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What kind of question is that. Of course I care about what people think; that is why I drive the car I do (luxury car) and when I DO leave the house I am fashionable, am always made up, always wearing heels. etc. Why else would I do all that? Because I want people to think I look good. TO ME, what others think matters.
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Let me get this straight. You care about what everyone else thinks of you, but never leave your place. I'm a loner as well, (although happily married) and I don't go out much either. Doesn't bother me at all what anyone else thinks. I don't bother with most people and don't hurt anyone. I don't spend much on clothes and I drive a 2000 model year car. I could honestly care less what ANYONE else thinks of what I wear, how I look, or what I drive. It would take a platoon of psychiatrists to figure you out, Jackie. LOL
What kind of question is that. Of course I care about what people think; that is why I drive the car I do (luxury car) and when I DO leave the house I am fashionable, am always made up, always wearing heels. etc. Why else would I do all that? Because I want people to think I look good. TO ME, what others think matters.
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Let me get this straight. You care about what everyone else thinks of you, but never leave your place. I'm a loner as well, (although happily married) and I don't go out much either. Doesn't bother me at all what anyone else thinks. I don't bother with most people and don't hurt anyone. I don't spend much on clothes and I drive a 2000 model year car. I could honestly care less what ANYONE else thinks of what I wear, how I look, or what I drive. It would take a platoon of psychiatrists to figure you out, Jackie. LOL
It just means that I care about image and how I look. I find it interesting to know what people to think about me.
I don't leave the house because I have no friends. No one asks me to go anywhere. So where am I supposed to go?
I haven't read most of the responses but I am rather puzzled why, if you don't care to even converse casually with people, you'd dwell on wondering what they think of you? It seems to me that if you're anti-social you wouldn't care.
Hahahaha, I'm NOT anti-social and I don't care what my neighbors think of me!
Others' opinions ONLY matter if you care to be in relationship with them. They shouldn't matter in the slightest if you don't.
Because I have always cared about what others think about me. I just find it very interesting and fascinating to know what people think about me. I don't know why but I just do. For example, I am very flattered when people think I'm attractive. I guess maybe I am not TRULY TRULY anti-social in the clinical sense. I am just always home because I don't really have friends. Does that make sense.
It's not in my nature to make friends. It's hard for me to talk to people I don't know. I don't care to make friends right now. I've never had any throughout my life really. That's not what this topic is about. I just wanted to know what you guys think that my neighbors might think of me. Yes, it's probably very self-indulgent but that's not a terrible crime is it?
Also, I don't care to make friends. The only reason why I even MENTIONED that I don't have friends is because someone wondered why I care about what others think but don't leave the house. They were trying to tell me that "others opinions don't matter". Perhaps it doesn't matter to THEM. I, on the other hand DO care about what strangers think about me. I am very image obsessed and into image etc even though I'm not super sociable. That is the only reason why I even mentioned that I don't have friends; and also because some people said they thought I might be involved in illegal activity since I don't leave the house. I stated that I do not have friends in order to let them know that I am NOT engaged in anything illegal; I am just not a social butterfly. I mentioned that I don't have friends in order to illustrate a point and to explain WHY I don't leave the house.
That doesn't mean I WANT to make friends. So there is no need for you to suggest that I MAKE friends. I never said I wanted any. I was only explaining WHY I don't leave the house. I hope you understand.
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I have always been a solitary type of person so I enjoy being a alone a lot. I rent an apartment and I hardly EVER have guests over because I don't have a lot of friends/acquaintances. I'm also always home on the weekends etc.
Do you think my neighbors are too pre-occupied with their own lives to even care or notice that I don't have anyone come over and that I'm home on NYE by myself? Or do you think they notice and think to themselves "Wow, that woman has no life! I know she is home alone on NYE! She never goes anywhere on the weekends, where are her friends?"
I think they should be happy that I'm a loner and don't throw loud parties and have guests over late night. They should be lucky that I'm as quiet as a mouse.
What do you think?
Old post, didn't read the thread. But I can tell you the answer most likely is, your neighbors don't care about you and they don't think about you ever. They aren't happy you are a loner, they aren't unhappy either, they simply don't care. They don't feel lucky that you are quietly - your silence merely pushes even farther out of their minds.
I'm a bit of a loner myself, and loners have a habit of becoming very self-absorbed. You wondering about whether the neighbors are wondering about you is just another manifestation of your self-absorption. I remind myself constantly that nobody cares about this sort of thing. And truth is, they really don't.
Old post, didn't read the thread. But I can tell you the answer most likely is, your neighbors don't care about you and they don't think about you ever. They aren't happy you are a loner, they aren't unhappy either, they simply don't care. They don't feel lucky that you are quietly - your silence merely pushes even farther out of their minds.
I'm a bit of a loner myself, and loners have a habit of becoming very self-absorbed. You wondering about whether the neighbors are wondering about you is just another manifestation of your self-absorption. I remind myself constantly that nobody cares about this sort of thing. And truth is, they really don't.
I'm sure they care because I am quite attractive. If it's an average person or old man no one would care but I stand out more because I'm attractive, fashionable and I look young. No one would EVER know by looking at me that I stay home. I look like a party girl. I have that physical image.
It's not in my nature to make friends. It's hard for me to talk to people I don't know. I don't care to make friends right now. I've never had any throughout my life really. That's not what this topic is about. I just wanted to know what you guys think that my neighbors might think of me. Yes, it's probably very self-indulgent but that's not a terrible crime is it?
Also, I don't care to make friends. The only reason why I even MENTIONED that I don't have friends is because someone wondered why I care about what others think but don't leave the house. They were trying to tell me that "others opinions don't matter". Perhaps it doesn't matter to THEM. I, on the other hand DO care about what strangers think about me. I am very image obsessed and into image etc even though I'm not super sociable. That is the only reason why I even mentioned that I don't have friends; and also because some people said they thought I might be involved in illegal activity since I don't leave the house. I stated that I do not have friends in order to let them know that I am NOT engaged in anything illegal; I am just not a social butterfly. I mentioned that I don't have friends in order to illustrate a point and to explain WHY I don't leave the house.
That doesn't mean I WANT to make friends. So there is no need for you to suggest that I MAKE friends. I never said I wanted any. I was only explaining WHY I don't leave the house. I hope you understand.
Yep. You are very self-absorbed. This thread is kinda like watching you masturbate in public, hiding in plain sight.
All these things about you that you are going on and on about? Nobody cares.
You are being very argumentative with samston in order to focus on yourself yet again... but samston honestly doesn't care about you.
Nobody does. If you get into a long term relationship some day, that person might care. Kids, yes they'd care. Your mom, if she's alive, she probably cares.
You neighbors? co workers? Fellow internet forum people? People you pass in your day to day life?
They don't give an F--- about you and they never will, no matter how much you beg and scream "look at me!!!"
I'm sure they care because I am quite attractive. If it's an average person or old man no one would care but I stand out more because I'm attractive, fashionable and I look young. No one would EVER know by looking at me that I stay home. I look like a party girl. I have that physical image.
Sorry but, I really don't care what you look like.
You neighbors? co workers? Fellow internet forum people? People you pass in your day to day life?
They don't give an F--- about you and they never will, no matter how much you beg and scream "look at me!!!"
Welcome to adulthood.
Then how come some other guy a few pages ago said he WOULD notice if he had a neighbor that was all alone. He said he would wonder if they were doing anything illegal. (Umm, no not doing anything illegal. Sorry but not everyone is a social butterfly. Is that a crime). He also said he notices that his neighbor's tv is on even though her car is gone. So apparently some people DO notice.
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