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I think we've all heard (and probably said), at one point or another, "I'd give the shirt off my back for you", "There's nothing I wouldnt do for you", "You know you can call me for anything, I don't care if it's 3 in the morning.".
I just don't feel that way anymore. It's just not realistic. I do what I can, the degree of which depends on the person. But "anything" and "anytime" are no longer in my vocabulary. If it's an actual emergency, I am up and out the door. The rest works on a case by case basis and within reason.
I think we've all heard (and probably said), at one point or another, "I'd give the shirt off my back for you", "There's nothing I wouldnt do for you", "You know you can call me for anything, I don't care if it's 3 in the morning.".
I just don't feel that way anymore. It's just not realistic. I do what I can, the degree of which depends on the person. But "anything" and "anytime" are no longer in my vocabulary. If it's an actual emergency, I am up and out the door. The rest works on a case by case basis and within reason.
Can anyone relate?
Well I have heard those lines before. But to be honest I never say it, neither do my closest friends.
They only ask for a favor if they really do need it, so I'm more than happy to help them out (I'm blessed to have such great friends)
I think it comes down to what level of friendship you have with people.I won't just drop everything to
help out work colleagues in the middle of the night (unless its an emergency) It always has to be in reason.
But by going on your post PassTheChocolate its sounds like you have had alot of high-maintenance friendships ?????
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Pretty much anything. I just wish I'd had the sense to do the same for acquaintances. I really blew it with an elderly neighbor. Just assumed her family took care of her like my family takes care of our eldery. I lived next door to her for 10 years and about the only thing I ever did for her was shovel her walk a few times. Yeah, I'm proud of that one.
When she fell, it was 2 or 3 days before someone found her (Unfortunately, I'm hard of hearig and just didn't hear her calling for help). That got me to thinking about how I was he neighbor and I should have been checking on her as old as she was. Why didn't that dawn on me before?
My family is weird. We go off and live our separate lives hardly talking to each other but let something happen to one of us and we're sucked together like so many magnets. Then when the crisis is over, back to our normal lives. There's a lot of comfort in that.
Well, I once had to drive 300 miles round trip in the middle of Sunday night to bail a friend out of jail for public drunkenness so he could make it to work Monday morning for a presentation and not get fired. I got home at 4 a.m. I was pretty ticked off I had to do it, but I did it anyway.
I have a several girlfriends that I would call "close". I've known each of them for over 25 years, and I don't think there is much that I would NOT do for them, if they needed something. Mostly though, through the years, we've been a great support network for each other.
Well, I once had to drive 300 miles round trip in the middle of night to bail a friend out of jail for public drunkenness so he could make it to work and not get fired. I was pretty ticked off I had to do it, but I did it anyway.
"had to" ?
public drunknenness ?
that's not friendship, that's enabling
I would do a lot for my friends, but like some others have said, it depends on the level of the friendship. For my close friends, I would get out of bed at 3am and help them with whatever crisis was going on at 3am.
I hate asking others for help though. I don't live near family or my lifelong close friends so I had to ask a friend I've only known a short while if she could give me a ride to/from the doctor next month. I'm now thinking maybe I should just take a cab 'cause my friend will have to take off work in order to take me to the appointment. I would do it for her in a heartbeat, I just never assume other people think like I do.
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Yeah, I'm proud of that one. 
