I am brutally angry at one of my friends right now! (jealous, female)

[Freecia]

I think you've definetely made the right move. True friends grow old together and they share their happiness, pain, and even anger together. Once you find a characterstic you don't like about your friend, your friend should respect that and try not to present that in front of you. It sounds like your friend has changed and therefore, it's probably the best that you do not associate yourself with him. I personally think that's a good choice. After all, you have a choice in the type of friends you make as well, you know?

[Mopac1980]

Originally Posted by Freecia

I think you've definetely made the right move. True friends grow old together and they share their happiness, pain, and even anger together. Once you find a characterstic you don't like about your friend, your friend should respect that and try not to present that in front of you. It sounds like your friend has changed and therefore, it's probably the best that you do not associate yourself with him. I personally think that's a good choice. After all, you have a choice in the type of friends you make as well, you know?

He has changed and sadly not for the better, I've developed alot of maturity over the years and he hasn't and there are times when he acts like that he should be the leader of our friendship cause he is a few years older than me and that things should go his way, he's not very good at compromising things and he always complains and gripes over the little things in life, lately he is letting his karokee performances get to his head and he was practically forcing his friends to get together with him at the bars and casinos so they can watch him perform on the karokee machine and he even suggested to me that I should get somebody to work for me so I could go to the casinos and the bars with him.

Plus the bar he invited me to spend time with him is located in the ghetto part of town and it's a late night event and I don't feel comfortable going to bars in the late night hours and he didn't show any concern or any regards on how I was feeling about me not wanting to go the bars and he told me that the bar he is performing at the karokee machine is a safe place to hang out but me and my family didn't agree with him, plus he got pissed off at me and another friend of his for dining in the diner room when he wanted us to eat in the karokee room when we went to the casino together, he didn't even want me to go on my vacation that I've worked hard for so I could get together with him on the anniversary of his karokee performances and I've told him I am going on my vacation whether if I like it or not and I did and had a great time.

Fortunately he hasn't been calling me lately and I'm glad that he hasn't.

[Fat Freddy]

Originally Posted by Mopac1980

...I have a learning disability...

No kidding.

[DD70]

Originally Posted by Mopac1980

Right now I am brutally angry at one of my online friends cause she didn't even bother talking to me yet she is talking with her other friends and I feel very hurt and betrayed by her behavior cause I thought we were friends and I would give anything in the world to be her friend and I was really looking forward to chatting with her tonight.

I sometimes wish I can have hundreds of friends at home so I wouldn't give a crap about my online friend who has brutally angered me this evening.

What I deserve to have is friends who can provide me the good times such as road trips, boating trips, camping trips, off roading trips along with getting invited to the amusement parks, rock concerts, water skiing, jet skiing, go 4 wheeling and get invited to many get together parties, that would definitely take my friggin' cares away!

Why can't I have those friends!

Awww sweatpea do not get down. Meeting new online buds is exciting and has nothing to do with you. And having friends in the real world goes the same....there is nothing wrong with you. Instead of taking it personally concentrate on making new buds online and branching out. She will come around eventually is she truly is a e-pal. And if she does not? It is her loss not yours.
DD70

[Mopac1980]

Originally Posted by DD70

Awww sweatpea do not get down. Meeting new online buds is exciting and has nothing to do with you. And having friends in the real world goes the same....there is nothing wrong with you. Instead of taking it personally concentrate on making new buds online and branching out. She will come around eventually is she truly is a e-pal. And if she does not? It is her loss not yours.
DD70

I guess that I did expect alot out of her cause I thought she was the best online friend I've ever had and I really took alot of pride in our friendship and she has helped me cope with alot of issues, I do feel that when she logs in again we'll have some good meaningful chats again, she may had something to do to where she didn't have time to chat with me and I've just took it the wrong way and acted like she was snubbing me off in favor of other friends.

Plus this friend has inspired me to be more successful out of life and to accomplish more out of life cause I wanted to be as successful as her and to accomplish alot out of life, I will try to make new buds online and maybe I'll find alot of fun friends to chat with, I've been friends with this woman for almost 3 years now and she is a highly inspirational young woman who is the same age as me and she is everything I wanna be.

[DD70]

Originally Posted by Mopac1980

I guess that I did expect alot out of her cause I thought she was the best online friend I've ever had and I really took alot of pride in our friendship and she has helped me cope with alot of issues, I do feel that when she logs in again we'll have some good meaningful chats again, she may had something to do to where she didn't have time to chat with me and I've just took it the wrong way and acted like she was snubbing me off in favor of other friends.

Plus this friend has inspired me to be more successful out of life and to accomplish more out of life cause I wanted to be as successful as her and to accomplish alot out of life, I will try to make new buds online and maybe I'll find alot of fun friends to chat with, I've been friends with this woman for almost 3 years now and she is a highly inspirational young woman who is the same age as me and she is everything I wanna be.

I agree that is a long time to be friends and maybe as you stated she is really busy and does no have the time to get online or perhaps she is going through something? Do you have her number? If not do nt give up just keep on pming her! And hey you can pm me if you would like I am always open to new pals, even though I do belong to other forums

[Mopac1980]

Originally Posted by DD70

I agree that is a long time to be friends and maybe as you stated she is really busy and does no have the time to get online or perhaps she is going through something? Do you have her number? If not do nt give up just keep on pming her! And hey you can pm me if you would like I am always open to new pals, even though I do belong to other forums

I won't give up on my friendship cause she is a valuable friend for me and she has helped me cope with alot of problems I was having and helped me gain alot of wisdom, awareness and confidence, I do not have her number or her email address, she doesn't feel comfortable giving her friends any of her personal information.

I do chat on alot of forums myself and I've met alot of interesting people online.

[DD70]

Originally Posted by Mopac1980

I won't give up on my friendship cause she is a valuable friend for me and she has helped me cope with alot of problems I was having and helped me gain alot of wisdom, awareness and confidence, I do not have her number or her email address, she doesn't feel comfortable giving her friends any of her personal information.

I do chat on alot of forums myself and I've met alot of interesting people online.

Just stay positive if she has not been online do you know any forums she may belong too? If not just keep hoping for the best you never know she could be having problems you know?

[Mopac1980]

Originally Posted by DD70

Just stay positive if she has not been online do you know any forums she may belong too? If not just keep hoping for the best you never know she could be having problems you know?

She only chats on two forums that I know of and we only chat on one, we've had chatted on two forums before but we've decided to just chat on one forum, I now wished I didn't get so angry and worked up over her not talking to me, I wasn't in a very good mood earlier that evening and I guess that I've just snapped and lost control of my anger when I found out she wasn't there to talk to me.

[allforcats]

Originally Posted by Mopac1980

Why can't I have those friends!

Uhhh, because the way you express yourself is self-centered, self-involved, self-serving? Sound about right?
P.S. Your life IS all about you. But no one else's life is about you ..... People don't live their lives to do what you want, say what you want, be what you want.

And if you feel "brutally" anything, you need to replace your vicious tendencies with ones that are gentle and relaxed. You'll thank yourself big time.

Originally Posted by Mopac1980

What I deserve to have is ----

What you deserve to have is qualities that enhance yourself. Then you'll have something really worth giving to others that they'll really want -- like warmth, joy, kindness, compassion, understanding, forgiveness, caring, mirth.
So if you want friends, BE someone people WANT to spend time with.