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Old 08-06-2008, 03:56 PM
 
Location: Tolland County- Northeastern CT
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Need some help from all those members who think they are Dr. Freud.

I decided I had to end a 10 year friendship.

Reasons; over the last few years this person become increasingly negative. Every time they came to my house for drinks and dinner- I would have to put up with at least one if not two 'put downs'

Something like 'oh you painted your kitchen like Florida' the color---

or comments at a dinner party with mixed couples about my haircut that where less then complimentary.

Or when I had an exotic plant in my garden that is tough to grow here- I get the response in a rather nasty 'oh I know people who have cactus'

or 'Well if you go off your medication you will go back to the way you where before.........'

I put up with this for years- when I visited his house- I had enough class and would never make nasty or mean comments.

When I gave this person a nice set of canisters for his kitchen- never got a 'thank you'.

This person is very well off- has a sense of entitlement- has two trust funds and does not have to worry the rest of his life----

any comments ??
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Old 08-06-2008, 03:58 PM
 
Location: SUNNY AZ
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Need some help from all those members who think they are Dr. Freud.

I decided I had to end a 10 year friendship.

Reasons; over the last few years this person become increasingly negative. Every time they came to my house for drinks and dinner- I would have to put up with at least one if not two 'put downs'

Something like 'oh you painted your kitchen like Florida' the color---

or comments at a dinner party with mixed couples about my haircut that where less then complimentary.

Or when I had an exotic plant in my garden that is tough to grow here- I get the response in a rather nasty 'oh I know people who have cactus'

or 'Well if you go off your medication you will go back to the way you where before.........'

I punt up with this for years- when I visited his house- I had enough class and would never make nasty or mean comments.

When I gave this person a nice set of canisters for his kitchen- never got a 'thank you'.

This person is very well off- has a sense of entitlement- has two trust funds and does not have to worry the rest of his life----

any comments ??
Jealousy is a B*IT*H.....she's jealous......and bitter......clean house, life's too short to have to deal with ppl that treat you that way. Just MO...Best of luck to you
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Old 08-06-2008, 03:59 PM
 
Location: San Diego, CA
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You're better off without someone who is so negative. It's very draining being around people who don't have a positive thing to say about anything. I say good riddance!
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Old 08-06-2008, 04:01 PM
 
Location: Tolland County- Northeastern CT
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Thanks SanAntoQT

I feel the same- also I want to add they are very controlling- and use their 'Assets' aka bank account etc as a means to control and dominate.
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Old 08-06-2008, 04:03 PM
 
Location: San Diego, CA
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Thanks SanAntoQT

I feel the same- also I want to add they are very controlling- and use there 'Assets' aka bank account etc as a means to control and dominate.
Even worse! Obviously, this person believes that if he throws money at the "problem," it'll smooth things over. I wouldn't sweat losing this guy's friendship.
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Old 08-06-2008, 04:05 PM
 
Location: Tolland County- Northeastern CT
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Thanks again

they do try and 'buy' people too bad

bad news for you- He wants to move to San Diego! Seems everyone here knows his MO.
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Old 08-06-2008, 04:07 PM
 
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Bitter, jealous, a poor friend, probable personality disorder...

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Jealousy is a B*IT*H.....she's jealous......and bitter......clean house, life's too short to have to deal with ppl that treat you that way. Just MO...Best of luck to you
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Old 08-06-2008, 04:08 PM
 
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And you were friends with this guy for 10yrs because..........?

This does not sound like any kind of friendship to me. If this was someone that you truly cared for as a friend you would've said something a long time ago and not let petty things get in the way of your frienship. Seems like you let things get by cus you really didn't care one way or the other.

Friendship is like any other relationship.........you gotta have communication. With my friends if i really care about their friendship, i will say something so that it gets cleared up and it doesn't interfere with our friendship.

Like in any relationship, you gotta choose your battles, know when it's worth saying something and when it's such a little thing that it's best just to let it go. If it bothers you that much.........speak up and say something and get passed it, a good friend is not worth loosing over stupid things. JMHO.
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Old 08-06-2008, 04:12 PM
 
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the original poster may have been very optimistic or lonely and therefore put up with negativeness and rudeness throughout the friendship...
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Old 08-06-2008, 04:14 PM
 
Location: Tolland County- Northeastern CT
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Well guyz now you know why he is gone

I tried several times to help him- tried in a soft way he needs medication-
From my observation suffers from GAD general anxiety disorder, also obsessive compulsive disorder (s) of some type- does not need to change I guess- his life has been too easy.
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