The most perfect North Carolina town! (Charlotte: townhouse, high school, earthquake)

[NYer]

Originally Posted by a1m1700

Sometimes you can take the person out of new York but you can't take the New York out of the person. I think that's the problem with some of those folks. I was born and raised in NY lived there for 26 years of my life. I've lived in Phx for 18 years and let me tell you, the New Yorkers come here and complain too about how horrible Phx is and how great NY is. I say why are they here?? Go home. That irritates me, I know how you sotherners feel.

Well, in NY teh newcomers say the same thing about "home" but home is often a foreign country... so we get doubly mad. I don't understand why one would voluntarily leave a place then complain that the new place is different either.

[NYer]

Originally Posted by i'minformed

Not being here yet you probably wouldn't have realized this yet.... those are the majority of transplants.

My cousins have warned me.
I still think they have made really nice lives for themselves, in areas that are a mix of transplants & southerners.
Part of my hopefullness about our future lives is that I know we will not be going into a really ritzy place- we don't have $600 K like so many people do. We will be upgrading a lot but not into the BMW - driving areas.

[a1m1700]

I'minformed you've got to come on here when you move back to NY. We have to hear how you are doing. I think you are doing a very nice thing taking care of your parents. You will be blessed for that 100 fold.

Have you made any good friends in NC that you will miss?

[I'minformed2]

Thank you very much. I do have friends in NC that I will miss in fact. I hope I can remain in contact with them just I have stayed in contact with friends in NY. If there is one thing I can give credit to the high transplant population of this area, it's that in new neighborhoods especially, it's that there are A LOT of people looking for friends. Of course, they won't be like those lifelong friends that you've had since you were a kid, but it is definitely easy to meet people.

[a1m1700]

Yes that's what's great about everyone being new. We are still friends with a couple since HS. We both moved out of NY they went to Vegas us to Phx. He had a job transfer here in 1997 so we are together again. We live 40 minutes from them now so we try to get together on weekends. Other than that and the people you meet at work that's about it. Now we leave out friends again. Hopefully they will move with us. We are vacationing with them in August in Carolina Beach.

[NYer]

My biggest fear isn ot being able to make good friends. I hope to meet people trough the kids' school activities & in the neighborhood.
We are trying to sell our friends on vacationing in NC... hopefully we will get a house big enough for a guest bedroom, that would help things a lot.

[VickiR]

Hey NYer, I don't think you'll have a problem making friends anywhere you go. My parents are from the Bronx but I've lived in NC almost all my life. People that want to get along with others and want to have friends always do. You'll meet friends through your kids and in the neighborhood. I think its all about "attitude". Sure, some of your friends will be closer than others but thats true no matter where you live. Vicki

[a1m1700]

Where in the Bronx are they from??? Throgs Neck by any chance?? or Pelham Bay?

[Ms.Charlotte]

NYer,
My husband went down to our new house this weekend. He said a good number of of our neighbors are natives and they came over to welcome him. He told me they couldn't have been nicer and friendlier. My husband's a pretty nice guy himself!

[NYer]

Thanks for your kind posts a1m1700 & jersey mom! It's just that as we get closer I am getting upset over the friendships that will be strained & tested by this move, & by the little everyday interactions with people that I know that I will miss. Once we get the house sold then I hope to be able to look toward the future instead of being so misty!