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Old 04-29-2019, 09:27 AM
 
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I just spent 6 days at the beach w/a friend whose daughter and 4 grandkids live nearby. They came around or, she went to them, almost the whole time I was there so, I made myself scarce most of the time. As a single, woman w/out children, being around other peopleís kids is not my idea of an ideal vacation.
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Old 04-29-2019, 09:33 AM
 
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If people have had poor or only mediocre success in their own lives, grandchildren may represent their hope for the future of their families-----that they will fulfill the hopes they once had for themselves, but did not achieve. Or it could be the opposite, if they have had great success and want their grandchildren to do the same. If your children and grandchildren do as well or better than you, it affirms the essence of your life.
How about itís just because you love them 😊 just as you love your children, your parents ( if lucky enough to have good ones ) and because you enjoy being around people you love .
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Old 04-29-2019, 09:41 AM
 
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Hey at least it's better than pretending to care about someone's dog...plastered all over their social media as if anyone really cares.
Hardly anyone does, whether kid or dog. That was the point in the first place.
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Old 04-29-2019, 09:43 AM
 
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Sometimes I just change the subject, but obsessed grandparents can be amusing. A friend with grandchildren is proud of them, but she goes overboard. One grandson plays baseball. She attends every game, which is great, but then I have to hear a blow-by-blow of some high school baseball game. Of course, as she says, her grandson "really carries the whole team".

Then the other grandson loves to perform and was in the school musical. Of course, "his voice is so much better and stronger than most of the other kids. You can hear him more clearly singing in the chorus than any other kid."

I just smile and have another glass of wine. I've met these kids, and they are nice kids.

The one I had difficulty with, though, was the oldest grandson. She has always gone on and on about him. He was born to her daughter when she was quite young, and she helped her daughter raise him. He excelled at everything, apparently, school, sports, yada yada yada. Then he went into the military and did a couple of tours in Afghanistan and was promoted to sergeant, and now he is out and married and has two wonderful kids and a great job.

After years of hearing about this guy, I finally met him when he came from out of state to visit. He is a complete and total jackass, rude to his parents, his grandmother, and ME, whom he had just met. Self-important moron.

Love covers a lot of defects.
Love is blind. And deaf, too.
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Old 04-29-2019, 09:51 AM
 
Location: Dayton OH
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I have 10 grandkids, and waiting on number 13 great grandkid (all 6 and under). Forget my kids. Shame you can;t have your grandkids first.
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Old 04-29-2019, 09:53 AM
 
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Hardly anyone does, whether kid or dog. That was the point in the first place.
It wasn't the OP's point.
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Old 04-29-2019, 09:54 AM
 
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I just spent 6 days at the beach w/a friend whose daughter and 4 grandkids live nearby. They came around or, she went to them, almost the whole time I was there so, I made myself scarce most of the time. As a single, woman w/out children, being around other peopleís kids is not my idea of an ideal vacation.
So why did you go, knowing what you know?
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Old 04-29-2019, 10:07 AM
 
Location: ☀️ SWFL ⛱ 🌴
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How about it’s just because you love them �� just as you love your children, your parents ( if lucky enough to have good ones ) and because you enjoy being around people you love .
^^^ That is how I feel, it’s something I want, but am not obligated to do. It’s called choice.

I have grandkids and a full rounded life. I am more connected with my friends that have grandkids. We all were surprised at how deep the love for a grandchild can be, it took us all by surprise. We had no idea until it happened. We share that bond.

Someone upstream mentioned it being a do over. It is for me. I have the time and luxury of enjoying the small moments that happen in a child's life that I didn’t have when I was perusing a career. Experience and wisdom has made me a much better grandmother than I was as a mother. I’m happy for a second chance to be more fully engaged.

We do live near our grandkids. We love being close and spending time together. I don’t have to fill up an empty life with activities and hobbies. I can enjoy grandkids and other passions, they are not mutually exclusive. It doesn’t have to be either or, but a nice mix of everything.
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Old 04-29-2019, 10:12 AM
 
Location: ☀️ SWFL ⛱ 🌴
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I am more connected with my friends that have grandkids. We all were surprised at how deep the love for a grandchild can be, it took us all by surprise. We share that bond and commonality. We don’t have to explain ourselves.

Someone upstream mentioned it being a do over. It is for me. I have the time and luxury of enjoying the small moments that happen in a child's life that I didn’t have when I was persuing a career. Time and wisdom has made me a much better grandmother than I was as a mother. I’m happy for a second chance to be more fully engaged.

We moved to be near our grandkids and their parents in an area we wanted to retire. We love being close and spending time together. I enjoy our grandkids and other interests too, they are not mutually exclusive. Grandkids aren’t all or nothing; a balance is easy to find for many of us.

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Old 04-29-2019, 10:39 AM
 
Location: Toronto
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-Older = less time less to live so more enamored with shiny new things. It's in our nature to keep passing on our genes. Also can remind of youth again.
-Generally not worried as raising own kids so can stand back and 'admire'.
-Love of own children and still seeing them fragile even as adults, that have their own children (the grand children) makes it even more 'awe' inspiring.
-Narcissism plays into it too. Some a lot more than others.
-Bored. Like having a new puppy but it takes alot longer to grow up.

My parents are like that to my kids to some degree. My dad mentions he feels guilty for not giving my sister and I the same level of attention. He was boozing, partying, smoking all the time when we were young.
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