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I started thinking about former bullies in school. But then it got me wondering- what is the difference between someone who is bullying and somebody who is being "mean" or a jerk?
I remember people were definitely jerks to me from time to time. But I'm trying to decide if it was true bullying or just kids being rude.
Somebody who is mean will be mean to everyone they don't like in the same manner. You usually try to interact with them first. That is how you find out they are mean.
A bully will target an individual or a small group. The bully will ignore that you don't want to interact with them and will usually instigate the negative interaction.
Not necessarily. Are you familiar with online bullying?
This is how USLegal describes bullying:
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Bullying is generally defined as an intentional act that causes harm to others, and may involve verbal harassment, verbal or non-verbal threats, physical assault, stalking, or other methods of coercion such as manipulation, blackmail, or extortion. It is aggressive behavior that intends to hurt, threaten or frighten another person. An imbalance of power between the aggressor and the victim is often involved.
A bully deliberately seeks out targets to terrorize and comes looking for them over and over to pick on them. A meanie doesn't seek out targets and more likely prefers to simply avoid or ignore people he doesn't like.
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Well, some people exhibit bullying behaviors as a general rule. We had one poster on C-D post about being talked over and his comments dismissed in a meeting. That is a form of everyday bullying. And, IMO, bullying is usually mean.
So, I think I would characterize bullying as a form of mean behavior. Bullies are mean, usually. But I suppose being mean, as we usually think of meanness, does not necessarily include bullying. I can certainly imagine an insecure, powerless person being mean.
Bullies exert power over others buy exhibiting physical or social dominance.
A bully deliberately seeks out targets to terrorize and comes looking for them over and over to pick on them. A meanie doesn't seek out targets and more likely prefers to simply avoid or ignore people he doesn't like.
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Some people define bullying as repeated actions, not just one, isolated incident. The best example is a child who is not invited to a birthday party, while their parent may say that their child was being bullied by the one act of not being invited, IMHO, it is not a pattern of behavior.
Some people define bullying as repeated actions, not just one, isolated incident. The best example is a child who is not invited to a birthday party, while their parent may say that their child was being bullied by the one act of not being invited, IMHO, it is not a pattern of behavior.
Yes, and not inviting someone to a party is not bullying.
Yes, and not inviting someone to a party is not bullying.
If it is a repeated and advertised act of exclusion, for example, it could be.
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