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Old 10-30-2008, 10:48 AM
 
Location: Lansing, MI
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My very bestest friend is a rut right now. He's had some serious "circle of friend" issues including being delibertly led on and then heart wrenched by a girl he was really into over the past couple weeks. She's been leading him on all along and then this past weekend ditched him at a party for not 1, not 2, but 3 (!!) different guys that she was all over. He found out just how much she was using him; she needed him to drive her around because he doesn't have a license. (can't say I didn't warn him... told him she was bad news when he first told me about her!!! MEN! ). He is kind of alone as in his family lives across the country and his "good" friends have proving one by one how self absorbed they are. Poor guy just can't catch a break.

His and my b-day are 2 weeks apart on January. I would love to do something really great and exceptional for him, he has it due. Last year he spent his b-day at his grandfather's visitation and then funeral while also dealing with the emotional break up of his crazy ex-gf (who broke up with him over the ultimatum of "spend christmas with your grandparents and you'll lose me" - this was the same grandfather who passed away 2 weeks after Christmas; this ultimatum was brought up after a good month of on again / off again relationship). The previous b-day was spent all alone (I did not know him at the time), and the year before that he was nursing the wounds of yet another breakup that came about without any sort of explanation from her; he was sent out of town on a contract assignment for a few weeks, and she just stopped talking to him and turned up MIA. He never did find out what happened with her I guess.

So ... let's here it ... what would you all do for your friend to come up with a special b-day activity??
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Old 10-30-2008, 11:19 AM
 
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You know, just about anything would be appreciated. And something over-the-top might prove to be embarrassing. Round up a couple of people, take him to the local watering hole, drink beer and play pool. Maybe go bowling afterwards. Just do something incredibly goofball like that. For I think that just thinking of him would be good enough enough.
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Old 10-30-2008, 11:27 AM
 
Location: Between Philadelphia and Allentown, PA
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I would dress up in a really silly costume, knock on your friends door and sing Happy Birthday. In the meantime leading up to the day, you want to bake a cake and get a really funny card to cheer your friend up.
I'm a goofball so my friends and family have come to expect this kind of thing from me.
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Old 10-30-2008, 11:37 AM
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Location: MA/NH
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Does he have any hobbies? If he's already depressed, do something fun, different and goofy. Stay away from too much drinking because alcohol is a depressant. If you have a s/o, then leave him out of this gathering. Don't surround him with happy couples.
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Old 10-30-2008, 04:34 PM
 
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You sound like a really awesome person. I can actually relate because I am super silly in real life. lol.

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I would dress up in a really silly costume, knock on your friends door and sing Happy Birthday. In the meantime leading up to the day, you want to bake a cake and get a really funny card to cheer your friend up.
I'm a goofball so my friends and family have come to expect this kind of thing from me.
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Old 10-30-2008, 04:47 PM
 
Location: Sacramento, CA
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Take him to Las Vegas and PARTY!!

If that's not doable...plan a day that revolves around his favorite things. I don't what that is for him, so I'll use myself as an example. I love food and indulging in day spas and wine, so a great birthday gift for me would be to take me to my favorite place for breakfast, drop me off at the spa for a massage, pick me back up and take me out for, or have set up for me at your place, wine, cheese, and some fun music playing, and then take me out to my favorite restaurant for dinner. Just make it a day focused on pleasure. Oh! If he is into sports, maybe take him to a game?
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Old 10-30-2008, 05:30 PM
 
Location: Coachella Valley, California
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Your friend sounds like the break-up king!
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Old 10-30-2008, 06:21 PM
 
Location: 👶🏾CHI🛫CVG🛬AVL🛫CMH🛬CHI🛫?
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your a good friend for wanting to do this. do you know his mutual TRUE friends? Or can you get their numbers if you dont? I was going to suggest a surprise party. Or just do what makes him hapy. if he likes music go to a local bar where they have live music and buy him some drinks. If he likes movies have a dvd night or take himt o the cinema. invite people over for board games- just do what he wants and likes to do
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Old 10-30-2008, 08:50 PM
 
Location: Lansing, MI
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Yeah, Vegas .. HA!! ..yeah, not quite rich enough for that one. Nice thought, though!

T.Toes.. Yes, he's had his share of ..um... "undesireables." He truly is a great guy, I love him to pieces. He just gets crapped on because he's going after the wrong type of gal.

For the silly suggestions .. I'm already silly! He knows to expect a good sense of humor from me. I do not know his other good/close friends, but this will a him and me kinda day.

I think I settled on a day at a day spa! I know he'd love it, and I certainly would enjoy. So... What are good services at the spa??? (I've never been to one). The one I'm looking at give a couples massage, which I'm kinda digging. Any other good services?
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Old 10-30-2008, 08:53 PM
 
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I rented a limo for the night and picked up about 5 of our girlfriends, and then her, and we went out and hit the town. She had an absolute blast! (And a wee bit of a headache the next morning!)
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