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Old 05-20-2019, 08:12 PM
 
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Diss, if this person were truly your friend, she'd know how uncomfortable you are in such situations and wouldn't have pushed you into it.
An argument could be made that she pushed him into it because she is a true friend.
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Old 05-20-2019, 08:45 PM
 
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An argument could be made that she pushed him into it because she is a true friend.
Good to see that the "introvert = bad, extrovert = good" argument is still running rampant here.
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Old 05-20-2019, 09:15 PM
 
Location: Crook County, Illinois
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texan2yankee's comments seem uncalled for, but he/she is correct that you won't have these opportunities as you get older...and you'll likely regret having passed on them.
This has got to be one of the most brilliant posts in this thread. The coolest, most off-the-wall meeting situations happen when you're YOUNG. When you get older, you no longer have those opportunities. Case in point: I was 19, drinking at a party at some guy's house. I went into the backyard to smoke a cigarette, and started talking to some girl. Suddenly, we saw the Red and Blue Lights of Death out front. So we snuck out the back gate, ran down the alley, and hid in a nearby train station. We talked for a while, then she called a cab and I caught a train. She look a liking to me, so we exchanged numbers. I knew she was into me, because she started rubbing her hair against me and holding my hand with fingers intertwined. Unfortunately, young and stupid me ruined everything by calling her too many times. But what if I didn't? Can you imagine how cool it would have been to date someone after having met while narrowly escaping the cops? Such meeting encounters just don't happen when you're older. Yeah, you meet in more "adult" ways, which is fine, and yet... it lacks that fun intriguing factor.

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we have many chances to be emotionally brave and vulnerable, or not, early in life. eventually, those chances diminish to zero and there are no more chances.
That's Blue Pill talk. In reality, being vulnerable is a kiss of death for a man. Yeah, it's politically correct, and may even win approval in the short term, but in the grand scheme of things, it's an easy way to lose a woman's respect. And once a woman's stops respecting a man, she loses attraction toward him.
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Old 05-20-2019, 10:47 PM
 
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Diss, if this person were truly your friend, she'd know how uncomfortable you are in such situations and wouldn't have pushed you into it.
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An argument could be made that she pushed him into it because she is a true friend.
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Good to see that the "introvert = bad, extrovert = good" argument is still running rampant here.
Nah, just offering a different perspective.

Being pushed outside your comfort zone can often be rewarding.
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Old 05-21-2019, 05:34 AM
 
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Nah, just offering a different perspective.

Being pushed outside your comfort zone can often be rewarding.
Sorry if I don't find telling someone that a trait of their core personality is "wrong" to be "just offering a different perspective."

I know society at large thinks it's okay to dump all over introverts that way, but that doesn't mean it's not an antiquated notion we should stop clinging to.
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Old 05-21-2019, 05:48 AM
 
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An argument could be made that she pushed him into it because she is a true friend.
If someone did that to me, we would not remain friends.
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Old 05-21-2019, 05:53 AM
 
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Sorry if I don't find telling someone that a trait of their core personality is "wrong" to be "just offering a different perspective."

I know society at large thinks it's okay to dump all over introverts that way, but that doesn't mean it's not an antiquated notion we should stop clinging to.
Extroverts can frequently benefit from being pushed out of their comfort zone, too.

djsuperfly, your insecurities are showing.
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Old 05-21-2019, 06:23 AM
 
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Extroverts can frequently benefit from being pushed out of their comfort zone, too.

djsuperfly, your insecurities are showing.
All you are again saying is:

Extrovert=right
Introvert=wrong

You're so conditioned to believe this that you find it to be "insecurities."
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Old 05-21-2019, 06:28 AM
 
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Except that none of those posts mentioned introvert/extrovert. You inserted that.

And I'm saying that as a proud introvert, btw.
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Old 05-21-2019, 08:59 AM
 
Location: A Yankee in northeast TN
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Nah, just offering a different perspective.

Being pushed outside your comfort zone can often be rewarding.
There is a difference between being pushed out of your comfort zone (I am 'pushed' at work often) and being ambushed while being totally unprepared, by someone who is supposed to be a friend and wants to help you.
I'm pretty sure most of you who think this is someone trying to help, would be talking out of the other side of your mouths if one of your friends tried to force you into doing something you thought was pointless or stupid. "What do you mean you don't drink, I think you need it to be sociable, guess what's in that glass in your hand!" -being bent to someone else's belief because they think it's good for you is not friendship.

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