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I have a friend and a sister who do that kind of thing. I call it being just a little bit snobbish or condescending and having the nose in the air, or acting above one's station, or putting on airs - they all mean basically the same thing - all done in an attempt to impress other people and have them think more highly of them. It's harmless as long as they aren't causing problems for other people with their fantasy desires. Personally I think it shows some deep rooted insecurity and lack of acceptance about their real station in life even though they are certainly not poor people. It doesn't bother me that they're like that, they have good qualities and generosities too so I just ignore it and treat them like any other average Joe Blow.
The best you can do is humour, and engage with people like this. Sometimes people use this tactic to call attention to issues in their life that they perceive to be more important than the topic at hand, but they won't address it directly. Hey, at least your friend hasn't started a thread on an worldwide forum about her issues.
If a person is secure in what they're doing or who they are, then these kinds of comments are like water off a duck. The only thing left to worry about - or rather consider - is how to respond to them in a way that they actually recognize as cutting them off at the knees. It can't be just some benign comment they can justify as meaning something else in their petty minds. It needs to be something absolutely sublime in it's absolutely clear meaning. If you know what I mean.
I think patronizing is closest but there's also an element of the individual being too fine and delicate to live with the things that many people see as normal like a basement or a bathtub. And sort of mild shock that anyone might see things differently. Maybe I need to coin a new term.
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