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I had a very difficult time saying no when I was younger and, when I first started doing so, it wasn't easy. Then I realized the world wasn't going to come to an end, the earth wasn't going to swallow me up and it got easier and easier. A few years down the line and I stopped saying, "I'm sorry, no",*and then segued into, "I can't do that, no."
Do you have a problem telling other people "No"? How do you manage to tell others "No" without feeling guilty?
Example: Say someone asks you if you'd loan them money.Do you tend to just cave in and say "Yes"?
I'm typically a pretty blunt person. I do try to remain at least semi-politically correct, but if I don't agree with something, or if I don't feel right doing something, I have no problems telling someone no.
Besides, you can still be nice and be your own person without being used. It goes back to that thing that they call Confidence.
Location: Everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for-B Marley
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How do you take your first dive off a diving board? You just do it. Once you do it, it feels good b'c you don't feel any kind of resentment for making a choice you're unhappy with. The more you do it, the easier it gets. Believe me, people aren't going to hate you for it or think less of it--unless you're an a** about it and there's no need for that. You can be firm without hurting feelings. And if they do end up hating you for it, oh well. That's their problem.
In life anyhow, people who are too eager to please get taken advantage of. I think the common definition of nice is just BS anyhow, and should not be being a doormat who is subservient to others.
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