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This is sad that so many people are so negative about people who are alone. Has it ever occurred to anyone that not everyone has a family? Some people have abusive parents who have either deserted them or they feel its best to stay away from them, some people have no siblings so after their parents die they have no family anyway unless they are fortunate enough to be in a relationship. Not everyone is able to get married. People with lifelong health problems and disabilities are very often shunned by others and never have a romantic relationship, the obese are often shunned as are some people of certain racial and religious backgrounds especially in highly prejudice areas one-race, one-religion towns.
Not everyone lives near friendly neighbors either. Like for me I live in a college town and all my neighbors are in their 20's. They are busy with college and their own very active party every night social life. Do you think those people will ever bother to offer a friendly wave let alone check up on a neighbor to see if they are okay? No they are the "me" generation that do not care about anyone other than themselves and especially have no respect for someone who is older than themselves or disabled. These very same young people are also the ones who will park in a handicap parking spot if no other spaces are left even if they are strong and able-bodied.
So don't be so quick to judge the home-bodies. Some people like solitude while others are forced into this lifestyle because of illness or because no one wants to be their friend. Do you even stop to think every holiday if there is anyone you know who is dying of loneliness that would love to be invited to your Thanksgiving dinner or even your Super Bowl party? We're not weirdos just because we stay at home. Some may even stay at home because they don't have the money to get out.
the neighbor who would not have eye contact at the mail box was a Eastern Airlines Pilot. So no I don't think he had autism. But then again.......
Actually that's the kind of job a high functioning autistic person would have especially a man with Aspergers. People are very ignorant about autism in general. Aspies who are high functioning enough to work often gravitate to jobs like medical specialists, engineers, computer jobs, software analysts and a lot of the guys have obsessions with trains and planes which yes can lead to very specialized jobs. In my area there are two highly prominent Aspies, one is a cardiologist and the other an orthopedic surgeon. Aspies thrive in jobs that relate to their obsessions so you might be surprised just how many closet Autistics are out there. If I had a million dollars I would bet it all that your lack of eye contact neighbor has Aspergers Syndrome. Don't be so hard on him. Its a rarity that Aspies can even hold down a job so give him his due credit.
I've never even seen any of my neighbors in my apartment building. i know theres a guy living across from me since i occasionally hear his door open at night when he comes home. no idea what he looks like. i know when they leave packages at my door he doesnt steal them, so other then that i dont care =P
I like to spend my time in my apartment alone too. I don't think my neighbors care or notice at all. Really, people are too engrossed with their own lives to care. You shouldn't worry about it.
I have always been a solitary type of person so I enjoy being a alone a lot. I rent an apartment and I hardly EVER have guests over because I don't have a lot of friends/acquaintances. I'm also always home on the weekends etc.
Do you think my neighbors are too pre-occupied with their own lives to even care or notice that I don't have anyone come over and that I'm home on NYE by myself? Or do you think they notice and think to themselves "Wow, that woman has no life! I know she is home alone on NYE! She never goes anywhere on the weekends, where are her friends?"
I think they should be happy that I'm a loner and don't throw loud parties and have guests over late night. They should be lucky that I'm as quiet as a mouse.
What do you think?
Why do you care what your neighbor thinks. They are probably glad to have a nice ;quiet neighbor like you I wouold bet.
Why do you care what your neighbor thinks. They are probably glad to have a nice ;quiet neighbor like you I wouold bet.
Because I'm weird, I care about what EVERYONE thinks about me. Perhaps it's vanity or self-obsession but I love knowing what others think of whether it be about my looks, appearance or how quiet I am. I can't really explain why. I just love knowing what others think about me.
Because I'm weird, I care about what EVERYONE thinks about me. Perhaps it's vanity or self-obsession but I love knowing what others think of whether it be about my looks, appearance or how quiet I am. I can't really explain why. I just love knowing what others think about me.
Perhaps. Maybe if you expanded your horizons you wouldn't be so unnecessarily preoccupied.
This is the first year I did nothing for Christmas and it was really nice. I was invited to a friends house and declined. In an urban area neighbors don't seem to notice. In almost a year I have noticed guest at my neigbors maybe one or 2 times, but they could have had people over more. I have had a guest probably less than 10 times in a year, because I don't like being a host. I go out with friends maybe 2 times a week, but some friends I have go out maybe 4 or 5 times a week. I would feel really overwhelmed going out 5 times a week. I need time alone to decompress.
the OP, and I too have been curious as to what a landlord thought of my lonerism
But firstly most renters have to have a job so they cay the rent, so they have to interact with SOMEONE so they in reality can't be total hermits
I remember about 15 years ago a weird neighbor moved in next door. In addition to a delusion she had that she thought the couple next door's husband had a thing for her, I was alone on Thanksgiving 2000 and she knocks on my door and gives me a plate of food, as if to say she's been noticing that i come and go alone all the time and have no one to spend the holidays with. Instead of feeling thankful, I felt like she was watching me. Luckily she moved out a few years later.
I don't think most landlords have time to care. Mine have a security camera and watch you come and go but really, who's to say that you're social life simply exists outside the apartment? I've noticed people who i thought were alone and it turned out they had a SO all along
This is the first year I did nothing for Christmas and it was really nice. I was invited to a friends house and declined. In an urban area neighbors don't seem to notice. In almost a year I have noticed guest at my neigbors maybe one or 2 times, but they could have had people over more. I have had a guest probably less than 10 times in a year, because I don't like being a host. I go out with friends maybe 2 times a week, but some friends I have go out maybe 4 or 5 times a week. I would feel really overwhelmed going out 5 times a week. I need time alone to decompress.
Lol, I notice my neighbors have guests several times a week. The last time I had ONE guest over was probably 8 months ago. I'm not real sociable. I never have guests over not even for Christmas or Thanksgivign etc. I don't like being a host either. I don't go out ever so I'm home all weekend... lol Even though I look really young, hip, cool and very attractive... I just like to stay home. People assume by looking at me that I am a "party girl" because I am fashionable and dress up like a "fashionista" but I'm weird and stay home.
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