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Old 04-21-2009, 04:33 PM
 
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I work in a team of five people, and a new member came on board over a month ago.

She seems nice and she is very pretty and I'd like to get to know her as a friend. Not date, but just friend (she is my type, certainly so, but given the team nature of things here, I wouldn't risk it).

Now, are friendships between persons within teams advisable? would it cause friction? Or even envy?

I think she is on facebook, I saw a person with her name on there, but not with a photo, so I'm not sure if it is her.

What do you think I should do?
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Old 04-21-2009, 04:35 PM
 
Location: Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
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a lot of people will tell you no, but i am friends with several of my co-workers and it is just fine.
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Old 04-21-2009, 04:36 PM
 
Location: Coachella Valley, California
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I think you should leave it alone. If you're only interested in friends through work, why are you scoping her out on Facebook? You should treat her in the same friendly manner that you treat the other people in your team. Nothing more, nothing less.
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Old 04-21-2009, 04:45 PM
 
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i see your point. thanks!
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Old 04-21-2009, 05:16 PM
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Keep her a casual work buddy and keep all contact within work hours. Have group lunches together. Don't be her best friend. I'm buddies with my co-workers, that means being nice to them and helping them out with their work assignments. Then they help me with mine. We're a team.
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Old 04-21-2009, 05:18 PM
 
Location: southern california
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jump in, but only if you got nothin to lose.
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Old 04-21-2009, 05:19 PM
 
Location: In my skin
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I work in a team of five people, and a new member came on board over a month ago.

She seems nice and she is very pretty and I'd like to get to know her as a friend. Not date, but just friend (she is my type, certainly so, but given the team nature of things here, I wouldn't risk it).

Now, are friendships between persons within teams advisable? would it cause friction? Or even envy?

I think she is on facebook, I saw a person with her name on there, but not with a photo, so I'm not sure if it is her.

What do you think I should do?
Didn't you just get angry with someone at work who did not respond/respond favorably to an email?
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Old 04-21-2009, 05:26 PM
 
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A friends with benefits or one night stand would be FAR better than being just "friends".....believe me it is totally win-win situation...no drama what so ever.
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Old 04-21-2009, 05:47 PM
 
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Keep her a casual work buddy and keep all contact within work hours. Have group lunches together. Don't be her best friend. I'm buddies with my co-workers, that means being nice to them and helping them out with their work assignments. Then they help me with mine. We're a team.
ok. i appreciate your advice. Thanks.

I can see how it would confuse things, but she seems nice. I wouldn't mind being friends with her, but I guess it would be too problematic.
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Old 04-21-2009, 05:48 PM
 
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Didn't you just get angry with someone at work who did not respond/respond favorably to an email?
Yes I did. But I'm over that now, and see little point in being angry.
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