My dad is very mean to me :( (father, siblings, person)

[NJ-201]

My dad has always been very mean to me, even since I was born
For example, he doesn't want me to go with the family to some places sometimes. If something for example breaks in the house or anything else, he screams and blames it on me and is saying that I've done the bad stuff. He also tells me to STUDY STUDY STUDY a lot! I HATE MY DAD, AND ALWAYS WILL HATE HIM! He's soo rude to me on almost everything. If I've done something good, he will never say that I did a good job on anything. For example last winter, I cleaned our driveway from 1 feet snow, and I left very little snow on the side, he told me I didn't do good job, because I left a little bit snow on the corner, WTF? I spend an hour in the cold of shoveling the stupid snow on the driveway! But that's only 1 out of 1000 occasions. Once, I forgot to fill up the gas on the car, he screamed on me so loud. I have always been scared of my dad, and all my siblings too. My mom is mostly nice to me, but could occasionally be rude to me too, but I still love her. My dad hates me, I know that . He never ever told me he likes me or anything, he has been very rude to me on everything. Like I said, I'm very scared of him. He doesn't let me eat two plates for dinner, he's telling me I'm fat etc. Once he told me to stop drinking soda and told me to drink water instead... he's bisacally very rude to me 90% of the time for no reason. At least once a week he's been rude to me that it makes me cry. What should I do?

I'm the youngest in the family, all my brother & sisters don't live in the house anymore since they got married and are much older than me.
I can't wait few more years to move from the house and skip him!!! The good thing is that he's 45 years older than me, so he will be very old when I'm still young so I will skip seeing him. If I was a child to another family, they would be so proud and happy of me for things I'm doing and acting in front of others!

[hothulamaui]

I am sorry you are not having a better time of it with your dad. hang in there, try not to let his negative hurt you. you would hope that when people become adults they become better people, but that is not always the case. do your best in life, what is troubling your father has nothing to do with you.

[Zephora]

Hi NJ, I'm so sorry for what you are experiencing with your Dad. It's easy to say don't let his attitude bother you, but that's all I can say... Also, make sure never to become like him! Keep telling yourself that you're a good person, and if your Dad can't see that, then he must be a fool. It's sad when a parent can't even show love and respect to their own children. He must not like himself very much, that's why he can't project any love. Maybe, if you try to feel sorry for him, it will help you forgive him for his bad behaviour. It's not healthy for you to hate him. You need to learn to forgive him for your own good. Easy for me to say, but it's true.
Good luck! Be strong.

[qjane82]

You could try confronting him about it, but it's usually easier said than done.

The best you can do is to do well for yourself. Get out of the house as soon as possible. Some people are train wrecks and they don't care who they run over in the process.

[NJ-201]

Originally Posted by Zephora

Hi NJ, I'm so sorry for what you are experiencing with your Dad. It's easy to say don't let his attitude bother you, but that's all I can say... Also, make sure never to become like him! Keep telling yourself that you're a good person, and if your Dad can't see that, then he must be a fool. It's sad when a parent can't even show love and respect to their own children. He must not like himself very much, that's why he can't project any love. Maybe, if you try to feel sorry for him, it will help you forgive him for his bad behaviour. It's not healthy for you to hate him. You need to learn to forgive him for your own good. Easy for me to say, but it's true.
Good luck! Be strong.

I tried to forgive him hundres of times, he's still very rude to me.
I know his my dad, but he doesn't like me and I don't.
He's very cold, and so was his dad.

[TMTY]

Most of the time we dont realise what is going on in our parents lives, maybe there is a much bigger picture and his negative attitutude has nothing to do with you. My mam had depression when I was growing up, so I never understood why she would switch from manic angry to sad to happy, I was always scared to go home as I was unsure if she would be shouting or crying or laughing. I always thought I was the one making her unhappy and it was all my fault, all I knew when I was younger that I pretty much wanted out of her life.

Now shes happier and Im happier When I got older and understood her world more I found it hard to resent her for the bad times in my childhood.

[Little Mizz Pittsburgh]

Originally Posted by TMTY

Most of the time we dont realise what is going on in our parents lives, maybe there is a much bigger picture and his negative attitutude has nothing to do with you.

Co-sign.

I pray things get better for you. I get so sad after reading stories like these. I couldn't imagine having to go through that day in and day, by a PARENT at that.

[EllenArlingtonPark]

I think you need to talk to your Mom about this and tell her that your Dad is being too hard on you.
I am sorry this is happening but I think you are strong and can get through this.

[NJ-201]

Originally Posted by EllenArlingtonPark

I think you need to talk to your Mom about this and tell her that your Dad is being too hard on you.
I am sorry this is happening but I think you are strong and can get through this.

She knows, 90% of the time this happens he screames and yells at me in front of her. She just shakes her head (which means ignores him, he's stupid)

[Huckleberry3911948]

well you missed a spot on the driveway he wants you to study and does not want you fat.
he messed up yelling at you about filling the tank and blaming you for the breakin.
you dont like your dad.
when he is dead that will not feel good.
try to find something to like bout him asap.