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I'm a 21 yo male that's having friendship issues with a good friend of mine (who is a female).
Recently, we got into argument, which started because I said that tobacco could be addicting when she said she was going to do hookah that night. And then she started getting angry and said that I was wrong, that I was "full of crap", rolled her eyes at me, and basically dared me to pick a fight with her (which I stayed silent to avoid making it worse).
Honestly, I though she overreacted because she felt it was a personal attack against her. She knows that I don't like when people smoke and assumed that because I didn't like smokers, they were "low". Of course, it could've been the beer talking as she did have a can before this issue started..
But out of all the times that we argued, this was the first time that I felt that she was using put downs toward me.
I felt more sad than angry and feel that she's at fault for going off the deep end when I was showing concern for my friend.
Knowing her, she's either too prideful to admit that she went ballistic over the simple statement or that she doesn't realize that she's the one who f-ed up. She is a close friend of 2.5 years and this is the first that she dealt, what I felt to be, an underhanded blow during our spats.
Thoughts on whether or not I should wait to confront her?
What issue or need for 'confrontation?' 'Friends' agree, disagree, seem ignorant one day or smart the next. They debate, they argue - I'm not so sure what it is you want to gain by 'confrontation' on one passing subject. If it comes up again, by all means, but to continue to beat a dead horse or go looking for a fight, on an old subject,seems like a ridiculous waste of energy and time.
If this was your girlfriend and it was encroaching on your lifestyle then you have a more grounded issue to take up.
I think you smoke pure tobacco in a hookah and it doesn't have all the crap that cigs have in them? Not sure...weird thing to fight over imo tho.
I'll have to think about switching over then
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