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I don’t approve of people suggesting making the dog sick. This is crazy. Also on another point my dogs shared my popsicles when I was a kid and I’m still alive. Lol. That being said leave the dog at home. Or they could just leave the dog in a bedroom and have the owners let it go potty periodically. But probably best at home or a boarding facility.
I agree - don't purposefully make the dog sick or have diarrhea, etc. It's not the dog's fault the owner has some co-dependent issues.
My dogs go only where they are welcome and that certainly isn't a house party full of people.
My dogs lick the occasional plate too! But then the plate goes into the dishwasher where it's sterilized with bleach.
It's a family gathering so she clearly knows other people, and sounds like they all live in fairly close proximity to one another, surely someone else could drive her.
You guys don't know the back story which I'm not getting into. Just take my word for it that I'm the only one who can drive the guest.
You guys don't know the back story which I'm not getting into. Just take my word for it that I'm the only one who can drive the guest.
OK, so to summarize, so we can stop this repetitive thread:
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Then it sounds like you have no other choice but to suck it up and enjoy the party.
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Originally Posted by Frostnip
OP, sounds like those dog owners are rude. But if you want the power to control an event you also need to take on the responsibility for hosting it. If someone else is hosting it, it's their decision, not yours.
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Originally Posted by seain dublin
Since it's not your house, you have no say so in the matter.
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Originally Posted by UNC4Me
The OP is not hosting the event. The hosts should tell the owners to leave the dog home if that’s their wish, but if they don’t and tell the owners the dog can come, the other guests will just have to deal with the dog or decline the invitation.
Their house, their choice.
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Then I guess you’ll just have to deal with whatever the hosts decide.
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Originally Posted by Scooby Snacks
It's not OP's house, thus it's not OP's decision.
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Originally Posted by Ohiogirl81
Not your party, not your decision. Either don't go, or make nice with the doggie.
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Originally Posted by thinkalot
It's not your party. You don't set the rules. You don't get to make decisions about the guest list. You have a choice to attend or not to attend. Someone else could escort the guest of honor.
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You aren't hosting the party. It's not your dog. You're just a guest and a witness to whatever goes on, so all this taking mental and emotional ownership of whatever the dog does is just you making yourself anxious and miserable.
Forget about it. It's inconsiderate for them to bring a giant dog, but you can't change it. So change what you CAN change - the way you obsess about the problem.
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However, it is not your place to request the dog stay home. If the person hosting doesn't want the dog they need to speak up.
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Originally Posted by crd08
If the dog has been coming people must not mind, or at least not enough to complain. And if the host doesn't care, nothing you can do.
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Originally Posted by Diana Holbrook
If this is a family thing, then there is a power structure in place. If not, unless you are the host, or the parent of the dog people, or even the 'guest of honor' then your opinion on the dog doesn't really matter, and will only make you sound fussy and bossy. My advice is drop it. It's not your job to manage this. You're probably worrying too much about it.
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Then get the guest of honor to ask the host to ban the dog.
Or acknowledge that you can't do anything about this and that your anxiety leading up to it will make the situation worse for you.
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If you are not hosting, or have allergies, then you don't have much choice, except not going
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OP, it's really not your function, you really have no right to tell the hosts, or the other guests, what to do with their dog. I don't think you want to be the one grumbling about it at the event either. Go and make the best of it. If the dog is going to be a pest, it will do it on it's own, you won't need to point it out. If you do, and the others disagree, it will be you who is the disruptive one. No way to win that. Grin and bear it.
OK, so to summarize, so we can stop this repetitive thread:
Your points are all very fine and well, except that you and so many other people you quoted seem to have missed the OP's post about the host being tooafraid of the dog owners to say anything to them about their dog to ask them to leave the dog at home. It appears that only a couple of people paid attention to that little fact.
You guys don't know the back story which I'm not getting into. Just take my word for it that I'm the only one who can drive the guest.
I'm happy enough and willing (no choice, really) to take your word for it that you are the only possible way for the guest of honor to get to this party, but at the same time, I'm very curious about why that is and I imagine others are, too. What's the big deal about it that you aren't willing to tell us this mysterious back story? If you don't want to tell us why you are the only person in the world who can take her, maybe you would be willing to share why you don't want to tell us. Or is that some kind of big secret, too?
What happens if you get sick and are in the hospital and not able to take her? Does that mean the party is cancelled?
There will be a special family gathering this summer. They're "indoor" people so with about 20 of us on one floor it will be a bit crowded. One family in the group brings their St. Bernard along at holidays and birthdays. He either takes up two cushions on the furniture or sprawls out on the floor and you have to step over/around him. There's not a fenced yard to put him in. His head goes over the table and while he hasn't taken food off platters (yet), one never knows what an animal might do and it still looks gross seeing a dog hovering over meat and sniffing the cake. We've asked that the dog be left behind for this one special occasion but they've said "he's a member of the family". Don't you think this is a reasonable request?
About 10 years ago I had Thanks Giving dinner with an adult Great Dane. He was like a freaking horse but he was well behaved. He was fed before we ate and seemed more in need of being part of the group at the table than eating more food. I wasn't grossed out but his damn tail was downright painful when he whipped you with it. After awhile he went into the garage and took a long nap.
Keep shovelin' that hole you've made for yourself.
Oh, BS.
I've lived around dogs my whole life and have two lounging in our family room at this moment.
Dogs get into and consume all sorts of stuff. Some of it, such as milk products, gives them diarrhea. It's why most don't feed their dogs dinner scraps but stick with dog food.
It's also why most don't bring their dogs to gatherings where people can give them food that is not part of their regular diet.
If you want to haul your St. Bernard to the family gathering to shed and slobber all over everyone and everything, then you're the one that should be ashamed of yourself.
What if everyone showed up with their menagerie of pit bulls, mastiffs, and retrievers?
Your points are all very fine and well, except that you and so many other people you quoted seem to have missed the OP's post about the host being tooafraid of the dog owners to say anything to them about their dog to ask them to leave the dog at home. It appears that only a couple of people paid attention to that little fact.
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I didn't see anywhere where the OP said the host was too afraid. Just that the OP wants the host to say something, but for whatever reason the host isn't interested. Most likely it's because the OP is the only one with a problem.
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I didn't see anywhere where the OP said the host was too afraid. Just that the OP wants the host to say something, but for whatever reason the host isn't interested. Most likely it's because the OP is the only one with a problem.
It's post #67.
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