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Old 05-12-2019, 03:50 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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Can't. It's a surprise party. I'd be mortified if that dog started licking/eating the cake!
Then don't have any cake.

You aren't hosting the party. It's not your dog. You're just a guest and a witness to whatever goes on, so all this taking mental and emotional ownership of whatever the dog does is just you making yourself anxious and miserable.

Forget about it. It's inconsiderate for them to bring a giant dog, but you can't change it. So change what you CAN change - the way you obsess about the problem.

 
Old 05-12-2019, 03:57 PM
 
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Me not attending is not an option. I'm bringing along a family member for something special on her behalf, and she's not familiar with the dog. I think (as may she) having a big dog hovering over the food looks unappetizing and the dog doesn't need to be there.
I'm a dog lover and I wouldn't want any dog hovering over food. When I lived with my sister (who has 4 dogs to my 1) she would invite folks over to swim/bbq. We kept the dogs sequestered until after everyone ate and then we let em all out. My female yorkie was not happy being away from me and let me know it by giving me love bites on my hand. Women.
 
Old 05-12-2019, 04:23 PM
 
Location: Coastal New Jersey
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I don't mind dogs, but they do get annoying begging for food all the time. Then the owner always says, "oh don't give them anything!" but the dog is staring you down or putting his head or paw in your lap while you are eating. Then you feel mean not giving them anything.
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Old 05-12-2019, 04:49 PM
 
Location: on the wind
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I don't mind dogs, but they do get annoying begging for food all the time. Then the owner always says, "oh don't give them anything!" but the dog is staring you down or putting his head or paw in your lap while you are eating. Then you feel mean not giving them anything.
Responsible dog owners teach their dogs not to beg. Most family dogs I meet while visiting their homes don't, mine don't. The OP knows the dog and didn't mention that it begs. Many owners of very large powerful dogs make a point of training them well...they HAVE to for obvious reasons!
 
Old 05-12-2019, 04:58 PM
 
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I love dogs, but I never took my Bouvier des Flandres to the homes of family or friends. I don't care if a fog is a tiny Chihauha, it shouldn't be taken into others homes unless specifically invited. Pets that live in a house shouldn't have to put up with visiting animals.

However, it is not your place to request the dog stay home. If the person hosting doesn't want the dog they need to speak up.
 
Old 05-12-2019, 05:02 PM
 
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Can't. It's a surprise party. I'd be mortified if that dog started licking/eating the cake!
Maybe that would be a good thing. Maybe then the dog would be banned from future events.

Maybe you should borrow a new equally large dog to bring. Or a cat. ;-)
 
Old 05-12-2019, 05:06 PM
 
Location: Coastal New Jersey
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Responsible dog owners teach their dogs not to beg. Most family dogs I meet while visiting their homes don't, mine don't. The OP knows the dog and didn't mention that it begs. Many owners of very large powerful dogs make a point of training them well...they HAVE to for obvious reasons!
My BIL used to teach his dogs not to beg, but most dogs I know aren't taught that. Or ignore the instructions lol.

It doesn't make me dislike the dog, though. I think they are cute. I couldn't have one because I always worked long hours with a long commute, and it wouldn't have been fair to a dog.

I just feel bad because I'd happily give them a treat but usually the dog owner says not to.
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Old 05-12-2019, 05:23 PM
 
Location: OHIO
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If the dog has been coming people must not mind, or at least not enough to complain. And if the host doesn't care, nothing you can do.
 
Old 05-12-2019, 05:25 PM
 
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I CANNOT miss this event as I'm personally escorting the guest of honor over there.

You have to go and you aren't the host, so can't control who or what is there. So you see the dog close to the food, if you aren't afraid to speak up, ask the dog owner to keep the dog away from the food. Do so others can hear, but not obnoxiously. The dog owner may agree or may tell you not to worry about it. Then others can have the opportunity to say something. But at least you have opened up the subject.



But yeah, that is unsanitary to have a dog at an event with food. I can't imagine someone letting a large dog near a table of food. I have a relative who brought a small well behaved dog to a family gathering. It sat on her lap or feet the whole time, so I don't think anyone cared.
 
Old 05-12-2019, 05:35 PM
 
Location: on the wind
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But yeah, that is unsanitary to have a dog at an event with food. I can't imagine someone letting a large dog near a table of food.
Unsanitary??? I shudder to think about all the millions of households with dogs. They store, prepare, serve, and consume food several times every single day in the same house the dog lives in! Most of them haven't died yet. Maybe they're just walking dead.

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