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Old 05-27-2019, 04:34 PM
Location: Colorado (PA at heart)
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Originally Posted by sayulita View Post
I'm sure most of us know that, but in order to pursue any legal case should it arise, the fact that she reported it will factor heavily. Then the burden is on the company to explain why they didn't remedy the situation.
Go to HR with a witness, tell your story, and continue documenting EVERYTHING. As I said before, make sure you tell family and friends who can back you up if needed.
Without an HR report, your story will be viewed with much greater skepticism.

Whether HR is there to help or not (which they aren't really) you will have gone on record. It's important! Especially if there is punishment or retaliation of any kind directed at you.
Exactly. This IS an HR issue if several female employees decide to sue the company for not doing anything about the sexual harassment of a male employee when it was reported to them.
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Old 05-27-2019, 04:40 PM
Location: Colorado (PA at heart)
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Originally Posted by Nov3 View Post
I disagree with the Gang mentality to all rush in together to tell HR or have it documented.
It's not a "gang mentality" it's just the truth. The man's behavior has made several women uncomfortable and continues to behave this way even when asked to stop. And considering how often accusations made by only one woman get dismissed and ignored, sometimes the ONLY way to be taken seriously is for more than one woman to voice the same, truthful complaint. Maybe they don't all need to go into together at the same time, but definitely each one of them should at least make an individual complaint.

You'll only know if you were being "TOO Harsh" if and when you get all the information. At this time you only have your perspective and that is not the entire perspective.
No, actually, she also has the perspective of several other women who happen to have the same complaint... and you STILL don't believe her. Unbelievable.
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Old 05-27-2019, 07:55 PM
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He keeps doing it because nobody has set him straight about how his behavior is coming across. No doubt made worse by the fact that apparently some co-workers think it’s harmless and that people should just be flattered by the attention. No wonder he’s still doing it. Who knows how far this will go before someone finally speaks up.

I’m not saying you should be the one to do it. It might end up costing you your job if your employer doesn’t feel the need to enforce sexual harassment laws in the workplace. You have to work out whether you think you will be supported or not. If not, then it’s time to look for another job.
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