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Old 11-26-2008, 09:09 AM
 
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My kids maternal gradmother is a witch. She has only acknowledged and actually preferred to contact her other grandson (my wife's sister's son). She would send him gifts, expensive clothes, toys, she would send for them to California and pay for the whole trip and expenses.
When it comes to my kids she doesn't even ask for them, she would send them a late birthday card with $5 in it. She would not even call to find out if how they're doing. This does not bother me a bit because my kids may not have all of the luxuries and brand name clothes and top of the line toys their cousin gets, but they have 2 loving parents that love them, spoil them whenever is possible and ae always there when they need us. She coming down to see my sister in law for the holidays and she email my wife to go over to her sister so she could see them. We live about 3/4 of a mile away and she will not even bother to come to my house? I told my wife I don't want her to go and I don't want witch in my house and near my kids.
Am I over reacting?
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Old 11-26-2008, 09:14 AM
 
Location: San Antonio
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My kids maternal gradmother is a witch. She has only acknowledged and actually preferred to contact her other grandson (my wife's sister's son). She would send him gifts, expensive clothes, toys, she would send for them to California and pay for the whole trip and expenses.
When it comes to my kids she doesn't even ask for them, she would send them a late birthday card with $5 in it. She would not even call to find out if how they're doing. This does not bother me a bit because my kids may not have all of the luxuries and brand name clothes and top of the line toys their cousin gets, but they have 2 loving parents that love them, spoil them whenever is possible and ae always there when they need us. She coming down to see my sister in law for the holidays and she email my wife to go over to her sister so she could see them. We live about 3/4 of a mile away and she will not even bother to come to my house? I told my wife I don't want her to go and I don't want witch in my house and near my kids.
Am I over reacting?
Sounds just like my Husbands Mother we even call her "The witch"
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Old 11-26-2008, 09:16 AM
 
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Sounds just like my Husbands Mother we even call her "The witch"
Witch with a B rather.
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Old 11-26-2008, 09:24 AM
 
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Everyone knows my MIL is a mean old hag and nasty to me and my kids...not sure what to tell you...I try not to get involved between my husband and his crazy folks and this seems to work...

If I were you, I would let your wife deal with her mother and you deal with yours..that is what I have been doing lately and it seems to work well...

Have a good Thanksgiving!
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Old 11-26-2008, 09:26 AM
 
Location: South Bay Native
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Wow, I can't imagine a grown @zz woman (your m-i-l) acting that catty and picking favorites. I cannot fathom how a woman who not only has given birth to her own kids, but now her kids have grown and have families of their own and she can't love them all? How does Mrs. Cat feel about "mumsy"? Did she feel this bias growing up too?
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Old 11-26-2008, 09:33 AM
 
Location: Southern Arizona
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My kids maternal gradmother is a witch. She has only acknowledged and actually preferred to contact her other grandson (my wife's sister's son). She would send him gifts, expensive clothes, toys, she would send for them to California and pay for the whole trip and expenses.
When it comes to my kids she doesn't even ask for them, she would send them a late birthday card with $5 in it. She would not even call to find out if how they're doing. This does not bother me a bit because my kids may not have all of the luxuries and brand name clothes and top of the line toys their cousin gets, but they have 2 loving parents that love them, spoil them whenever is possible and ae always there when they need us. She coming down to see my sister in law for the holidays and she email my wife to go over to her sister so she could see them. We live about 3/4 of a mile away and she will not even bother to come to my house? I told my wife I don't want her to go and I don't want witch in my house and near my kids.
Am I over reacting?
Stand strong! Remind your wife that it is her/your responsibility to protect your children from toxic people, including your/her parents. If she brings the kids to see "The Witch", then she is acknowledging that her mother's behavior is fine with her. Just my thoughts.
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Old 11-26-2008, 09:45 AM
 
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Wow, I can't imagine a grown @zz woman (your m-i-l) acting that catty and picking favorites. I cannot fathom how a woman who not only has given birth to her own kids, but now her kids have grown and have families of their own and she can't love them all? How does Mrs. Cat feel about "mumsy"? Did she feel this bias growing up too?
They do not have the best mother-daughter relationship in the world for starters. Although my wife doesn't show it, she resents her being like this very much.
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Old 11-26-2008, 10:15 AM
 
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They do not have the best mother-daughter relationship in the world for starters. Although my wife doesn't show it, she resents her being like this very much.
Sounds like Mrs. Cat has avoided dealing with this issue, so maybe the m-i-l is totally oblivious to the feelings she's trampling (or at least she can feign ignorance). I wouldn't do it now, since it is the holidays, and your kids should be able to spend time with the relatives without dealing with the arguing/bickering - but your wife may just have to have a heart-to-heart with her mother and explain that her feelings are hurt by the behavior she's exhibited, esp. towards the grandkids, and ask for an explanation as to the bias she has for her different grandkids. I think there may be something deeply rooted in your m-i-l that has to come out of the closet before she'll consider changing her ways.
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Old 11-26-2008, 10:20 AM
 
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I told my wife I don't want her to go and I don't want witch in my house and near my kids.
Am I over reacting?
If you try to come between them you will eventually become the bad guy. I have been in a similar situation a couple of times in my life.

Besides... you have us if you need to vent!
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Old 11-26-2008, 10:27 AM
 
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My kids maternal grandmother is a witch.
My mother is becoming that dreaded mother-in-law! When I was younger I thought that she would be the greatest; but old age has changed her.

My mother is very much like Raymond's mother on the TV show 'Everybody loves Raymond.' My wife and I are a lot like the characters and my brother is a lot like Raymond's. Typical Italian American dis-functional issues! At least we all laugh and have a good time.

If it gets too bad... have your wife talk to her (but wait until after the holidays)
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