Friends who only answer the phone when convenient for them (boyfriend, guilty)

[jillz]

Originally Posted by cpg35223

Yep. Here's how guys call other guys.

GUY1: Hey.
GUY2: Hey, bud, what's up?
GUY1: Nothing. Wanna grab a beer?
GUY2: Sure. Where?
GUY1: O'Malleys. Eight?
GUY2: Yeah, let me clear it with the wife. [PAUSE] She's cool with it.
GUY1: See you there.

Now, here's a telephone message:

GUY1: Hey, Joe. Wanna grab a beer tonight? O'Malley's at 8. Call if you can't make it. Bye.

Then, if Joe doesn't call back, caller goes to O'Malley's anyway. If Joe doesn't call back the next day, then caller assumes he got busy. If Joe doesn't call back within the same week, caller assumes somebody dies. After seven days, caller calls back to make sure everybody's okay.

You mean dudes don't talk about how they are doing their hair for the night or what they are wearing? I cannot believe you don't at least share make-up tips. Be honest!

[cpg35223]

Originally Posted by jillz

You mean dudes don't talk about how they are doing their hair for the night or what they are wearing? I cannot believe you don't at least share make-up tips. Be honest!

Well, only if we want to discuss which Elton John song we like best, or how the French judge in the ice skating championships is soooooo unfair.

[DragonFly757]

I am voting this thread as one of the top CD threads of all time (ETA: At least since I've been here). How entertaining!

[K-Luv]

Heck yeah I only answer the phone when it is convenient for me, why wouldn't I be? I do check my messages so if it was a really important call I'd get back to the person ASAP.

[K-Luv]

Originally Posted by cpg35223

Yep. Here's how guys call other guys.

GUY1: Hey.
GUY2: Hey, bud, what's up?
GUY1: Nothing. Wanna grab a beer?
GUY2: Sure. Where?
GUY1: O'Malleys. Eight?
GUY2: Yeah, let me clear it with the wife. [PAUSE] She's cool with it.
GUY1: See you there.

Here's the bachelor's version:

Guy 1: Wassup?
Guy 2: Nohing.
Guy 1: Wanna hang out later?
Guy 2: Yeah.
Guy 1: Cool.
Guy 2: Yeah.

Click.

Here's the message if it went to voice mail:

Hey dude, go to ____________ later if you are not too busy being a little *****.

[IBrakeforTailgaters]

I have friends and family who do this to me. I blame a lot of it on being busy, but I get mad when they only return calls when they need something. It's very aggravating when you want to genuinely talk to someone but they only come around when they need something from you. I do screen my calls, though, and while I may not answer immediately, I make sure to call back as fast as I can.

[Tzaphkiel]

Originally Posted by jillz

You mean dudes don't talk about how they are doing their hair for the night or what they are wearing? I cannot believe you don't at least share make-up tips. Be honest!

i remember seeing a hilarious stand-up comedy routine once about what the conversations would sound like if men had menstrual periods, the bragging and posturing about how "strong their flow was" comparing "I use maxi" "yeah, well I need SUPER maxi" complete with crotch grabbing, and boxer adjusting. I have never laughed so hard in my life.

[lola8822]

Originally Posted by movin'on

Anyone else deal with this? I have been now since December and it's gotten old. I have this friend who never picks up when I really need to talk to her (which is VERY rarely as I know better than to call her on the weekends). I always answer when she calls. I'd already told her once it seems like I am only a M through F email friend. Anyway, I was having a really bad day yesterday and she as usual did not pick up. I left her a VM asking her to call me and she sent me an email last night, which is quite usual, as she spends all weekend with her BF and cannot be bothered. Anyway, I called her a couple of months ago on a Sat as I was going to the ER thinking I was having a stroke. I called her twice asking her to please call me back, which she did after I'd already been in the ER for awhile. She has called me twice on weekends, always having some anxiety or BF crisis, and I've always been there for her - the last time even going to far as to call me when I was out of town over some crisis with her BF. I spent an hour talking to her that day, which I really didn't feel like doing, as I was out of town trying to escape from stuff where I live and just not think about certain things. I called her back twice that weekend needing to talk to her and, of course, she did not pick up the phone.

Anyone else have to deal with stuff like this and do you just give up after a while? I am at that point myself. It's very frustrating to always be available to someone and not have it reciprocated. Thoughts?

Hey girl, I'm sorry you had to deal with that.....I, unfortunatley, know how it feels.....I had a cousin, also my best friend or so i thought, who was exactly like that....after too long I finally had it with the way she treated me and told her point blank that I had been an amazing friend to her and I didn't deserve the way she treated me......I pretty much had to cut her out and she hasn't tried to call me since (been about 4 months now) so obviously I did the right thing........It's really not worht it and now i'm so much happier it's pretty cool....I clean house every once in a while aka cut loose all "fake" people in my life.....they tend to sneak in there. Good luck girl, I hope everything works out for you!

[optiflex]

Originally Posted by movin'on

Anyone else deal with this? I have been now since December and it's gotten old. I have this friend who never picks up when I really need to talk to her (which is VERY rarely as I know better than to call her on the weekends). I always answer when she calls. I'd already told her once it seems like I am only a M through F email friend. Anyway, I was having a really bad day yesterday and she as usual did not pick up. I left her a VM asking her to call me and she sent me an email last night, which is quite usual, as she spends all weekend with her BF and cannot be bothered. Anyway, I called her a couple of months ago on a Sat as I was going to the ER thinking I was having a stroke. I called her twice asking her to please call me back, which she did after I'd already been in the ER for awhile. She has called me twice on weekends, always having some anxiety or BF crisis, and I've always been there for her - the last time even going to far as to call me when I was out of town over some crisis with her BF. I spent an hour talking to her that day, which I really didn't feel like doing, as I was out of town trying to escape from stuff where I live and just not think about certain things. I called her back twice that weekend needing to talk to her and, of course, she did not pick up the phone.

Anyone else have to deal with stuff like this and do you just give up after a while? I am at that point myself. It's very frustrating to always be available to someone and not have it reciprocated. Thoughts?

I know lots of people who sit there and stare at a ringing phone.

[optiflex]

Originally Posted by jillz

You mean dudes don't talk about how they are doing their hair for the night or what they are wearing? I cannot believe you don't at least share make-up tips. Be honest!

Men are perfectly content to spend hours together and hardly talk. Women cannot even begin to grasp that. They are conversationaholics. Yet a man who even comes near to fitting in half her words on any encounter "talks too much"

On a date start a subject w a girl then lean back and only respond when prompted. She'll be telling all her friends the next day what a great conversationalist you are, when you only spoke 5 sentances the whole night.

Women are predjudiced against men.