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I was walking down the street and saw my next door neighbor (who I do not know to well) standing in her yard with a water hose. I called out her name and said. "hello, how are you doing." Her reply was bored and indifferent. Then she rushed into her home while saying, "I do not have time to talk to you."
Then a few things happened:
My wife, who was standing nearby said, "she really put you in your place didn't she"
The unfriendly next door neighbor showed she had power. By rejecting me, she showed who was boss. In our strange society, the person who rejects the social engagement or offer seems to have the upper hand. It reminded me of when I was in College and went up to a girl at a bar and asked her to dance and when she said no, my friends said, "Boy, she put you in your place didn't she?" I was shot down by the neighbor just like the girl back at the college bar 25 years ago.
And to think I only wanted to be friendly and say hello! No dance was expected!
This sounds like high school. Why are you concerened w/the random reaction of a stranger- maybe she just found out her husband cheated on her....
In my case the ex always cared and obsessed over what neighbors acted like, if they are stuck up etc...I could care less...Move on. people take advantage of your insecurities.
I find the same problem as you!! But on the other hand i can act in an abrupt manner myself on occassion...usually when i have PMT ;0) On the occassions where i find myself acting like a miserable bugger i usually wander off feeling even worse than i was feeling in the first place. She could well have felt bad about it as soon as she had done it....but she wasn't feeling sociable at that precise moment...so you got it in the neck.
I experience both sides of the coin...in my dual-personality...psycho...hormonal way ;0) on't take it personally..as personal as it feels at times. It's not social power....it's just bad timing.
First, about the garden hose, was she watering her lawn with rum? I think she might have stopped to sip a little bit here and there..
Ok.. enough of that.
I strongly believe that the reason some people act cold and indifferent to others is that.. well... they just aren't a people person. Maybe they've never really learned how to be around people.. maybe they are shy.. maybe they just had a porcupine crawl up their bum and puff up.
I don't think that it has anything to do with power... or lack of it.
When I meet people like that I just smile.. and then ask if they've sat on any porcupines lately.
Hey, humor does open the doors for conversation.. Just be ready if that conversation involves shoe throwing.. Ask Bush for help handling that situation.
I was walking down the street and saw my next door neighbor (who I do not know to well) standing in her yard with a water hose. I called out her name and said. "hello, how are you doing." Her reply was bored and indifferent. Then she rushed into her home while saying, "I do not have time to talk to you."
Then a few things happened:
My wife, who was standing nearby said, "she really put you in your place didn't she"
The unfriendly next door neighbor showed she had power. By rejecting me, she showed who was boss. In our strange society, the person who rejects the social engagement or offer seems to have the upper hand. It reminded me of when I was in College and went up to a girl at a bar and asked her to dance and when she said no, my friends said, "Boy, she put you in your place didn't she?" I was shot down by the neighbor just like the girl back at the college bar 25 years ago.
And to think I only wanted to be friendly and say hello! No dance was expected!
she doesn't respect you. But since it's a neighbour, then still be cordial.
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Why are you concerened w/the random reaction of a stranger- maybe she just found out her husband cheated on her....
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