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I am tired of self absorbed people. I need a better group of friends.
It seems like most people I know never ask about me. They never really show any interest in what I think, what I have been doing, what I want to talk about, discuss interesting topics I find fascinating. Is anyone interested in me?
Wait... now before I come off as sounding to self absorbed myself, I want to tell you I think a good friend shares an interest in talking about topics about them and the other person. I am interested in the other person if they are interested in me. But most people I know do not know conversation is a two way street.
How about your friends, are they as interested in your issues as you are theirs?
Whether or not my friends are interested in what I think, feel and want to talk about depends on how they perceive the quality, importance and relevance of the things I think, feel, and want to talk about.
There's no way to tell who is 'right' or 'wrong' in this sort of situation, it is a matter of perspective. It may be that your friends are self-centered, or it may be that you too often try to share things which are inane.
I am tired of self absorbed people. I need a better group of friends.
It seems like most people I know never ask about me. They never really show any interest in what I think, what I have been doing, what I want to talk about, discuss interesting topics I find fascinating. Is anyone interested in me?
Wait... now before I come off as sounding to self absorbed myself, I want to tell you I think a good friend shares an interest in talking about topics about them and the other person. I am interested in the other person if they are interested in me. But most people I know do not know conversation is a two way street.
How about your friends, are they as interested in your issues as you are theirs?
It sounds like we may have the same friends! I have a close friend that literally *only* calls to share some drama unfolding in her life and then has to go. Never, how are YOU, how is YOUR family, it has gotten to the point where I just don't pick up her calls because she drains me emotionally. I need new friends as well, maybe a few that can actually have an adult conversation about a variety of subjects
It truly is - I don't have many close friends, just acquaintances.
You learn to get busy with life and a few interests so that you don't rely on people for your happiness. You meet other people through your interests. Sounds corny, but it's true!
I have really good friends. I aske them about what's going on in their lives, and they ask me about what's happening in mine. It's a two way street. I do know people who only want to talk about themselves, hence, they are not friends but rather acquaintances.
That is because too many are self absorbed within their own being. I have a friend like that, drives me nuts yes it does. I will get to me after i find out what is happening in their lives good or bad. Most of my friends, are like this, but i too are the say way with them.This one girlfriend is self absorbed, to the point, that she wouldn't know i am even in the same room with her, or any on else.Yes i am getting tired of it. Most of my other friends, it is a mututal thing, to want to know what is going on with each other me and them. Usually it is a 2 way highway. But it is my fault with the one, for letting it continue.
What you need is a 'listener'. Believe it or not some people would rather focus on something other than themselves. I was like that most of my life and it was hard when I needed someone to listen to me, I was so uncomfortable talking about myself, but my friends came through and made it easy.
OP- we must have the same friends. We moved last spring and since then I have become more and more pissed off at many of my "friends" who make no effort to call or reach out to me. Lets not go down the path of family either. Anyway - now Im so mad im pretty much reevaluating some of those relationships. For months (until about December) I kept those "friendships" alive but now im done. Screw it - time for new friends, or less friends.
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