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Old 05-12-2019, 12:18 AM
 
Location: Sugarland
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HAAA - classic City-Data. 10 posts disagreeing with you, one post saying "you do you", and this is the one you thank.
Iíve read all of the posts regardless.
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Old 05-12-2019, 05:29 AM
 
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Landscape, you realize it's tomorrow? It's sounds like you need to go shopping in the morning.
I got her gifts together. I got her a towel, comfortable pjs, candles and some socks. I put it all in two different mothers day gift bags with tissue paper. Hope she likes it.
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Old 05-12-2019, 06:25 AM
 
Location: Sugarland
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I got her gifts together. I got her a towel, comfortable pjs, candles and some socks. I put it all in two different mothers day gift bags with tissue paper. Hope she likes it.
Thatís nice! I told my mom that we could go to the mall today to pick out a gift for her if she wants. Yes, I know thatís not the same as me making the effort to pick something out myself and surprise her.
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Old 05-12-2019, 10:33 AM
 
Location: Gray Court, SC
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I don't do anything for my mother except call her, or go see her. She doesn't like Hallmark holidays, and prefers we not do anything. My mother in law is the same way. My wife is the same way.

We rotate years going to spend the day with each mother, and usually go to eat somewhere, and that's enough for them.
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Old 05-12-2019, 10:40 AM
 
Location: Surfside Beach, SC
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Thatís nice! I told my mom that we could go to the mall today to pick out a gift for her if she wants. Yes, I know thatís not the same as me making the effort to pick something out myself and surprise her.
No, it's not the same, but I think it's even better. You're going to make sure she gets something she really wants and spend time with her, too. I think that sounds just perfect!
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Old 05-12-2019, 11:30 AM
 
Location: Asheville NC
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This is my first Mother’s Day without my mother. My husband surprised me with a diamond bracelet. My son is far away but we will scype this afternoon. Being with your mom on Mothers day is the best gift. I don’t like the pick your own presents personally.
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Old 05-12-2019, 11:41 AM
 
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Thatís nice! I told my mom that we could go to the mall today to pick out a gift for her if she wants. Yes, I know thatís not the same as me making the effort to pick something out myself and surprise her.
Nice, spending time with her. I also made her a cake today, we are making a strawberry shortcake.
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Old 05-12-2019, 02:44 PM
 
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Learned the gift is in giving what the receiver likes. My personal ethics has been challenged in the gifting department. I cannot go buy "wine" as I am 26 years in recovery. It just seems like I'm a hypocrite. Yet my mom liked wine from time to time. So off I'd go and get her one. I miss her dearly ...six years of not being able to pick up the phone and talk with her.
All those missed experiences crawl in this holiday. The tradition of being in the dining room ...and picking up the phone to call my mom while she is in the bedroom to yell, happy mothers day ! Was a hoot. ! It goes back to the at&t days when they marketed about calling your mom on mothers day.

My sons are indifferent on this day...I get a card from my grandkids...and maybe a text. It's not what I want....it's what length they go to ...which is rather short in effort.
So as a mom...if that impersonal text is the best I get..then I will be OK with it. What other choice is there.

I've accepted the extremely low key acknowledgement... I really don't want flowers or a card. I do want a day of memorable moments...and each year I get the memory of ...a text...
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Old 05-12-2019, 02:45 PM
 
Location: Frisco, TX
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I am not a person who likes to give gifts, so I just donít. Today I took my mom out to lunch to her favorite restaurant to celebrate Motherís Day, but I take her to this restaurant several times a month because we both enjoy it, so I didnít really do anything out of the ordinary. I did ask her where she wanted to eat since itís Motherís Day weekend and she chose this restaurant again. I also gave her a Motherís Day card today because I know she likes cards, but she prefers to see money in the card and I didnít put any in there because I just happened to not have any cash in my wallet today, and anything less than $50 sheís going to consider cheap anyway based on my income and she knows that Iíve been spending lots of money on other stuff lately, so itís not an issue of me not having it.

Just wondering what are other people doing for their moms for Motherís Day? Do I need to run out and buy something else to give to her tomorrow? I wasnít planning to. She knows that I am just not really into holidays or gift giving, and I donít think she should take it personally. I never expect gifts from her for any holiday because I work and I can (and do) buy my own stuff. I know that she cares about me regardless of what she gives me for my birthday, Christmas, etc. She knows that I donít care about receiving gifts, but she just likes to give them anyway. But once she starts talking to her sisters and other women she knows and comparing what their children did for them for Motherís Day, then sheís going to feel like I didnít do enough for her.

If you are a mom and you have adult children, what kinds of Motherís Day gifts are you expecting or hoping for? And what will you be doing for your mom (if sheís alive and you you have contact with her).
Do you like to receive gifts? Iím asking because there are people who get embarrassed about receiving them. If you still like to receive them but not give them, then thatís cheap on your part.
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Old 05-12-2019, 04:45 PM
 
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Is that what you do/did for your mom?
Sometimes I would do things for her or merely spend time with her. Canít do that anymore.
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