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I am waiting till I have money or a job lined up first.
I could leave tonight if I wanted to, but I would not get a job in time before the money I have NOW would run out
I am waiting to hear back from a potential job right now, if I get it I can leave real soon, if not, Ill have to wait longer. Im praying I get the job real soon!
Lots of us are pulling for you - and I suspect many, as I, are praying for you as well. Please keep us informed!
So, you do not pay all your own bills. Look at how much rent and utilies would be if you got your own place because it seems like you don't really have an idea how much those things cost. But definetly do it if you can afford it!
OP can rent a room from a house till OP can afford to get own place. It is better to get away form the negative familyl environment.
Define toxic. Room and board for a pack of cigs? For a town that Obama is trashing?
One can run from problems for another $9 per job or use the current condition to better themselves for the long run. If he runs he'll likely be set for a lifetime of the same.
No, he is not. You are making him sound like he is running like a loser. Sometimes, there is no choice but to run from toxic people. If he is much older, may be he won't need to go away to another state but in his case, he should.
To be honest after reading some of your earlier threads I didn't have a very high opinion of you based on what you were saying but now I realize that you've been going through some very difficult situations that would be difficult for anyone and I would also like to add my voice of support. I think you need to get out of that destructive environment because it's causing you harm in ways that you might not even realize. The family situation sounds like it's never going to get better and things are likely going to go downhill for you the longer you're in the middle of it.
Here's my advice. Make the move but be extremely practical especially in terms of finances. Another person recommended that you should further your education and I think that's a good idea but if you're doing it on your own it won't be easy but it can be done. The sooner you make this happen the better off you're going to be but be prepared to really hustle and do everything you can to create a better life for yourself. I sincerely wish you good luck.
No, he is not. You are making him sound like he is running like a loser. Sometimes, there is no choice but to run from toxic people. If he is much older, may be he won't need to go away to another state but in his case, he should.
No; to me he sounds as if running for a new start in life. . . which is fine. But let's not kid him; $9/hr alone across country is going to be rough.
But my advice was that he'd be better off taking advantage of his current situation and better himself for the long term. At 20 his whole life is ahead of him and frankly, his day-to-day life isn't any worse than renting a room off strangers.
No; to me he sounds as if running for a new start in life. . . which is fine. But let's not kid him; $9/hr alone across country is going to be rough.
Where did he say that that's what he's going to get? That's his current rate in FL. That's what I remember anyway.
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But my advice was that he'd be better off taking advantage of his current situation and better himself for the long term.
If the OP can manage to do that, then fine but if the OP feels the need to be away from them, it'd be good to just go even if within the same state. Doors will open in the new place. One good thing about CA is that at the two year college level there is Board of Governor's tuiton fee waiver for eligible ones. Pell grant is another option but I don't know all the detail. It'd be good to work in an environment where OP can get paid under the table (tips or whatever) and use BOG and/or Pell Grant to go to school. One has to be evry discipline to egt teh education and also work. I think that OP should aim at getting education and work part-time. Sure, you do not need college degree to make it in life but trsut me that college degree will not be a waste if it is a useful one. I mean, don't expect to find a job with a BA in history or sociology.
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At 20 his whole life is ahead of him and frankly, his day-to-day life isn't any worse than renting a room off strangers.
Yes, definitly get away from your family. Don`t give them another dime. Your family will most likely never change. You are not running away from them just because you leave. You`re saving your own sanity. They are toxic and will only bring you down with them.
I'd get out and go, as soon as I could. You're young, seem to have thought this all through, so just go. As far as education, as someone mentioned there are schools in Nevada. You'd probably be best off working hard and talking to people in the business about what sort of degree or coursework you'd need for certain advancements (or even if it's necessary). Who knows, if you're smart and do good work, you might get yourself some financial assistance. If you're unhappy, there's no point in wasting your time while you have another more attractive option. Besides, you said that you'd like the new job better anyway.
OP-You have a good head on your shoulders. Go to Vegas!! You need it for your own sanity. Leave your toxic family behind. DO NOT bring anyone with you or return!!! I wish you lots of luck. Head to bartending school. It's probably about $400 for about 2 weeks (give or take) and then you'll make great money out there!! Also, why not look into firefighting???? Great career and you're young enough to get in there!! Keep up posted!
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