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Your boyfriend has mental health issues. YOU have mental health issues. Maybe your mom has valid concerns about your future happiness, and why she expresses disapointment in your choices? Have you given your mom drama and problems as a teenager?
Your boyfriend has mental health issues. YOU have mental health issues. Maybe your mom has valid concerns about your future happiness, and why she expresses disapointment in your choices? Have you given your mom drama and problems as a teenager?
Have to agree with this. There are things stacked against you OP:
Both of you are quite young/inexperienced.
First serious relationship that has been rocky.
Both of you have mental health issues.
Disconnect between expecting military service/income and mental health issues.
Making a long distance complete break with family.
No information about how you plan to manage your health issues without help from anyone.
The parent you get along with best you don't want to confide in.
Sometimes the opinions and advice we get aren't what we want to hear...though it might be what we NEED to hear.
Since your parents have known this guy since he was a young teen, they have probably formed some considered opinions about his character and prospects. Why not share some of their objections about him so we can get a fuller picture?
Say Bye when you're walking out the door. You're an adult and can do what you want without your mothers permission.
And the reality is...in the mist of doing whatever the h you want...you get all the responsibility of owning up to every mistake you make. So few want to share that fact...that with actions comes accountability.
Why would you want to move in with a boyfriend with a mental illness?
How did his mental illness display to your parents?
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Originally Posted by mainebrokerman;
Rent a place for a year together nearby ...see if you two can live together first...
you jump into so many unknowns.... that's too much pressure..
too many moving parts and no stability....you might be setting yourself up to fail..
Exactly! OP hasn't told us how her bf could have enlisted in the armed services with a mental illness. How will he support himself, with a mental illness? How does she plan to support herself? Is he getting some kind of disability payments? What's going on?
I agree that it's too isolating, to run off to another state, and move in with a mentally ill boyfriend, when she, herself, has her own challenges, and their past relationship had rocky times. She should set herself up to live independently, first. I realize, I'm repeating my earlier post, but we've had no response from the OP, and other posters have avoided addressing these important concerns. I'm glad there are a few, who see these potential pitfalls.
Exactly! OP hasn't told us how her bf could have enlisted in the armed services with a mental illness. How will he support himself, with a mental illness? How does she plan to support herself? Is he getting some kind of disability payments? What's going on?
I agree that it's too isolating, to run off to another state, and move in with a mentally ill boyfriend, when she, herself, has her own challenges, and their past relationship had rocky times. She should set herself up to live independently, first. I realize, I'm repeating my earlier post, but we've had no response from the OP, and other posters have avoided addressing these important concerns. I'm glad there are a few, who see these potential pitfalls.
I sure wish we had more info from the OP.
Some of us have been too busy to come back Ruth , dealing with a sick son, and sick grandchidren.
Yes major concerns but without input from the op I am not sure what I can add other than I find the idea her boyfriend got into the military with a mental illness highly questionable unless he lied? As with a lot of posters we are given cherry picked info with a lot of pertinent facts left out. That in itself is a red flag.
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