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Old 04-27-2019, 08:49 PM
 
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Is there some confusion about how the referral actually occurred? Like, were you sitting around in a conversation, and you said hey if you're looking for a great apartment complex, the one we live in is great, you should check it out, and then your roommate said yeah I really love it too, great location, great management, etc.?

If not - if your roommate wasn't in on the conversation and didn't also mention the apartment complex, then no, she's off-balance requesting half the reward.

That's as if someone came over and said oh look, there's a $20 under your table, it just blew down from on the table, must be one of you two's. And it was your $20, and you had just placed it on the table in preparation for paying your check. And your roommate said hey, the person who discovered the 20 didn't know whose it was, mine or yours, so I get $10.

She just wants your stuff.
I was hanging out with my girlfriend and was like you should move into my apartment complex you can get a good deal. So unless my roomie texted her something similar I don't see why she thinks she deserves a cut. My ex gf even told me she said my name. My only issue now is if I want to give her a cut and not cause any issues. Its awkward to be like no you don't get a cut and live with the tension lol.
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Old 04-27-2019, 09:51 PM
 
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I was hanging out with my girlfriend and was like you should move into my apartment complex you can get a good deal. So unless my roomie texted her something similar I don't see why she thinks she deserves a cut. My ex gf even told me she said my name. My only issue now is if I want to give her a cut and not cause any issues. Its awkward to be like no you don't get a cut and live with the tension lol.
Why don't you ask your roommate why she thinks she is entitled to part of the money? If it is only because the email was sent to you both you could then say that as you were the only one that referred your ex that you don't understand why she feels entitled to it. I think I would be looking for a new roomie.
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Old 04-28-2019, 05:46 AM
 
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My roomie and I are in college living in one of the apartment complexes. So I referred my ex girlfriend and her roomie to rent one of the apartment complex that I am living in. They asked my ex girlfriend who referred them and they said my name. They said they will give the gift card after 90 days. Well the manager of the apartment complex sent a text recently to both me and my roomie that there is a 100 dollar card for us to come pick up. I go there and pick it up they tell me they didn't know who referred so they will just let us fight over it.

My roomie asked about the gift card and asked to split it. I was put in a weird spot and caught off guard. Don't know what to do. On one end I don't think she deserves it cause I am the one who referred/feel cheated and the other end I should pick and choose my battles. Do I want to save 50 bucks and cause tension/conflict with my roommate?
You get the gift card. Roomie gets a gift card when he refers someone. You aren't causing tension, your roomie is obviously already a jerk. Most would not ask to split that gift card.
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Old 04-28-2019, 09:33 AM
 
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The majority of responders completely ignored and disregarded this aspect of the OP's question when giving their advice, highlighted by the ridiculous comment below:



Umm, did you forget that they live together? Telling her simply to take a hike will lead to a tension-filled home life - - - or worse.

Now the two posters below definitely get it:





Excellent advice! Fifty bucks is not worth ruining one's home life. You don't need to just hand it to your roomie though; as suggested, use the whole $100 toward a night on the town, or use it to purchase something that the two of you can use in the apartment (groceries or something else).
Or on roomie's birthday present...


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This really isn't so hard, OP, unless your roomie has on other occasions shown herself to be the petty, vindictive type. To give in to her attempt to fleece you, because you fear some kind of retribution, would be giving into thuggery, whether real or imagined. Do people really have this much trouble being politely assertive? If so, it means we're a nation of easy marks for scam artists.

If you really do struggle with that, though, you could take her out for a beer, or for a modest dinner, with part of the money, keeping half for yourself. If she's unhappy about that, rather than going along with the gesture, t's time to get this mooch out of your life. Were you both assigned to the apartment by university housing administration? Are you stuck with the arrangement?
But the problem is that the roommate COULD be vindictive, and however "assertive" OP is isn't going to change that fact. Throwing out a roommate, and finding another, is not so easy, especially over something like this; who knows who OP could get next?? (I've heard some pretty heinous roommate stories, and if I had one whose biggest crime was wanting half of a gift card, I wouldn't consider it worth risking some of the other jerks a person can end up living with.)
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Old 04-28-2019, 09:47 AM
 
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I was hanging out with my girlfriend and was like you should move into my apartment complex you can get a good deal. So unless my roomie texted her something similar I don't see why she thinks she deserves a cut. My ex gf even told me she said my name. My only issue now is if I want to give her a cut and not cause any issues. Its awkward to be like no you don't get a cut and live with the tension lol.
There might not be any tension. You're assuming there would be, but there might not be. You can just lightheartedly say the card is for the referral you made to your ex to move into the building, and tell your roomie that she can earn a card that way, too,, explaining it's one of the perks of living in the building. They pay you to refer friends, if it results in a new tenant moving in. Keep the energy positive and upbeat.

I can't imagine she'd insist that she should get half of your reward, that she had nothing to do with.

I also think, you should talk to the manager about keeping a log of which tenants made referrals to which new move-ins, if they're going to continue offering this deal. The statement that "I didn't know who it should go to, so the two of you can fight over it" is very weird, almost like he's setting roommates up for conflict. I wonder how many times that's happened. He apparently thinks it's all a big joke. He needs to be more methodical about the process, if he's going to delay the reward by 3 months.
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Old 04-28-2019, 03:41 PM
 
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I don't think your roommate is entitled to it, no, but IF it's going to cause a problem with her, only you can decide if "losing" $50 is worth keeping the peace between you. For me, $50 is not that big of a deal but it sounds like maybe it would be a big deal to you. Your call - you're the only one who has the best knowledge to determine:

1. Whether she'll be angry if you decline
2. What your financial situation is like right now
3. Which is more important to you
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Old 04-28-2019, 05:12 PM
 
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My roomie and I are in college living in one of the apartment complexes. So I referred my ex girlfriend and her roomie to rent one of the apartment complex that I am living in. They asked my ex girlfriend who referred them and they said my name. They said they will give the gift card after 90 days. Well the manager of the apartment complex sent a text recently to both me and my roomie that there is a 100 dollar card for us to come pick up. I go there and pick it up they tell me they didn't know who referred so they will just let us fight over it.

My roomie asked about the gift card and asked to split it. I was put in a weird spot and caught off guard. Don't know what to do. On one end I don't think she deserves it cause I am the one who referred/feel cheated and the other end I should pick and choose my battles. Do I want to save 50 bucks and cause tension/conflict with my roommate?

I'd ask her to explain the referral part out loud to see just exactly what her understanding is of it, I'm sure it's not what you think............see what she says, I doubt she really knows and just wants in on the free goodies........


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Old 04-28-2019, 06:02 PM
 
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I'd ask her to explain the referral part out loud to see just exactly what her understanding is of it, I'm sure it's not what you think............see what she says, I doubt she really knows and just wants in on the free goodies........


That's kind of what I wondered... does she understand this is for a referral? Or is she somehow under the impression that "hey the landlord is giving us free money!"?
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Old 04-28-2019, 06:31 PM
 
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That's kind of what I wondered... does she understand this is for a referral? Or is she somehow under the impression that "hey the landlord is giving us free money!"?
This. The solution could be as simple as explaining the referral "program", and how it works.
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