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Old 04-28-2019, 08:52 AM
 
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Old 04-28-2019, 09:44 AM
 
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I'm not much of a kid person, either, but I don't need the significance of grand children explained to me.
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Old 04-28-2019, 09:51 AM
 
Location: Southwest Washington State
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Grandparents love their grandchildren overwhelmingly. I know I do.

I do think that some people think of their grandchildren as sort of trophies. And, many are tightly involved in their lives as well.

But really, we grandparents just love our grands. When I encounter the other grandma, we talk about our mutual grands, and agree they are special and wonderful, as indeed they are to us.
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Old 04-28-2019, 10:02 AM
 
Location: Canada
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I love my 3 year old grand-daughter, but I don't think about her 24/7 like some do. I certainly love her, but it isn't overwhelming.

I like to spend time with her and she's a fun little girl to be around (I had 2 sons), but would never want to be a full time sitter. She wears me out LOL

I'm not one to brag about her, but will tell nice things about her WHEN I'm asked.

I also don't post a million pictures of her on Face Book,
I don't post all these "cutsie" I love being a Grandma" on Facebook
I don't email my friends photos,

and I NEVER flick out a photo album for people to look at.

Been there with other Grandmas showing them off, and it's SO VERY ho-hum.
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Old 04-28-2019, 10:16 AM
 
Location: Northern Appalachia
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I'm at an age where my peers all have grandchildren. One has a great grand.
I have no grandchildren. Never wanted any and will never have any. I was not close with my own grandparents. I'm not patient with children, and have no interest in them.

These women are very invested in their GC. All conversations will quickly become about who had babies or is starting school or other activities. They try to show me pictures. And of course social media posts are filled with this fascination. Many of these women do other things. But they fit it in around the GC.

What is the big deal about your son's or daughter's children?

I remember when I had no children and it drove me crazy when co-workers talked about their kids all the time. I now have two granddaughters who are 1 and 4. My wife and I love to spend time with them and look forward to babysitting. The girls are well behaved and bright so I think that makes it more enjoyable to spend time with them. I think it all comes down to your personal perspective. I couldn't relate to children/grandchildren when I didn't have them, now I'm fascinated with mine.
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Old 04-28-2019, 10:17 AM
 
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it is family at a distance...so everything can be positive....
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Old 04-28-2019, 11:08 AM
 
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I think it's because grandkids generally have all the positives of children and non of the negatives...I love my kids but I honestly I can't wait to be a grandma either lol! no worrying about homework/school, illness, lack of sleep etc..just the fun of "spoiling" them! I can't wait!

Exactly!
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Old 04-28-2019, 12:30 PM
 
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What is the big deal about your son's or daughter's children?
I don't have any grandchildren, not sure it will ever happen and I am okay with that. However I can understand the big deal about them. There is something about seeing the new generation take bloom. There is something about watching your own child become a parent. There is something special about watching your own child create another human being. I do understand the joy they have.

My sister just became a Grandmother for the first time. Yes, she is overjoyed. I am okay with hearing about the baby and seeing the photographs often. She is in-love. I can see and understand that it is a whole other level of love. I am okay with it. I am happy for her.
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Old 04-28-2019, 12:34 PM
 
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I think grandparents can enjoy kids without the difficult parenting …

also the older you get the more you realize you wont be around forever...and these little kids are part of your legacy
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Old 04-28-2019, 01:26 PM
 
Location: Albuquerque NM
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I'm surprised how many grandparents seem to love and spend time with their grandchildren more than their adult children. And some want to leave their money to the grandkids, not their children. If they have problems with their adult children, do they think the grandchildren are going to be any different once they grow up? It is almost as if they just love babies and young children, sort of like preferring a kitten or puppy over an adult pet. Or maybe parenting was the highlight of their life and this is their second chance.
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