that they know he can afford - unless they are offering to pay his expenses of course.

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Old 03-30-2019, 09:28 PM
 
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I have two friends, who are a couple that invite me out the movies and I go with them. A lot of times they want to see the VIP showing of a movie, instead of the regular showing. With the VIP showing you get a more comfortable seat and you can drink alcohol.

But it's 14 dollars more than the regular ticket price, and I think that really is a rip off, just so you can by alcoholic drinks on top of that. Even if the seats are more comfortable, the ones they have in the regular theater are fine for me for a two hour length average movie.

Plus the one time I tried the VIP, the seats vibrated with the movie at certain times, when exciting things happened, but I didn't like that and found it distracting. Not sure if all the seats are like that though, but I assume they are.

So I just find it to be a rip off, and will talk my friends out of it, asking if it's okay I just pay regular price, especially since I'm only working part time at the moment. But do you think my friends think I am cheap perhaps though, when they aske me out to the movies? I asked my gf cause she is invited with me but she says she doesn't want to pay an extra 14 either. Or she doesn't want me to pay an extra 14 for her, since I pay for her sometimes. What do you think?
I'm not sure I understand your question.

Yes, they'll think you're being cheap, and by most standards you are being cheap.

But so what? There's no reason to be embarrassed about not wanting to waste money. For me, I wouldn't be interested in an audience of drunk people falling asleep because the chairs are more comfortable. There's nothing wrong with saying either that you think it's a waste of money or that since your income is limited you'd rather go for the cheaper version.
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Old 03-30-2019, 10:11 PM
 
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I'm not sure I understand your question.

Yes, they'll think you're being cheap, and by most standards you are being cheap........

Where is it standard for one person to spend $50 and upwards in total to go see a movie?

$16 to get in + $14 extra for VIP seats + $20 (or more) for drinks and other refreshment incidentals = $50 (or more) for one person to watch a movie. Where is that standard?

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Old 03-31-2019, 03:31 AM
 
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I refuse to buy popcorn and anything else...if I go to a movie...just wayyyyy overpriced.


id refuse to go to the viewing if its that much more..

"ill wait til it on Netflix"
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