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My thirty-six year old brother is a bum. He lives at/off my parents, refuses to work, does and sells drugs and acts and lives like a teenager.
He doesn't do anything to help out around the house and doesn't even take care of his own daughter. He's a real p***k. Since my wife and I live up the street, we have the pleasure of watching him bring junkies/derelicts in and out of my parent's house. I've given up on worrying about that, too, as my father says to "ignore it." My mom is in a fantasy land and refuses to believe that one of these 'friends' of his could possibly pull a home invasion.
On top of all that, he has a nasty disposition and thinks anybody who works for a living is a 'fool' and we're all just 'jealous.' Yeah, OK ...
I've given up on him and want nothing to do with him.
I told him "I'm not going to be able to help you when mommy and daddy are gone." They're 78 and 80, respectively. He says "I don't need you."
He thinks he's getting the house, which, much to my chagrin, he just might. Either way, I figure he'll end up homeless or dead.
My question: How did people you know - who lived like my brother - wind up?
Last edited by Indiana Tony; 04-05-2019 at 08:26 AM..
I've given up on worrying about that, too, as my father says to "ignore it." My mom is in a fantasy land and refuses to believe that one of these 'friends' of his could possibly pull a home invasion. He thinks he's getting the house, which, much to my chagrin, he just might.
My sympathies. Your mother is one of those desperate people who are in love with their loser child. "I can't kick him out, he neeeds me!"
I used to watch a cousin manipulate his mother, my aunt. She tried to resist but ultimately always gave him what he demanded. Your brother's right: It's so much easier than working for a living where people actually, you know, expect you to do stuff.
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My question: How did people you know - who lived like my brother - wind up?
My cousin ended up dead, as did a grandchild my aunt enabled.
I wish someone would slap some sense into these parents.
My ex husband's brother was a lot like what you've described. Honestly, I thought he'd die a long long time ago, but he's still ticking.
He DID get his mother's house. The house that was supposed to be sold, and the profit to be split between the 5 grandkids. Well, that never happened.
He's alone...for the most part. He was married...until he left his infant son in the house alone, so he could buy 'cigarettes'. Wife came home, and baby was sitting in front of TV in a pumpkin seat. This AFTER he was arrested for selling cocaine to a cop and so forth and so on.
The man is 66 now. From what I gather through the grape vine, he's a joke. He thinks he's still a party boy, and he goes back and forth between Florida and Illinois.
A relative of mine got their crap together after living the drug filled teenage lifestyle. Then that relative slipped off and went back into their old ways. She used her position as a nurse at a well known hospital in the Phoenix metro to gain access to where all of the narcotic pain killers were stored and stole a bunch over the course of 2 years. She had been using and selling what she stole. She was eventually found out, lost her job, and sent to prison.
He DID get his mother's house. The house that was supposed to be sold, and the profit to be split between the 5 grandkids. Well, that never happened.
There's four of us and my mom said everything (it's not that much) would be split evenly ... but she's also said "You have houses, he doesn't."
My main worry is that the house will someday become a full-blown drug house.
It's messed up - I'm the guy sweeping up the block, keeping it clean - and he's selling drugs out of the front corner door. I almost went up there with a gun back in January ... Since then I've hit reset and I don't get involved or talk about it. This is my outlet.
My question: How did people you know - who lived like my brother - wind up?
I have a cousin like that. He did OK and wound up in a gated community with meals and healthcare provided. One minor drawback -- the guards won't let him leave.
i have a cousin like that. He did ok and wound up in a gated community with meals and healthcare provided. One minor drawback -- the guards won't let him leave.
My thirty-six year old brother is a bum. He lives at/off my parents, refuses to work, does and sells drugs and acts and lives like a teenager.
He doesn't do anything to help out around the house and doesn't even take care of his own daughter. He's a real p***k. Since my wife and I live up the street, we have the pleasure of watching him bring junkies/derelicts in and out of my parent's house. I've given up on worrying about that, too, as my father says to "ignore it." My mom is in a fantasy land and refuses to believe that one of these 'friends' of his could possibly pull a home invasion.
On top of all that, he has a nasty disposition and thinks anybody who works for a living is a 'fool' and we're all just 'jealous.' Yeah, OK ...
I've given up on him and want nothing to do with him.
I told him "I'm not going to be able to help you when mommy and daddy are gone." They're 78 and 80, respectively. He says "I don't need you."
He thinks he's getting the house, which, much to my chagrin, he just might. Either way, I figure he'll end up homeless or dead.
My question: How did people you know - who lived like my brother - wind up?
Call the police and tell them to sneak up on the house (no lights or sirens.) Let them catch him and his "friends" with drugs. Anonymously. Over and over and over.
The difference between him and the bums begging for drug money is he has a support system to keep him off the streets. How long that lasts is anyone's guess. I have a cousin like this and the last remaining parent has limited time remaining. We all wonder how it will turn out...
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