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OK so here's the story. I am 20 years old I work a stable job with fairly stable hours at $9.15 an hour, I have my own car which I am paying for, I pay my own bills (Cell phone, 3 credit cards, car insurance) and a little bit of food for myself. I still live with my parents so they take care of rent, utilities and most of the food, and every possession I have, I paid for myself (except this computer which I am using to type this, it was a high school graduation gift)
We have been renting a condo in south Orlando for the past 4 months, this is the first time in a very long time (about 15 years) that my family has had a stable living situation. And it is only this way because my dad is 63 and now collecting social security, while my mother picks her hours at Universal Studios and sometimes doesn't work at all
My father is a drunk with a very poor attitude and my mom is just apathetic and her priorities are way out of whack with things. My younger brother is taking the same attitudes as is my sister, they both get $700 a month from Social Security because they are still underage, for absolutely nothing, both are of legal age to work but they refuse to get jobs
My father has always been emotionally abusive towards all of us, me and my mom in particular.
I was born in Connecticut, and we moved to Orlando in 1995, and then back to Connecticut in 2001. In 1999, my mother cheated on my dad, and my dad took off to Connecticut. My mom, brother, sister, and I went to live with a nice family we went to church with, my dad returned to Orlando a little while later in a red convertible saying he had a good job and that everything was going to be ok, it wasn't.
We ended up living with another family who my mom knew through her job, then we lived in a homeless shelter for awhile, then we moved from motel to motel to motel until my dad rented a place way out in the country near Ocala. We lived there for a year until my dad wanted a place closer to his job in Orlando. We ended up moving to a trailer park out in a rural area of town, where my mom cheated on my dad again, and again he abandoned us. He crashed the family's car in Jacksonville and was arrested for DUI, and he went back to Connecticut
Eventually my Dad actually DID get a good paying job, but it required us to move back to Connecticut, to which I did NOT want to leave.
At first things were looking good, my father had just gotten a mortgage for a house, and he was about to close on it when he was laid off from his job. (Or so he said) We ended up living in a ratty motel for a year before my dad got an apartment and another job that paid MUCH less then what he made at the factory he was laid off at.
I was in middle school at the time and I hated it. The kids were so mean to me, and I went to middle school in a ghetto part of Connecticut, and my parents nor the school seemed to care. Right when I needed somebody in my life there was nobody, no shoulder to cry on, nobody who was willing to listen, nobody at all!
By 2005 my father's abusiveness reached a point where it was becoming physical, and I HAD to get away. I called my grandmother who lives in Orlando and she invited me to come live with her. Eventually my mom and brother came down to live with me, which caused my grandmother to send the 3 of us back to Connecticut. But for the short time I was there, I was so happy I didn't want to leave.
My father's abuse continued to worsen but I had gotten a job to save up money to get back to Florida, I was willing to do anything to get out of Connecticut and back to the sunshine state. One day my mom, brother, and I packed up and headed to Florida. We gave my sister the option to stay but she said no.
Eventually my mom missed my sister and rather then divorce my dad which she promised she would do, she wanted a quick and easy fix to see her again, so she PAID my father and sister's plane tickets to come down and live with us. For years we lived in so many different motels I cant even count, until finally when I was 18 and got the job I have now I moved out on my own, while I was still in high school
I graduated and rather then go to college, I wanted to stay on my own so I went to work. I bought my car last year, and was promoted at my job. But with the car payment and insurance, money got extremely tight so I moved back home to save some money up, since my family is now staying in a decent place, and my dad's income is stable
But none of it has changed the arguments are as bad as they've ever been between all of us, we are not even a family anymore, it seems as if it's every man for them self. I dont know why but it dawned on me to move away again, but this time not in Orlando or even within Florida, I want to move FAR AWAY, Las Vegas to be exact.
One day it dawned on me that I would like to live there, Last week I took a trip to see what the city is like (off the strip) and I loved everything I saw and did. The scenery is so gorgeous, the locals are so friendly and down to earth, and there is a virtual endless amount of things to do, I knew the minute I got off the plane I was meant to be there, it was the first time in my life I was truly happy.
I had a job interview there at the Planet Hollywood Casino while I was there, it would be a full time position.
I find myself again desperately wanting to make a move to get away from my family, and Im willing to do whatever it takes to make it happen. I'm not trying to run away from ALL my problems in Florida, I just don't want anything to do with my family anymore. I can't stand the dysfunction and it is driving me crazy, I don't want anything to do with them
Sorry that was so long, but would you want to do the same thing if you're family was at all like mine?
I won't go into detail, but my family was actually worse than yours. Also, my environment was the projects in South Central Los Angeles. I left the house when I was 13 y.o. and never looked back. I am 64 now and will always have some sadness that I couldn't have had a happier family life.
However, if I hadn't have left I probably would be dead or in jail now.
Believe in yourself, remain determined, work harder than everyone else, watch out for users, but always repay those who are kind to you. Good luck. If I could make it, so can you.
Davie, I am so sorry you have had such a rough life. If you can do it financially I'd say make the move. After you move to Vegas, contact your family via email only, and do not let them know where you live. I have this sick feeling that they will show up at your doorstep and leech off of you if they know your address. Though no one can change the past, the future is yours to make into whatever you wish it to be. Stay away from toxic people, users, and charity cases and you will be fine. I wish you well.
My dad is collecting social security, he gets $1400 a month, my brother and sister are still under 18, social security gives them both $700 a month because they are underage!
BTW to anybody who read this thread, I hate my job Im at too, I loved it at first, after I got my promotion I have come to dread going to work everyday now, yet I still find myself working all kinds of extra hours because my boss still thinks I want to make it into a career (management path) But I dont want to tell him I want to move across the country
Wait until the appropiate time to tell him, as in when all the plans are finalized. Don't even drop him a hint. And if you think s/he would be a jerk about it I would wait to as close as possible to your moving date to resign.
Davie, I am so sorry you have had such a rough life. If you can do it financially I'd say make the move. After you move to Vegas, contact your family via email only, and do not let them know where you live. I have this sick feeling that they will show up at your doorstep and leech off of you if they know your address. Though no one can change the past, the future is yours to make into whatever you wish it to be. Stay away from toxic people, users, and charity cases and you will be fine. I wish you well.
I am waiting till I have money or a job lined up first.
I could leave tonight if I wanted to, but I would not get a job in time before the money I have NOW would run out
I am waiting to hear back from a potential job right now, if I get it I can leave real soon, if not, Ill have to wait longer. Im praying I get the job real soon!
OK so here's the story. I am 20 years old I work a stable job with fairly stable hours at $9.15 an hour, I have my own car which I am paying for, I pay my own bills (Cell phone, 3 credit cards, car insurance) and a little bit of food for myself. I still live with my parents so they take care of rent, utilities and most of the food, and every possession I have, I paid for myself (except this computer which I am using to type this, it was a high school graduation gift)
We have been renting a condo in south Orlando for the past 4 months, this is the first time in a very long time (about 15 years) that my family has had a stable living situation. And it is only this way because my dad is 63 and now collecting social security, while my mother picks her hours at Universal Studios and sometimes doesn't work at all
My father is a drunk with a very poor attitude and my mom is just apathetic and her priorities are way out of whack with things. My younger brother is taking the same attitudes as is my sister, they both get $700 a month from Social Security because they are still underage, for absolutely nothing, both are of legal age to work but they refuse to get jobs
My father has always been emotionally abusive towards all of us, me and my mom in particular.
I was born in Connecticut, and we moved to Orlando in 1995, and then back to Connecticut in 2001. In 1999, my mother cheated on my dad, and my dad took off to Connecticut. My mom, brother, sister, and I went to live with a nice family we went to church with, my dad returned to Orlando a little while later in a red convertible saying he had a good job and that everything was going to be ok, it wasn't.
We ended up living with another family who my mom knew through her job, then we lived in a homeless shelter for awhile, then we moved from motel to motel to motel until my dad rented a place way out in the country near Ocala. We lived there for a year until my dad wanted a place closer to his job in Orlando. We ended up moving to a trailer park out in a rural area of town, where my mom cheated on my dad again, and again he abandoned us. He crashed the family's car in Jacksonville and was arrested for DUI, and he went back to Connecticut
Eventually my Dad actually DID get a good paying job, but it required us to move back to Connecticut, to which I did NOT want to leave.
At first things were looking good, my father had just gotten a mortgage for a house, and he was about to close on it when he was laid off from his job. (Or so he said) We ended up living in a ratty motel for a year before my dad got an apartment and another job that paid MUCH less then what he made at the factory he was laid off at.
I was in middle school at the time and I hated it. The kids were so mean to me, and I went to middle school in a ghetto part of Connecticut, and my parents nor the school seemed to care. Right when I needed somebody in my life there was nobody, no shoulder to cry on, nobody who was willing to listen, nobody at all!
By 2005 my father's abusiveness reached a point where it was becoming physical, and I HAD to get away. I called my grandmother who lives in Orlando and she invited me to come live with her. Eventually my mom and brother came down to live with me, which caused my grandmother to send the 3 of us back to Connecticut. But for the short time I was there, I was so happy I didn't want to leave.
My father's abuse continued to worsen but I had gotten a job to save up money to get back to Florida, I was willing to do anything to get out of Connecticut and back to the sunshine state. One day my mom, brother, and I packed up and headed to Florida. We gave my sister the option to stay but she said no.
Eventually my mom missed my sister and rather then divorce my dad which she promised she would do, she wanted a quick and easy fix to see her again, so she PAID my father and sister's plane tickets to come down and live with us. For years we lived in so many different motels I cant even count, until finally when I was 18 and got the job I have now I moved out on my own, while I was still in high school
I graduated and rather then go to college, I wanted to stay on my own so I went to work. I bought my car last year, and was promoted at my job. But with the car payment and insurance, money got extremely tight so I moved back home to save some money up, since my family is now staying in a decent place, and my dad's income is stable
But none of it has changed the arguments are as bad as they've ever been between all of us, we are not even a family anymore, it seems as if it's every man for them self. I dont know why but it dawned on me to move away again, but this time not in Orlando or even within Florida, I want to move FAR AWAY, Las Vegas to be exact.
One day it dawned on me that I would like to live there, Last week I took a trip to see what the city is like (off the strip) and I loved everything I saw and did. The scenery is so gorgeous, the locals are so friendly and down to earth, and there is a virtual endless amount of things to do, I knew the minute I got off the plane I was meant to be there, it was the first time in my life I was truly happy.
I had a job interview there at the Planet Hollywood Casino while I was there, it would be a full time position.
I find myself again desperately wanting to make a move to get away from my family, and Im willing to do whatever it takes to make it happen. I'm not trying to run away from ALL my problems in Florida, I just don't want anything to do with my family anymore. I can't stand the dysfunction and it is driving me crazy, I don't want anything to do with them
Sorry that was so long, but would you want to do the same thing if you're family was at all like mine?
DavieJ89,
What's happening in your family is not your fault and you can't fix it either, not right now anyway. I mean, you should not feel obligated to remain as a part of the family. You deserve to move on with your life.
Move away to Las Vega my dear, taking that job. Bravo to you to have *it* together despite all the dysfunction you have experienced in your young life.
I am waiting to hear back from a potential job right now, if I get it I can leave real soon, if not, Ill have to wait longer. Im praying I get the job real soon!
Qualified residents can get Board of Governor's tuition fee waiver in 2 year colleges. This is state level thing. Pell grant at federal level is available for 4 yeat college.
If the OP wants to go to college, I'd say say become a resident and in the mean time, find out what's the income requirement to get those fee waivers. Since the waiver/grant will depend on the previous's year income, play the game, ie. to reduce the income (timing is everything) to qualify or take the student loan to get started if not qualified for grant/waiver and stop working but don't use up all that student loan and try to become qualified for grant/waiver, working part-time.
Or once OP becomes a resident. Just get student loan and/or grant/waiver and go to college full time and work minimum for pocket money ro don't work.
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