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Old 04-25-2009, 06:00 PM
 
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I hate where my family lives. I am a teen so still have to live at home. What would be a way to ask my family to move but without really asking: "Can we move. I do not want to bother or annoy them" Should I brag about the opportunities that the area I want to go to has? Where I live, the school I go to has no clubs other than sports and I want to do more things at a school and be more social.

Thank you for helping me.
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Old 04-25-2009, 06:01 PM
 
Location: Everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for-B Marley
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Offer to pay the enormous costs of moving, that'll get their attention.
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Old 04-25-2009, 06:13 PM
 
Location: Hot Springs, AR
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Maybe you can commute to the school of your choice. If you can show your parents how that school will be more beneficial to your future, rather than your social life, they'll be a lot more receptive.
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Old 04-25-2009, 06:18 PM
 
Location: Everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for-B Marley
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Maybe you can commute to the school of your choice. If you can show your parents how that school will be more beneficial to your future, rather than your social life, they'll be a lot more receptive.
What a great idea. But you still have to convince the school to allow it. They don't always.
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Old 04-25-2009, 06:27 PM
 
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Maybe you can commute to the school of your choice. If you can show your parents how that school will be more beneficial to your future, rather than your social life, they'll be a lot more receptive.

I wish I could do this but no schools around me allow this and there are no private schools nearby.

Thanks for the suggestion.
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Old 04-25-2009, 06:28 PM
 
Location: North Beach, MD on the Chesapeake
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And always remember that the grass isn't always greener on the other side of the fence.

Are you seriously proposing they pick up and move, quit their jobs, leave their friends and sell their house in a down market because you don't like your school? I would think again if I were you.
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Old 04-25-2009, 06:30 PM
 
Location: Hot Springs, AR
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How far away is the school you want to go to? Do you have relatives in the school's district? Maybe you can stay with them during the week and go home on the weekends.
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Old 04-25-2009, 07:02 PM
 
Location: Wyoming
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I wish I could do this but no schools around me allow this and there are no private schools nearby.

Thanks for the suggestion.
Are you 100% certain? It's not too uncommon these days. Our city allows it without question, up to a (percentage) point. One of my nieces did it several years ago. She petitioned both school districts involved and was granted the switch -- from attending the small high school a mile from home to the larger one 30 miles from home. She was musically gifted and wanted the larger school for better opportunities. (She's now become a professional musician and travels the world performing with different bands.)

As a last resort, you might consider discussing it with your parents. There might be something they can do. When I was in 8th grade my family moved, and I was enrolled in a Catholic school. I hated it, but I figured I had to do whatever my parents asked, and it was only for a year. Several years later I told them how I hated it. They were shocked. They said they'd have gladly let me attend public school if they'd have known. Your parents might be wishing they could move but don't want to pull you out of your school. Talk!!!!
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Old 04-25-2009, 07:07 PM
 
Location: Up above the world so high!
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I hate where my family lives. I am a teen so still have to live at home. What would be a way to ask my family to move but without really asking: "Can we move. I do not want to bother or annoy them" Should I brag about the opportunities that the area I want to go to has? Where I live, the school I go to has no clubs other than sports and I want to do more things at a school and be more social.

Thank you for helping me.
One skill you will hopefully hone as you get into adulthood is direct communication. So try practicing it now.

First though, spend some time drawing up a list of the reasons you feel your family should move. Then approach them when it's a good time to talk - not when people are rushing around trying to get somewhere for instance.

Explain that you've been thinking about this subject for a while and you're hoping they will be open to discussing it with you. Then present your arguments in favor of moving. Be prepared for them to tell you why it may not be possible to move too. Don't pitch a fit when they say no (that just makes you seem immature). But ask them what it would take to make this a possibility - agree to work with them where necessary.

Good luck!
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Old 04-26-2009, 04:47 AM
 
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How far away is the school you want to go to? Do you have relatives in the school's district? Maybe you can stay with them during the week and go home on the weekends.

The school I would like to go to is about 38.1 miles or about 44 minutes from my home. We do not have relatives in the area.

Thank you all for your continuing posts. They are very helpful to me.
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