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Old 09-07-2008, 04:28 PM
 
Location: in a house
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I know I have made wonderful, caring friends here on CD, that I hope will last forever. Some may make fun of this concept and some may never understand the power of support that it can have. I thought this would be the perfect place to have this story told.

www.nytimes.com/2008/09/07/fashion/07burn.html
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Old 09-07-2008, 04:38 PM
 
Location: a primitive state
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Yeah, we've lost a few people here and there. It's funny how it affects us.
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Old 09-07-2008, 04:41 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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I know I have made wonderful, caring friends here on CD, that I hope will last forever. Some may make fun of this concept and some may never understand the power of support that it can have. I thought this would be the perfect place to have this story told.

www.nytimes.com/2008/09/07/fashion/07burn.html
Cyber friends are a good thing... as long as they remain cyber! Nobody shows all aspects of his/her personality online. For me, for instance, it's a nice escape where I get to be playful and try to forget all the frustrations and problems in real life. Once you get to know people behind the scenes, even if you haven't met, the magic disappears somewhat and the mundane reality starts being discussed and what fun is THAT... Particularly if you meet and even if you haven't, it's natural to start editing yourself more or less in an attempt not to hurt your friend and you may no longer express your true opinion on a topic they post as opposed to the response you'd give to just another screen name, even though attachments to just screen names develop as well...

Of course, all this being said I still don't discount the idea of meeting good real-life friends online. It's possible and welcome.
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Old 09-07-2008, 04:50 PM
 
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I agree with most of your post.

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Cyber friends are a good thing... as long as they remain cyber! Nobody shows all aspects of his/her personality online. For me, for instance, it's a nice escape where I get to be playful and try to forget all the frustrations and problems in real life. Once you get to know people behind the scenes, even if you haven't met, the magic disappears somewhat and the mundane reality starts being discussed and what fun is THAT... Particularly if you meet and even if you haven't, it's natural to start editing yourself more or less in an attempt not to hurt your friend and you may no longer express your true opinion on a topic they post as opposed to the response you'd give to just another screen name, even though attachments to just screen names develop as well...

Of course, all this being said I still don't discount the idea of meeting good real-life friends online. It's possible and welcome.
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Old 09-07-2008, 04:59 PM
 
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Well, I can honestly say, I don't like any of ya'!!

But honestly, this is a strange relationship. There is such power in anonymity and somehow we are closer for it...something to ponder.

Thanks Puffle
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Old 09-07-2008, 05:03 PM
 
Location: Incognito
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It's funny being on a forum with people you've never met in your life, and by just reading what they post you start liking these people and begin to bond.
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Old 09-07-2008, 05:16 PM
 
Location: Zebulon, NC
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Cyber friends are a good thing... as long as they remain cyber! Nobody shows all aspects of his/her personality online. For me, for instance, it's a nice escape where I get to be playful and try to forget all the frustrations and problems in real life. Once you get to know people behind the scenes, even if you haven't met, the magic disappears somewhat and the mundane reality starts being discussed and what fun is THAT... Particularly if you meet and even if you haven't, it's natural to start editing yourself more or less in an attempt not to hurt your friend and you may no longer express your true opinion on a topic they post as opposed to the response you'd give to just another screen name, even though attachments to just screen names develop as well...

Of course, all this being said I still don't discount the idea of meeting good real-life friends online. It's possible and welcome.
I couldn't disagree more. My marriage of six-plus years started out as an online friendship. I also have close friends from another forum where I've been a member for over seven years now, and I've met several of them in person as well. We know each other very well, warts and all. We've been through death of parents, death of a spouse (who was also a friend and active member of the forum), more than one couple meeting via the forums, and more than one child born as a result. We've had several go through illnesses and surgeries (including one battling cancer). One member is currently dealing with the serious (and possibly terminal) illness of her mother. In every case, the support from other members has been immense and powerful.

When my father passed away five years ago, most of the "friends" in my mother's life disappeared. (Unfortunately, that's an all-too-common occurrence.) We finally found a forum for widows of all ages, including seniors. She's still very active on that forum, and about a dozen of them have gotten to be very close. So close that my husband and I set up a private message board for them, and they have had several get-togethers over the years, at different locations around the country. She has said to me that these people have saved her life.

BTW, my mother is 75 years old.

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Old 09-07-2008, 05:17 PM
 
Location: southern california
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it is not my friends on CDF (though god bless them) that have taught me the most
but my adversaries.
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Old 09-07-2008, 05:35 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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Well, I can honestly say, I don't like any of ya'!!
Thank you! We don't like ya, either!

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But honestly, this is a strange relationship. There is such power in anonymity and somehow we are closer for it...something to ponder.
Being anonymous (somewhat) gives you the opportunity to be honest. As we all know, complete honesty can be highly overrated in the real world. You always have to spare feelings and avoid arguments.

Well, in the context of this particular forum... I'd say getting together with a total stranger is a tempting fantasy... Wait a minute... I've accomplished it once and still kinda regret another missed opportunity due to the guy being on a business trip with a whole bunch of coworkers... Now I spoiled the innocent warm and fuzzy thread!
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Old 09-07-2008, 05:40 PM
 
Location: NYS
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It's funny being on a forum with people you've never met in your life, and by just reading what they post you start liking these people and begin to bond.
I know. Its really weird sometimes.
I've met a lot of funny and cool people that I got along with online. Too bad, I dont know or met any of them
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