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Old 05-09-2019, 09:06 AM
 
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Alright, so the parent is , in fact, the adult in the relationship. Especially as to how
they relate to their children (grown or not). So my question is...in YOUR opinion,
when there is a "falling out" of any kind.....who has the first responsibility to
reconcile, the parent or the child? Asking for a friend.....
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Old 05-09-2019, 09:10 AM
 
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The adult, of course. That's what being an adult is about. Teach the child how to navigate through a conflict.
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Old 05-09-2019, 09:25 AM
 
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Alright, so the parent is , in fact, the adult in the relationship. Especially as to how
they relate to their children (grown or not). So my question is...in YOUR opinion,
when there is a "falling out" of any kind.....who has the first responsibility to
reconcile, the parent or the child? Asking for a friend.....
If both parties are adults, then itís both who have responsibility to attempt reconciliation. How those attempts are received will determine if reconciliation is possible.
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Old 05-09-2019, 09:30 AM
 
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The person who takes the high road
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Old 05-09-2019, 09:46 AM
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It depends on why there was a falling out.
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Old 05-09-2019, 09:50 AM
 
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Unless one of the parties is the current guardian of the other, the answer is neither.
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Old 05-09-2019, 09:56 AM
 
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Unless one of the parties is the current guardian of the other, the answer is neither.
So both parties just stand their ground and let the falling out fester? How about someone taking the high road and reaching out a hand?
I have some experience in this with a grown, but younger, relative. I tried and tried, but unfortunately, she had learned some really crappy coping techniques from her mother and the issue remains painfully unresolved 3 years later. I don't see it ever being worked out. But no one can say I didn't try.
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Old 05-09-2019, 10:00 AM
 
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So both parties just stand their ground and let the falling out fester? How about someone taking the high road and reaching out a hand?
I have some experience in this with a grown, but younger, relative. I tried and tried, but unfortunately, she had learned some really crappy coping techniques from her mother and the issue remains painfully unresolved 3 years later. I don't see it ever being worked out. But no one can say I didn't try.
The question is not whether they should reconcile. The OP asked who has first responsibility. Neither party has first responsibility. With this limited information, they have equal responsibility.
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Old 05-09-2019, 10:05 AM
 
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The question is not whether they should reconcile. The OP asked who has first responsibility. Neither party has first responsibility. With this limited information, they have equal responsibility.
Respectfully disagree. There shouldn't be "rules" to govern such a situation. Someone has to make the first move even if the 2 parties are "even".
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Old 05-09-2019, 10:05 AM
 
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The question is not whether they should reconcile. The OP asked who has first responsibility. Neither party has first responsibility. With this limited information, they have equal responsibility.

I agree. Actually the adult will. And in this context, I don't necessarily mean the older person. I mean the more mature.
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