Originally Posted by Dingler
My wife's family does not communicate with me. When I try to talk to them I usually get a grunt, a bored look, or at best- a one word answer to my comments. It is painful. My wife's relationship with her her family is not so great either.
Though it always seems like we are forced to get involved in different family activities. Each are more painful than the next. I can just feel the tension in the air. They really do not like me but are to polite and formal to actually say it verbally. (I have tried to be nice, but it does not work). I do not think talking to them about it would work.
I am looking for feedback from people who do not get along with their in-laws. How do you handle the situation?
I think that their treatment of you is abusive. I have no doubt that you try hard, are friendly and likeable. The problem is theirs, not yours.
Unfortunately, in-law rejection can wreck havoc in a marriage. And I am no stranger to it.My husband and I decided to cut them out of our life rather than have me continue to grovel for acceptance and to be treated respectfully.
It was never going to happen and it never will.
We finally moved and left no forwarding address.With the aid of a private detective, they tracked us down. We still have'nt seen them, We send holiday cards, but that's about it.
They even play games with my children.
Please do yourself a favor and remove yourself from this toxic situation.
I wish you the best and I hope that your wife understands that this is serious and unexceptionable
It has nothing to do with blood, but everything to do with love.
Would you let your wife be subjected to this treatment by your family? If you love her, you would not, and she will not permit this atrocious behavior to continue.
Best of luck to you.