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Old 04-21-2009, 09:56 PM
 
Location: Wyoming
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I don't see a major problem in being friends with peers if it stays that way. Problems often arise when one of the friends is promoted and becomes the other friend's boss. Romantic relationships with co-workers can also get out of hand.

I ran a business for several years in which most of my staff was hired directly from colleges around the county. They'd move here, often thousands of miles from home, without knowing anyone, and close friendships among co-workers was the norm. We had the occasional office romance or parties that got out of hand, but overall I thought the close comradeship was a very good thing for the business and the employees.
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Old 04-21-2009, 10:08 PM
 
Location: los angeles, ca
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LOL. Facebook stalking now are we? I don't see anything wrong with being friends with co-workers but I'ld advise you to let it unravel as naturally as possible. Meaning, don't make the first move. It'll be apparent if there is mutual interest and talks of hanging out will eventually follow - later.
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Old 04-22-2009, 01:13 AM
 
Location: Coachella Valley, California
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OK. Thanks!

As i said before, I think romance here is a big no-no. She has a near perfect body and boobs, but I prepared to cut my losses here and expect only potential friendship.
Okay, Sammy ... you've gotta stop looking at and thinking of your co-workers in terms of their bodies and/or their boobs. If that ever got out, you'd be branded the "office creep" for the rest of your life!
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Old 04-22-2009, 03:26 AM
 
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OK, thanks everybody for your advice.

But i am not staking her on Facebook. I was on it the other day, and saw her profile, that's all. There is no need to assume anything sinister on my part. Is liking somebody a bad thing?

Thanks again.
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Old 04-22-2009, 06:37 AM
 
Location: Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
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OK, thanks everybody for your advice.

But i am not staking her on Facebook. I was on it the other day, and saw her profile, that's all. There is no need to assume anything sinister on my part. Is liking somebody a bad thing?

Thanks again.
it is when you've gone through 2 people in the course of a week, the first one inducing wild emotions at the realization that she wasn't interested...
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Old 04-22-2009, 11:45 AM
 
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it is when you've gone through 2 people in the course of a week, the first one inducing wild emotions at the realization that she wasn't interested...
i'm over that now.
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Old 04-22-2009, 10:49 PM
 
Location: Upstate NY
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I'm friendly with my coworkers (there's only a few of us), and even kind of friends with one or two of them (as in we've hung out a little outside of work). There is a very fine line that you need to be careful not to cross though I think, and I try very hard to keep my work friendships professional, even outside of work.

My coworkers and I have each others cell numbers and we text each other and joke around, and we've all friended each other on MySpace (not FB though, since that tends to be a bit more personal). When we hang out outside of work it is merely "coincidence" and we treat it as such afterward, even if it was planned. (Examples: two or three of my coworkers attend the same college I do and we sometimes hang out in the lounge or go for coffee or lunch. Some of my coworkers will "accidentally" go to the same bar at the same time and just "coincidentally" have a few drinks together.) Sometimes we really do just happen to run into each other outside of work though.

Serious relationships and serious friendships among coworkers, IMO, would be crossing that fine line. I've seen coworkers become serious friends a few times, and in one case their friendship got them both fired instead of just the one. I guess just friendships sometimes can't be helped though.
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Old 04-22-2009, 10:58 PM
 
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^ You text and are friends on myspace? That is so childish and strange for grown adult people.
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Old 04-23-2009, 01:45 PM
 
Location: Chicago, Illinois
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i would just keep that stuff at work. befriend all your coworkers, if possible. obviously, there will be quite a few who are grinches and scrooges...you guage them on a daily, weekly, or monthly basis. you never know, they may come around. however, i can not advise hanging out with co-workers. of course, i'm 25 and work with a bunch of 40-50 year olds so I can't really speak for anyone but myself.
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Old 04-23-2009, 09:59 PM
 
Location: Upstate NY
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^ You text and are friends on myspace? That is so childish and strange for grown adult people.
The environment I work in is professional in a loose sense of the word. Most of my coworkers are in their late teens/early twenties. If I worked in a more professional environment (like at a major firm or something) I don't think I'd be so friendly with my coworkers.
Also, I never said we were "grown, adult people". I did mention however, that we're all still in college.
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