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Old 10-14-2008, 02:12 PM
 
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I'm very impressed by your sensitivity and concern for the elderly, not to mention your friendliness. Good for you!

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ajajaja, i though this was guna be about ornery, individuals. some old people can be a bit crotchety. since its about old people talking iwill say this much : i would never have a problem with an older person asking me questions like those. i dont think that reflects a loss of social skils. i think they probably have superior social skills. i know i would be as interested in them as well. they are confident enough to talk to perfect strangers.

the other day i was on the bus. on MY bus there is an older gentleman that gets on, hes about 78 or 80. he rides for a couple of stops and gets off one stop before me. i have seen him around for years. this last time i seen him i decided to get off the bus with him, i stopped him and asked him how long hes been in the area. how long hes rode the bus. how often he rides the bus.

we got into a nice conversation about mass transit and what los angeles was like when the street cars ruled (a time he remembers fondly).

i learned a lot. i think older people who ask questions seek to learn. anyone asking a question is looking for answers. i dont think its negative.

after a good 45 mins. i told him i didnt want to hold him up anymore. he wanted to talk more, and i promised next time i see him i would. thats all it required.

OLD PEOPLE LOVE TO TALK!!!

i am very happy and fortunate to encounter them.

I LOVE TO LEARN FROM THEM.

there is no need to be rude or short. just say that you are pressed for time, if you really are. if not, take some time and learn from the old folks. they have lots to share.

theres also another lil old lady that i see walking down the streets on fridays. she walks to the grocery store with her upright cart. what stirkes me is that she always look so glamourous. always done up. with hats. and makeup. one day i will walk with her... if she lets me.
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Old 10-14-2008, 02:16 PM
 
Location: syracuse ny
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I was traveling through the country and visiting many historic, cultural and scenic locations. Many of these places were staffed by (semi) retired people who worked part time or in a volunteer capacity. While I enjoyed visiting with these older folks for a short time, I got trapped in some long conversations that were hard to get out of without feeling rude.

I was asked many personal questions that in today's society most younger people would never ask a stranger. (Like: Where exactly do I work, am I married, do I have kids, what are my kids names, where did I grow up, etc) I think these type of conversations with strangers were much more common in their day but not anymore.

How do you deal with older people who may have lost their social skills, without feeling like you are being rude?
Maybe we lost our social skills?? nahhhh look how friendly people are these days!
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Old 10-14-2008, 02:29 PM
 
Location: CITY OF ANGELS AND CONSTANT DANGER
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I'm very impressed by your sensitivity and concern for the elderly, not to mention your friendliness. Good for you!
thanks. i love old people. and not just my folks who are in their 70's. i would hope that people give them that same respect. i know how thye can be.

having kids or elderly parents will defintely change the way you see things.

thanks AG
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Old 10-14-2008, 02:44 PM
 
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Exactly. Younger people these days are pretty anti-social/rude if you ask me.

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Maybe we lost our social skills?? nahhhh look how friendly people are these days!
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Old 10-14-2008, 02:46 PM
 
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You are so welcome, The One. I'm glad to see somebody stick up for people that are "different". Both of my grandparents were so loving and caring towards me, and they always made great conversations with me and other family members.

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thanks. i love old people. and not just my folks who are in their 70's. i would hope that people give them that same respect. i know how thye can be.

having kids or elderly parents will defintely change the way you see things.

thanks AG
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Old 10-14-2008, 03:00 PM
 
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Old people who ask after you, genuinely interested in your life and pleasant along with it have "lost their social skills"?

What is this world coming when some people think these old people are weird.

I have met more kind, caring, really nice old people here in the US than young people that's for sure.

Maybe the OP needs to learn a few social lessons in life.
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Old 10-14-2008, 03:08 PM
 
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Default Hold on

I started this topic because I was curious what people thought about older people who still think it is 1958 instead of 2008. I agree, people now days are cold, unfriendly and not all that interested in anyone other than themselves. I give the older people credit for being more open and expressing an interest in me and my situation.

But I have also ran into quite a few older people who have lost their social skills and ask to many questions that are quite personal in nature. If by chance someone who is 30 years old would ask these types of questions I would be more open to walking away and being a little rude. But if someone is 80, maybe I should be a little more open and forgiving. Or maybe not, your opinion please!


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Old people who ask after you, genuinely interested in your life and pleasant along with it have "lost their social skills"?

What is this world coming when some people think these old people are weird.

I have met more kind, caring, really nice old people here in the US than young people that's for sure.

Maybe the OP needs to learn a few social lessons in life.
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Old 10-14-2008, 03:14 PM
 
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I agree with Djuna.

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Old people who ask after you, genuinely interested in your life and pleasant along with it have "lost their social skills"?

What is this world coming when some people think these old people are weird.

I have met more kind, caring, really nice old people here in the US than young people that's for sure.

Maybe the OP needs to learn a few social lessons in life.
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Old 10-14-2008, 03:23 PM
 
Location: syracuse ny
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She's gonna be on larry king right after this issue she's raised hit's national prominance!

TONIGHT ON LARRY KING LIVE...

We talk about the growing OLDKINDA problem..

Who are all these old people?
Are they organized?
Do they have a leader?
Why so many qestions...

We'll take your questions right after i plug garlic in it's overpriced pill form,
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Old 10-14-2008, 04:35 PM
 
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Refugee,

That is not rude or lacking in social skills...that is someone trying to be kind and appear interested in you and your family. If I were you I'd be glad anyone cared enough to ask...
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