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An acquaintance is getting married and I was invited to the wedding however I declined (I hate going to things like that). I chat with the guy every once in a while, never been to his home or hang out with him socially. If it matters the bride & groom are in their mid 40's and it's a first-time marriage for both.
Is a gift appropriate or not expected since I am not attending? Just wondering what other peoples thoughts on it are.
I would get them something not very expensive from their registry.
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Is a gift appropriate or not expected since I am not attending? Just wondering what other peoples thoughts on it are.
IMO...a gift is a gift NOT an obligation. You don’t need permission not to send a gift if you don’t want to ofc....tho my thoughts are that I would send something because I would want to if somebody thought to invite me. You could include a personal short note in a card wishing them well & sorry you were unable to make it.
IMO you should only give a gift if you would have been likely to give one even if you hadn't been invited.
You make a good point about thinking of the nature of the relationship between the two people. I've given wedding gifts to friends regardless of whether or not we were invited. I don't buy gifts for people I barely know, just because they sent an invite.
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I don't buy gifts for people I barely know, just because they sent an invite.
BUT there are ppl that genuinely wish others well or like to congratulate them even if they are more work acquaintances than close friend. A small gift does that...especially if you can’t attend or you don’t want to. I have relatives I barely know in Arizona...but I would still want to send them a wedding gift, if they invited us..tho I know we wouldn’t go to the wedding.
If you're not friendly with them and arent going then no need to send a gift. Obviously if you attended a gift would be appropriate or if you were close friends and couldnt make it.
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It’s not a question of should or shouldn’t tho....it’s a question of wanting to. That’s what a gift is.
