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Old 06-13-2007, 08:00 AM
 
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Sam I am
Well, you've left two incredible posts...thank you kindly...but, I'm going to be honest with you, and I've never said this before in the open, but if I were in the room with many men...I wouldn't think that way...I don't, and that's the honest truth...and I've heard the same words from other women besides your mother...and have always pondered..."hmmmm, is there something wrong with me". But I don't think about that...I'm curious by nature and love to absorb people's thoughts, opinions...even love a good dispute...as I suppose you could say, I'm so hungry for knowledge, especially human thoughts, emotions, desires.....their mental outlook on life...etc. and so, hence, those thoughts take priority over sexual ones???? For me anyway...so I guess I'm not in there with society...but I can live alone very easily...as society really scares me....

and....I have always been dedicated to any relationship I've been involved with throughout my life....except once, when I was very young. I lived, and learned and since then, own fidelity to self and to anyone I've been intmately involved with.
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Old 06-13-2007, 09:40 AM
 
Location: The Great State of Arkansas
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Sam I am
I've never said this before in the open, but if I were in the room with many men...I wouldn't think that way...I don't, and that's the honest truth...
Ah, my dear - you're missing the operative word - SOMEBODY. It may not be you, but the other party.

Men are very visual creatures. They are prone to flights of fancy in their minds. Males are males - ever see a peacock strutting his stuff to a hen? She couldn't care less - HE'S the one thinking about it....and they were friends up until that point, lol!

Occasionally you might find a female as sexually charged as the male, and certainly when we are younger - but for the most part it's just the way that chromosome makes the mind work....that's just a very unscientific and personal opinion.

I'd like to qualify - just because someone is thinking about it doesn't mean they are acting on it. However, I think it highly likely that two people of the opposite sex who are attracted to one another even out of friendship - yep, someone's at least had the thought go through their mind.
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Old 06-13-2007, 09:42 AM
 
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hmmmm sounds logical and very realistic Sam...thank you

walking away feeling normal
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Old 06-13-2007, 11:25 AM
 
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wow, incredible...you are
thanks so much for the input Sam...have a great day
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Old 06-13-2007, 11:42 AM
 
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many thanks Sam for some interesting feedback...
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Old 06-13-2007, 11:48 AM
 
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many thanks Sam for some interesting feedback...
Interesting?? Just my view from my VERY small window on the world. Have a great day.
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Old 06-15-2007, 10:48 AM
 
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cremebrulee - great post. When I studied American History I began to see where our obsession with individuality and the idea we can be perfect came from. I think about how it separates us--even our cliches/poetry place it on a pedestal. I wonder if we became perfect, would we have relationships? If I am perfectly satisfied would I change? Would I leave my home to seek out others? I'm guessing not. But being social animals, we need connection to others. I've talked to people that have isolated themselves for years and I wouldn't say they are balanced human beings.
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Old 06-15-2007, 11:07 AM
 
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Sam I Am--Definitely a keeper. Really says it all
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Old 06-15-2007, 11:09 AM
 
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Dancingearth

I haven't totally isolated myself from people...love the interaction with people to a point....but when people start thinking they know better then me, what is good and not good for me....I leave...that, to me, is clostrophobic and almost infuriates me...I suppose, b/c I've been trying to live up to the expectations of others for quit some time before I became independent. Felt like I was running around like a chicken without a head...pleasing everyone BUT me. and now...I'm not a hermit...or...a...hermitiss.... but indeed, I do love the tranquility of quiet times, soul searching, self examination and pleaseing me... Love traveling alone to....

Yes, it would be special to have someone in my life to share life with, but he'd have to be one very special man...traveling with someone isn't always easy, yanno?

I really really wish, schools would teach children early about confidence in themselves...that they don't have to be a couple to be successful...and it's ok, to be independent in thought, and not always go along with society. Society isn't always right....just look how long they managed to surpress women? Sheesh...
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Old 06-15-2007, 11:15 AM
 
Location: Journey's End
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I'm enjoying all the responses and would like to try to see if we can stay on the topic of friendship without the sexual vibe.

Perhaps because I worked in a field that encouraged comraderie, friendship in simple terms, I've been more fortunate than some to have had many male and female friends with whom I could share my interests. It wasn't always easy to keep romance out of all these relationships, but a coffee break at a neighbourhood cafe, or a beer up the road, always helped us sort out the liability of changing our relationship(s): D
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