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Old 12-13-2009, 09:38 PM
 
Location: Boca Raton, FL
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I have a pretty large family but my husband's side is down to 1. We always have a big family party and some gave small gifts, some gave larger items - I would give my nephews and nieces gift cards to the movies or Starbucks (they now range in age from 19 to 25) - I would give the adults a gift card to a restaurant they liked and it seemed like everyone appreciated it.

If I did a family gift (one item to each family), it was like a popcorn maker or something that could be shared by everyone.

It's getting harder to get together each year but I don't want the tradition to end - any ideas? Adopting a family to help throughout the year instead? Every group could take a month and videotape it - does that sound corny?

The others have decided on "no gifts" this year. A couple of the families do quite well so it's not the money. I'm probably one of the ones that struggle but I always thought it was fun.

Anyone been through this? (Not trying to create tension - just trying to go with the flow).
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Old 12-13-2009, 09:40 PM
 
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We pretty much just draw names. With 20-odd family members on my side, it was just getting insane--not to mention expensive.
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Old 12-13-2009, 09:48 PM
 
Location: Up above the world so high!
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I have a pretty large family but my husband's side is down to 1. We always have a big family party and some gave small gifts, some gave larger items - I would give my nephews and nieces gift cards to the movies or Starbucks (they now range in age from 19 to 25) - I would give the adults a gift card to a restaurant they liked and it seemed like everyone appreciated it.

If I did a family gift (one item to each family), it was like a popcorn maker or something that could be shared by everyone.

It's getting harder to get together each year but I don't want the tradition to end - any ideas? Adopting a family to help throughout the year instead? Every group could take a month and videotape it - does that sound corny?

The others have decided on "no gifts" this year. A couple of the families do quite well so it's not the money. I'm probably one of the ones that struggle but I always thought it was fun.

Anyone been through this? (Not trying to create tension - just trying to go with the flow).
A few years ago we started giving chickens and pigs to needy families in Africa through World Vision. Each pig or chicken was given in one person's name and they got a card telling about the family the livestock was going to We all agreed none of us really "need" anything at this stage of our lives.

http://www.worldvision.org/content.n...e/ways-to-give
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Old 12-13-2009, 09:54 PM
 
Location: So Cal
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I really really really have all I need.

Every once in a while I catch myself, and I realize that I'm one of the worlds most luckiest persons.

I wish that for everyone.

I'll be donating this yr to our local charities.

Maybe they will someday by one of the "most luckiest" persons.
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Old 12-14-2009, 01:01 AM
 
Location: California
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I really really really have all I need.

Every once in a while I catch myself, and I realize that I'm one of the worlds most luckiest persons.

I wish that for everyone.

I'll be donating this yr to our local charities.

Maybe they will someday by one of the "most luckiest" persons.
I feel that way much of the time. This year my 19 yr old son told me he was having trouble making a christmas list (at the request of his grandma) because he didn't really want or need anything. I was so proud of him for realizing that.
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Old 12-14-2009, 01:04 AM
 
Location: So Cal
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I feel that way much of the time. This year my 19 yr old son told me he was having trouble making a christmas list (at the request of his grandma) because he didn't really want or need anything. I was so proud of him for realizing that.
LOL, that is really cool.

I was just telling the SO that I really don't need anything. I wish you and your son the best.
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Old 12-14-2009, 01:33 AM
 
Location: So Cal
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I have a pretty large family but my husband's side is down to 1. We always have a big family party and some gave small gifts, some gave larger items - I would give my nephews and nieces gift cards to the movies or Starbucks (they now range in age from 19 to 25) - I would give the adults a gift card to a restaurant they liked and it seemed like everyone appreciated it.

If I did a family gift (one item to each family), it was like a popcorn maker or something that could be shared by everyone.

It's getting harder to get together each year but I don't want the tradition to end - any ideas? Adopting a family to help throughout the year instead? Every group could take a month and videotape it - does that sound corny?

The others have decided on "no gifts" this year. A couple of the families do quite well so it's not the money. I'm probably one of the ones that struggle but I always thought it was fun.

Anyone been through this? (Not trying to create tension - just trying to go with the flow).
We do the kids and then we draw names for one adult in the family. Even so, there are other people we have to buy for. I know it's kind of sad to stop giving gifts to everyone, but it really can get out of hand. You can still get together and not give gifts, though. The tradition doesn't have to end over that. I really like the idea of giving to charities, etc., but I'm afraid that that just might not go over with everyone in our family (sad thought, I know ).

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I feel that way much of the time. This year my 19 yr old son told me he was having trouble making a christmas list (at the request of his grandma) because he didn't really want or need anything. I was so proud of him for realizing that.
That's really nice to hear. Really.
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Old 12-14-2009, 02:24 AM
 
Location: Coachella Valley, California
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I don't know what to get anybody either. Throughout the year, if anybody needs or wants anything, we just go out and get it. Nobody waits for anybody to buy ot for them for Christmas. So, I guess I'll be giving everybody that most treasured gift of all .............. MONEY!!!
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Old 12-14-2009, 02:47 AM
 
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Is that what you are getting me for Christmas???

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I don't know what to get anybody either. Throughout the year, if anybody needs or wants anything, we just go out and get it. Nobody waits for anybody to buy ot for them for Christmas. So, I guess I'll be giving everybody that most treasured gift of all .............. MONEY!!!
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Old 12-14-2009, 02:47 AM
 
Location: So Cal
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I don't know what to get anybody either. Throughout the year, if anybody needs or wants anything, we just go out and get it. Nobody waits for anybody to buy ot for them for Christmas. So, I guess I'll be giving everybody that most treasured gift of all .............. MONEY!!!

Didn't you know that I was you long lost cousin.

Give me some money now.
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