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I was traveling through the country and visiting many historic, cultural and scenic locations. Many of these places were staffed by (semi) retired people who worked part time or in a volunteer capacity. While I enjoyed visiting with these older folks for a short time, I got trapped in some long conversations that were hard to get out of without feeling rude.
I was asked many personal questions that in today's society most younger people would never ask a stranger. (Like: Where exactly do I work, am I married, do I have kids, what are my kids names, where did I grow up, etc) I think these type of conversations with strangers were much more common in their day but not anymore.
How do you deal with older people who may have lost their social skills, without feeling like you are being rude?
Oh, that type of conversation is socially acceptable where I live. Just grin and bear it, be very respectful and know that that old fart will be you one day.
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You sound like my Mother. She always complained about people snooping in her business if they asked her how she was.
I'll tell you the same thing I always told her. Just because somebody asks you something personal doesnt mean you HAVE to tell them ALL your business. Most people are just being friendly. They dont really want to know where all your moles are located. But then again there are a few that do. Nobody is forcing you to tell all tho ya know.
How many kids do you have. Are those your grand children. She is just tooo cute.
Learn a lesson from them. They have been around a lot longer than you and maybe they know a thing or two about life. If you really don't want to talk then just say' "it was nice talking to you." and move on. Honestly though, they are harmless.
I know. People are so paranoid these days. I think it is because of the media and TV shows like CSI and Law and Order that make it look like every other person is a freakin crazy stalker lol.
The elderly sometimes are very lonely and just want someone to talk to. I would not have been upset with those questions, to me they were not that personal. I have a MIL that loves going to the doctor (she is 90) and is always looking for something to be operated on. I guess I have a soft spot for the elderly.
ajajaja, i though this was guna be about ornery, individuals. some old people can be a bit crotchety. since its about old people talking iwill say this much : i would never have a problem with an older person asking me questions like those. i dont think that reflects a loss of social skils. i think they probably have superior social skills. i know i would be as interested in them as well. they are confident enough to talk to perfect strangers.
the other day i was on the bus. on MY bus there is an older gentleman that gets on, hes about 78 or 80. he rides for a couple of stops and gets off one stop before me. i have seen him around for years. this last time i seen him i decided to get off the bus with him, i stopped him and asked him how long hes been in the area. how long hes rode the bus. how often he rides the bus.
we got into a nice conversation about mass transit and what los angeles was like when the street cars ruled (a time he remembers fondly).
i learned a lot. i think older people who ask questions seek to learn. anyone asking a question is looking for answers. i dont think its negative.
after a good 45 mins. i told him i didnt want to hold him up anymore. he wanted to talk more, and i promised next time i see him i would. thats all it required.
OLD PEOPLE LOVE TO TALK!!!
i am very happy and fortunate to encounter them.
I LOVE TO LEARN FROM THEM.
there is no need to be rude or short. just say that you are pressed for time, if you really are. if not, take some time and learn from the old folks. they have lots to share.
theres also another lil old lady that i see walking down the streets on fridays. she walks to the grocery store with her upright cart. what stirkes me is that she always look so glamourous. always done up. with hats. and makeup. one day i will walk with her... if she lets me.
The elderly sometimes are very lonely and just want someone to talk to. I would not have been upset with those questions, to me they were not that personal. I have a MIL that loves going to the doctor (she is 90) and is always looking for something to be operated on. I guess I have a soft spot for the elderly.
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