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Bulls***, displaying something on your car is for the purpose of gaining attention. So yes when they do that they are thinking about what others will think not just themselves. So please.........
Why do people scribble just married on their car? because they want the world to know. They know they just got married, they don't need to paint it on their car to remind themself that they just did so come on...
Regurgitating these to be fact doesn't make it so. It is how you see it, not how it actually is for them.
If you can preach the difference between a "national tragedy" and a personal one, you should be able to see the difference between rejoicing in being "just married" and memorializing someone who died, as far as attention goes. I suspect you won't.
Either way, it is your opinion and you are entitled to it, no matter how stupid I think it is.
It has been years since I have posted to this website. Your post motivated me to do so. Please take a few minutes out of your precious day to read a little bit about what us overly emotional, grieving parents feel. Taylor Burgstahler (1988 - 2005)
(Sorry, I do not know how to make this a link. I would appreciate it if someone could post it as a link. Thanks.)
Words cannot express the sadness one feels when a loving child suddenly up and dies. Yes, it sucks that "we" dare share even an iota of grief. I mean, really, who are "we" to suggest that "we" actually have a right to put a little sticker on the back of our cars to connect with other grieving parents?
I wish this on no one - even you.
A website is more appropiate. Those that need to come together to grieve have a choice to do so as they are seeking out your site or are directed due to you. Different than having a sticker on the car. You also include words of direction and comfort, a difference.
Of course no one would wish this on anyone the whole point of publicly displaying it brings people into sadness. Posting about it on a forum is reaching out to people on a semi personal level anyway, displaying it publicly only notifies strangers of your loss. The whole point of why it struck me particularly hard as compared to "in memory of Harry Mudd 1925-2008" who while it is sad that he is gone at least the guy had a full life.
Do I not expect for you to grieve? Of course I do and anyone who knows about your loss even if I never met you for some of us it really makes us grieve also. But ALL of us learn what loosing someone feels like sooner or later, it is not a feeling alien to most, although a child, well that is specially rough. However time heals, or at least makes it not so bad, that is the way it is suppose to be. I keep my chrished memories of my lost ones in my heart and mind where it matters most and I go on living my life to the most I can.
Regurgitating these to be fact doesn't make it so. It is how you see it, not how it actually is for them.
If you can preach the difference between a "national tragedy" and a personal one, you should be able to see the difference between rejoicing in being "just married" and memorializing someone who died, as far as attention goes. I suspect you won't.
The biggest difference as I see it is that just married folk are keenly aware. They're shouting from the mountain tops, wide-eyed and alive. Folks in grief are walking around in a fog. They're bearly aware of themselves let alone anybody else. I left my front door open this morning when I left for work. It's freezing out. I just walked right out. I did the exact same thing last night. My dh came home to an ice box twice.
Regurgitating these to be fact doesn't make it so. It is how you see it, not how it actually is for them.
If you can preach the difference between a "national tragedy" and a personal one, you should be able to see the difference between rejoicing in being "just married" and memorializing someone who died, as far as attention goes. I suspect you won't.
Either way, it is your opinion and you are entitled to it, no matter how stupid I think it is.
Nope, you can say I'm selfish, stupid or whatever but there is one fact you can't escape. And that is that while you say people put stickers on their car not caring what others think and that they only do it for personal rememberance than why are they putting it on the outside for everybody to read and not inside where it would be in their face for personal memory?
I'd say it's really none of our business how people grieve. Personally I find the stickers on the car a bit silly, but that kinda fits with our narcissistic MyFacebookspace society we have. The roadside memorials don't make much sense to me either.
I wouldn't really let it concern me though. I certainly wouldn't want someone telling me how to grieve.
People put stickers on their car to express themselves, for whatever reason. It's their car, their business. No one should be that affected by it. I've always wondered why some people really dislike bumper stickers in general. Some are really political or funny or gross, but who cares. I like them because they make the person in the rolling metal box an individual. Just think it's interesting when people express themselves in that way, whatever they may be thinking or feeling. I don't see why they should not do it as a memorial if that is what they want.
Very slighty to the side of this topic, the stickers that worry me are the ones that proud parents put on the SUV windows..."Taylor #12" on a football helmet or "Hailey" under the outline of a megaphone. Why are parents arming complete strangers with knowledge about their childrens' extracurricular activities? In much of this area, kids wait at the bus stop alone or in a group. It wouldn't take a genius to roll up on some kid and say "Hey Taylor, your mom told me to come and get you, she got sick and is the hospital. Sure I know her! She talks to me all the time about how good you are at football, number 12, right?"...
Be proud of your kids but really, just slap one of those "My kid is smart enough to bring home this bumper sticker" thingies on the bumper and leave it at that.
People put stickers on their car to express themselves, for whatever reason. It's their car, their business. No one should be that affected by it. I've always wondered why some people really dislike bumper stickers in general. Some are really political or funny or gross, but who cares. I like them because they make the person in the rolling metal box an individual. Just think it's interesting when people express themselves in that way, whatever they may be thinking or feeling. I don't see why they should not do it as a memorial if that is what they want.
I don't think it is any different than someone getting a tattoo, the color they choose for their home, the style clothes they choose to wear...self expression
I think it all started with those yellow "Baby on Board" signs. Before then it was all decals. And that's back when car license plate holders said "Have a nice day."
When dinosaurs roamed the earth...
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