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I don't identify with this catty stuff- where I come from, the women are almost always better than the men. Unless, one just slavishly likes males no matter what. I treat other people well , period.
I don't identify with this catty stuff- where I come from, the women are almost always better than the men. Unless, one just slavishly likes males no matter what. I treat other people well , period.
that's the one and only secret: treat other people well... Which implies respect, good faith and appropriate boundaries. True, you'll find some people who won't return your cordiality, but in the vast majority of cases you'll be fine.
I still think that people who complain about how others (speaking about a collective -women, men, ex-couples, work colleagues, the human species- and not on a per-case basis) are mean, jealous, selfish, trying to get all the attention, not to be trusted, etc.. are projecting in most cases.
From a male perspective, I seem to have noticed over the years that many, not all of course, girls/women are just not very nice to each other. Also I've heard females speak enviously about the easy rapport males have with each other. Why is this? Is it a competitive thing? Is it that men are more direct? Do most women grow out of it? We like to say that women are the gentler, nicer sex, but is it really true. Please help educate the father of a daughter.
Competitiveness is natural with both sexes. Incidentally...most women are more vocal with their views, and some are more aggressive than others.
Fortunately, most mellow out as they mature (I have...I hope)
Some girls were catty in jr. high and high school, I remember those days well. Once I got to college, it seemed as if those days were behind me. I didn't even have any issues when I worked in a health care facility where the majority of employees were women. Now that I'm a mom with children in school, it seems as if it has started up all over again. I just can't get over the attitude and nastiness of some of these women...and I always make it a point to smile and be pleasant! I've turned to my husband after some of these encounters to see if it was all in my head and apparently it's not; He's witnessed these women be total b*tches to me.
I feel like common courtesy and decency has gone out the window with some women. If only I had a dime for every time a woman let a door slam directly in my face or walked through a door that I held open for her without ever acknowledging or thanking me! I can't say I've experienced this with men.
I don't know if it's the generation or possibly the area I live in or a combination of the two? I know I didn't feel this way a few years ago, so I don't know if it has anything to do with my getting out more with the kids and what not?
Last edited by TheImportersWife; 10-01-2011 at 07:22 AM..
that's the one and only secret: treat other people well... Which implies respect, good faith and appropriate boundaries. True, you'll find some people who won't return your cordiality, but in the vast majority of cases you'll be fine.
I still think that people who complain about how others (speaking about a collective -women, men, ex-couples, work colleagues, the human species- and not on a per-case basis) are mean, jealous, selfish, trying to get all the attention, not to be trusted, etc.. are projecting in most cases.
Thankee, thankee but sadly I AM indeed living amongst such uncaring , flippant and mean people in general , including the men
Some girls were catty in jr. high and high school, I remember those days well. Once I got to college, it seemed as if those days were behind me. I didn't even have any issues when I worked in a health care facility where the majority of employees were women. Now that I'm a mom with children in school, it seems as if it has started up all over again. I just can't get over the attitude and nastiness of some of these women...and I always make it a point to smile and be pleasant! I've turned to my husband after some of these encounters to see if it was all in my head and apparently it's not; He's witnessed these women be total b*tches to me.
I feel like common courtesy and decency has gone out the window with some women. If only I had a dime for every time a woman let a door slam directly in my face or walked through a door that I held open for her without ever acknowledging or thanking me! I can't say I've experienced this with men.
I don't know if it's the generation or possibly the area I live in or a combination of the two? I know I didn't feel this way a few years ago, so I don't know if it has anything to do with my getting out more with the kids and what not?
I believe it's both. We are living in a more aggressive/abrasive societal mindset nowadays and yes, where we live also plays a part in this phenomenon. Let's say, Bronx versus Malibu. The latter would be more covert in their hostility...or are they???
I'm nice to everyone in general, I treat men and women the same, but I always get different reactions and behavior from women. Men are always very nice, women...not so much. I don't understand it...I treat people accordingly, I would never be catty or treat someone with less respect "just because". Sadly I have to agree that women tend to be a little less kind towards each other in comparison to men.
I prefer when people can be straight up and honest and most women I have known are the furthest thing from that. I work with almost all women and not a week goes by without a crap load of drama between at least two of them. My boss, a woman, regularly throws us "under the bus," but generally after making the person think they did a good job on whatever it was. The assistant boss, my direct supervisor, regularly reacts/speaks without thinking and can do a superb job of making a person feel like a dumb arse. She seems to pick on one of my co-workers a lot. There's a lot of backstabbing that goes on there, just in general. However, there is one guy in our group and he's the biggest gossip I've ever come across. I am most leery of the other women though. I make an effort to get along with the group i work in but I don't trust any of them, including gossip guy. He's easy enough to deal with, just don't tell him anything of any importance. He isn't one to make things up, just for the sake of gossip, but a few of the women will. Some women can just be ruthless, even ones you think are your friends. The office environment seems to make it even worse.
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