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Old 06-03-2007, 01:22 PM
Location: VA
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I know alot of people who spend alot of time in friendly social engagements with their brothers and sisters but do not really have anything in common except they are family. If that same person was not related they would not have anything to say to each other and would surely not be friendly.

Are you sociable with your brothers and sisters? If so, is it because he or she is family or do you really enjoy their company?
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Old 06-03-2007, 02:27 PM
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My brother lives about 3 and a half hours from me, and my 3 sisters live in the same city as I do. My brother and I are like best friends and always have been, so if he weren't my brother he would still be my best friend. I love my sisters dearly, but if they weren't family I probably wouldn't be weekly friends with them I don't think..but who knows.
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Old 06-03-2007, 06:30 PM
Location: Happiness is found inside your smile :)
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If you asked me this 8 years ago I'd answer yes - because growing up we were just two utterly different people - we didn't pump heads or anything - just two different lifestyles

Since we've both had kids however we are no closer - or at least closer then we used to be. We still live acorss the country from each other so we don't see each other but once a year

Plus I think we talke on the phone only a handful of times a year too - not muchbetween us - but no longer pumping heads.
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Old 06-03-2007, 07:26 PM
Location: Los Angeles Area
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I'm socialize with my family only because they are my family. If I wasn't related to them, I would most likely never talk to them. Oddly don't have anything in common with my family.
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Old 06-03-2007, 07:33 PM
Location: Coachella Valley, California
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Yes, I absolutely have a lot in common with my brother and do socialize with him. He is my friend. We had another brother who was hit head-on and killed 7 years ago. We miss him terribly and because we have this shared experience, our bonds - both as siblings and as friends - has grown very, very strong. My brother is like a total comedian, so there is never a dull moment with him. I too am somewhat of a nut myself. We are also car fanatics. He is a Ford boy and I'm a Mopar girl. He doesn't dance, but he has agreed to let me drag him off to a dance. He's at the point now where he wants to meet a nice gal and possibly get married. I tried to talk him out of that nonsense, but he's ready. He's 40, so I guess it's time.
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Old 06-03-2007, 07:48 PM
Location: a primitive state
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The older I get, the better I like my family, and the more tolerant I've become of their peculiarities. It seems to have worked both ways. We are closer now than we were 20 years ago.
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Old 06-03-2007, 08:01 PM
Location: In the sunshine on a ship with a plank
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Interesting time for this post---- I'm in my mid 30s and I have three younger sisters- the youngest is a half sister and only 17 years old. Due to an ugly divorce between our common parent and her other one, I had no contact with her for the last 9 years. We re-established contact a couple of months ago and I visited her for the first time this weekend.

She just graduated from high school and she is so much like me it's uncanny. My other two sisters are nothing like me- we have different interests, different attitudes and values and not much in common at all. However this one who I haven't seen for so long is practically a mini me. I know it's odd to see a resemblance to yourself in another person, but she looks like me- some of her gestures and expressions I recognize as my own.

And when we talked about things- silly things like songs, music taste, artists, celebrities, we had the same opinions, likes and dislikes. Her collection of books mirrors my own. Her favorite television shows and movies match my own. She even uses the same toothpaste as me (and it's not a common choice).

Her high school experience was similar to mine. She had the same level of achievement that I had almost 20 years ago, and aspires to the same career that I did at that time.

It's amazing to me that we found so much in common considering the age difference and the long period of time we were apart. But we were practically able to finish each other's sentences within 24 hours of being reunited.

Not trying to toot my own horn since I've just pointed out our similarities, but she is WONDERFUL and I'm so proud of her!!
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Old 06-03-2007, 08:27 PM
Location: Debary, Florida
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I have two biological brothers and one adopted brother and one adopted sister.

I would be friendly with one of my biological brothers even if we were not related...even though we were not raised together, we have alot in common, our brains work in the same way.
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Old 06-03-2007, 09:23 PM
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I had 5 siblings-one sister and four brothers. We always got along as kids,but as we grew older, time and distance changed that. My 2nd to the youngest brother was in the same line as work as me. By chance,in 1989, we worked on the same job in northern Minnesota. He and I lived together and after two months,his new bride and their three month old daughter came to live with us. It was the best time of my life- without children I could hold and cherish my time with them. My sister-in-law became as close as a family member.It was the best of times and after the job I made sure that every time they visited my parents ,I'd jump on a plane and spend time with them. Along came another daughter and we spent every vacation together. This continued until 2002 and then Andy was diagnosed with A.L.S. Two years and two months later he died. A part of me went with him. I long to see his smile. I truly miss my brother.
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Old 06-04-2007, 12:24 AM
Location: Hot, Humid Texas
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About 10 years ago my brother and I were very close. He would come over to my house for supper most nights because he always thought I was the best cook. It was like he was part of my new family(husband, and kids) as he had been when I lived at home with my parents. Now we don't speak. At family gatherings we ignore each other, if I even show up. When I know he will be there I sometimes stay away. My sister and I get along, but I can go weeks without speaking to her. I guess my answer is I'm not sociable with my brother and I probably wouldn't be with my sister if she weren't family. I do however have a wonderful variety of truly great friends who I consider as close to me as my family.
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