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Old 09-26-2008, 12:07 AM
 
Location: San Diego
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A buddy of mine has a wife that has a temper that is scary. I mean scary. According to him, when she is pms-ing it's egg shells in the house. When that issue isn't there it appears normal. He's said that she has threatened to leave, kick him out, gone crazy and it's always, 'What's next". I don't even want to go over to his house anymore. They are the perfect family beyond this "pms thing".

Here is the deal. How do you offer advice? They have two kids and he is worried about how it would work if they divorce. He makes more than her and I feel he is screwed on this. The kids are always the loser.

His son is good friends with my son. I'd hate to see this go down.

Who has done this? Do I just stay away from my good bud? He has asked me for advice.
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Old 09-26-2008, 12:26 AM
 
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My input is this...be glad it is not your wife or your problem.

There is nothing you can do until your friend decides he is ready. Clearly he is not ready since he has not done anything that moves this situation forward towards divorce court.

Just be a good friend to him.
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Old 09-26-2008, 12:27 AM
 
Location: New York
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PMS is a crazy thing. He should take a business trip 1 week out of every month. Maybe she should be on medication?? Perhaps birth control if she isn't on it...help regulate her harmones better.
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Old 09-26-2008, 12:34 AM
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Location: Atlanta, Ga
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mind your own business....interferring with your friends/families relationships can be a bad move...I would just stay out of it if I were you
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Old 09-26-2008, 12:45 AM
 
Location: New York
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mind your own business....interferring with your friends/families relationships can be a bad move...I would just stay out of it if I were you
True...+1
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Old 09-26-2008, 01:29 AM
 
Location: The Mountains of AZ
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A buddy of mine has a wife that has a temper that is scary. I mean scary. According to him, when she is pms-ing it's egg shells in the house. When that issue isn't there it appears normal. He's said that she has threatened to leave, kick him out, gone crazy and it's always, 'What's next". I don't even want to go over to his house anymore. They are the perfect family beyond this "pms thing".

Here is the deal. How do you offer advice? They have two kids and he is worried about how it would work if they divorce. He makes more than her and I feel he is screwed on this. The kids are always the loser.

His son is good friends with my son. I'd hate to see this go down.

Who has done this? Do I just stay away from my good bud? He has asked me for advice.
Sounds like she needs some help.
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Old 09-26-2008, 01:52 AM
 
Location: New York
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Sounds like she needs some help.
indeed
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Old 09-26-2008, 03:38 AM
 
Location: Mayacama Mtns in CA
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Sounds like she needs some help.
Thing is, if what goes on is truly due to PMS, the wife is undoubtedly miserable also, plus knowing she's the root of the problems (if she's aware along these lines.) For sure, she's suffering too, but it's too bad it gets passed on to hubby & children.

There's so much medical help out there now for this type of imbalance; wife could look for a women's clinic which specializes in this type of treatment.
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Old 09-26-2008, 05:07 AM
 
Location: Living near our Nation's Capitol since 2010
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This couple needs to sit down and have a serious heart-to-heart ,,but not when she is PMSing!!!

I wonder if she knows how serious he is about leaving the marriage. It seems a shame to end a marriage when medical intervention could correct the problem.

Hope they stay together...those children need two parents.
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Old 09-26-2008, 05:48 AM
 
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This couple needs to sit down and have a serious heart-to-heart ,,but not when she is PMSing!!!

I wonder if she knows how serious he is about leaving the marriage. It seems a shame to end a marriage when medical intervention could correct the problem.

Hope they stay together...those children need two parents.
It isn't always healthy to stay for the kids.....
BUT then again, maybe she needs to go to a physician so they can do some bloodwork on her for the emotional imbalance she is having due to the PMS.....
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