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Old 12-27-2008, 08:01 AM
 
Location: In a chartreuse microbus
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Years back, I started to notice how physically tired I was after visiting certain people. After some brief analyzing, they were relegated to acquaintances only. I strongly urge those who are aware of tiring friends and relatives, (especially significant others), to give them a sort of litmus test, gauging whether or not there is any real merit to the relationship.
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Old 12-27-2008, 10:12 AM
 
Location: Los Angeles
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I think your friend was projecting her feelings of loneliness on to you. There are just some people who just feel "less than" if they're not in a relationship. They can NEVER understand people who are fine by themselves and do not need a relationship to validate them. This "friend" of yours has desperate written all over her which is probably why she's not in a relationship. Of course she can't understand your divorce, in her mind, you volunteered to be lonely like she is. When the truth is if she doesn't learn to like being by herself and realize she doesn't need a relationship for validation, I shudder to think of the type of man she may end up with. You know the men who are real pieces of work and you wonder what woman would put up with that, women like your friend. That's who. Anyway, don't be angry with her, if anything feel bad for her.
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Old 12-27-2008, 05:45 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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I think your friend was projecting her feelings of loneliness on to you. There are just some people who just feel "less than" if they're not in a relationship. They can NEVER understand people who are fine by themselves and do not need a relationship to validate them. This "friend" of yours has desperate written all over her which is probably why she's not in a relationship. Of course she can't understand your divorce, in her mind, you volunteered to be lonely like she is. When the truth is if she doesn't learn to like being by herself and realize she doesn't need a relationship for validation, I shudder to think of the type of man she may end up with. You know the men who are real pieces of work and you wonder what woman would put up with that, women like your friend. That's who. Anyway, don't be angry with her, if anything feel bad for her.
I don't think so because I don't believe she's ever been in a relationship since her kid was born and he's 20, so it's not like she's not used to being without a man! She evidently decided she wanted a child late in life and got pregnant knowing she wasn't gonna marry his father. I don't know details... either some friend volunteered or the guy was married... It wasn't an accident, though.
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Old 12-27-2008, 07:07 PM
 
Location: Coachella Valley, California
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I hadn't sent almost any Christmas cards this year and got an e-mail from a friend back home (I actually met her while she was living here for a few years, but that's irrelevant), so I responded and against my better judgment decided to call.

I guess she either didn't remember I got divorced or perhaps heard about it while we were only separated, but in any event she was kinda surprised by the news. Sooo, what did I hear about it...?! While other women can't find men (perhaps she meant herself - she's never been married and has a child), others like me find them and then alienate them and get rid of them ...Hello... do you have ANY clue about how any of this developed?! Why can't people shut up and mind their own business? Do I give my opinion about the reasons she doesn't find any... NO! And it's not like I don't have an opinion... I stopped calling another one who loved giving unsolicited opinions and advices.

You know what? I'm a lot happier being a hermit! Do you guys have such lovely experiences with self-appointed shrinks?
Sure. I have had many experiences with people who want to give me their unsolicited advice. I look young and I have a silly demeanor so I think people automatically assume I'm a young, stupid girl. I thank them for their advice and tell them I will take it into consideration. Later, when they find out what I do for a living and what my education is, I think some of them feel like idiots. As well they should. But I never have to say a word to them about it.
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