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Old 05-12-2019, 05:44 PM
 
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good for you.
as they say: the first step is admitting you have a problem.
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Old 05-12-2019, 06:17 PM
 
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I feel a little bit better after talking about it. I think it wasn't just jealousy, I felt like my niece, nephew and my sister were treated unjustly when they were little over there. There was also a time a little after that I just said "hi" to one of the daughters and she just blew me off in a really rude way. We know all our immediate neighbors around us, even ones further down the street.
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Old 05-12-2019, 07:05 PM
 
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They really do seem to have the perfect life. Parents with kids in their early 20s who all have expensive looking cars and they look like they get them detailed every single day. It just feels unreal, my mind is just blown away. I know the grass always seems greener on the other side and for all I know they are all up to their neck in debt but I just don't know. They all have kids too that they bring over to visit their parents.

I am not depressed or anything because of it but it is just super annoying. When the kids were younger, they use to play at their house; I tried to interact with their kids around my age but they were just so withdrawn. Eventually they took their soccer game to the backyard because they didn't want my niece, nephew or sister to play with their kids in their yard. Maybe that incident left a really bad taste in my mouth and I don't particularly care for them anymore after the way they treated the kids.
Since your neighbor has kids your own age, does that mean you are still living at home with your parents?

So your jealous that your peers have moved out from their parents house, have good jobs, nice cars, and have started families of their own. Are these all things that you want too?

Or is it just that you don't like these people and don't think they deserve to be happy in life?
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Old 05-12-2019, 07:44 PM
 
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Since your neighbor has kids your own age, does that mean you are still living at home with your parents?

So your jealous that your peers have moved out from their parents house, have good jobs, nice cars, and have started families of their own. Are these all things that you want too?
Yes and yes.

I think it is what I really want in my life. I want to work towards that and eventually achieve that. Something just screams out to be that I am really behind and need to pick up the pace. Maybe I can use that as motivation in my own life and eventually gain more positive energy.
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Old 05-12-2019, 08:57 PM
 
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You need to pay more attention to moving forward with your own goals. That way, you won’t be wasting energy comparing your life with theirs.

It is fruitless to resent them for having done things that you have not done. This is in your control, not theirs.
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Old 05-12-2019, 09:00 PM
 
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Ok, so what positive steps have you taken to accomplish it? Get a job, rent a place, move out on your own. That's the normal progression. Is something stopping you? Is there something else you haven't told us?
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Old 05-13-2019, 02:48 AM
 
Location: Port Charlotte FL
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all that negative energy spent on jealousy makes you an insecure person..get over it, forget the neighbors and work on being yourself..
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Old 05-13-2019, 03:28 AM
 
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learn to define yourself, refine yourself and divine yourself. It really is seeking peace within yourself. Be you, whatever that may be.

I have zero desire to be as the poem Deserata ascribes " There will always be greater and lesser persons then yourself" What a terrible way to exist as if some are beneath us and some too high above to be in our company. Its a slighted style of arrogance.

Turn that jealousy into envy of the good kind. Which propels one to attain a certain quality. I Envy my friends disposition to be graceful. Nothing wrong with that style of envy. She glides into rooms where as I stumble with two left feet. Yet each day I put one foot in front of the other and find a bit of confidence . I appreciate a quality ....try to do that with folks....
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Old 05-13-2019, 04:19 AM
 
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“Good morning neighbor!”

I HATE YOU!”
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Old 05-13-2019, 05:56 AM
 
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Try this:
Imagine a for sale sign going up in their yard followed by neighbors from hell moving in. Loud parties, loud rap music at all hours, people coming and going at all hours making you wonder if they are selling meth. One day you come home and realize someone has stolen things from your garage.
Now, appreciate that you have quiet, respectful neighbors and be thankful.
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